Pattern Lists Flashcards
C Shaped and U shaped
You know you kind of look like Britney Spears (or Jessica Simpson)…or maybe it’s just your teeth. You have britney teeth. Well that’s what my ex-girlfriend said. I mean, she had a theory that girls who have teeth in a wide C-shape, like Britney Spears, are perceived as good girls, no matter how many guys they hook up with. You have the same kind of c-shaped teeth….yeah…just look at smiles on the cover girls on magazines. They have the same kind of teeth. Well, at least that’s what she said. She even got surgery done to her teeth because she had U-shaped teeth, like Christina Aguilera. She said U-shaped teeth are perceived as unfriendly, and that’s why Christina Aguilera has a bad girl reputation and Britney Spears doesn’t.
The Cube
“my friend taught me this fascinating visualization technique called the Cube. Are you intelligent? Are you intuitive. Do you have a good imagination? Imagine in a white room. Now picture a cube and describe it to me. What color is it; how big is it; can you see one side or multiple sides; can you see through it or is it solid? Let’s add a ladder. Where is the ladder; what is it made of; where is it in relation to the cube; does it reach the ceiling; is it sturdy? Now add a window and look out. Now picture a storm. What is the storm doing; is it coming inside the room, is it calm or violent? Now, back in the room, add a horse. Describe the horse. Where is the horse in the room; what’s its tempermant; can you approach the horse or are you timid? Now add a bed of flowers in the room. Describe it to me. Are there multiple types of flowers or one kind? Are there any weeeds or just beautiful flowers? Ok are you ready to find out what all of this means? (pause) It doesn’t mean anything! No, just kidding. The cube represents what you think of yourself. It’s your ego. (at this point depending on what size the cube is tell her something about herself and her ego) Depending on the color, describe what that color represents as her personality i.e. blue cool calm and collected or pink as bright and fun. The ladder represents your career, the window represents your view into the future and the storm is what is to come. The The horse and it’s proximity to the cube represents your male ideal. The flowers represents your friend group. Each object’s description reveals key details in their personality so go into detail about each one based on her. If there’s a negative, describe it in a positive light.
ESP
“Do you believe in ESP? Yes-”So do I! My mom’s side of the family is very in to ESP. Etc. Do you believe in ESP? (YES/No). I do too! When my mom was a little girl her family owned a small farm outside of the city where her dad, an english professor would take the family for outings to explore nature and for he himself to write poetry. He was an admirer of Henry David Thoreau and his part book, part memoir “Walden, or Life in the Woods which reflected upon a 2 year, 2 month, and 2 day stint in a self-made cabin on the Walden Pond in Massachusetts for self reflection and an attempt to return to the natural order of living. My grandfather was always an intuitive and spiritual man and believed in another person’s life-force and energy, much like I do. One day, my mother asked for my grandmother’s high school ring to wear on the farm. When they returned home the ring was gone. She cried and begged to return in order to find the ring but they could not find it. The next weekend, my grandfather went to the farm alone, walked into the woods, and stood by the stream, closed his eyes and envisioned the ring before him. He opened his eyes and there in the clear water was my grandmother’s ring. I recently had an experience of my own that you might not believe. Continue with Lakshmi’s story.
BJ
What is the most pleasurable indulgence in life? “sex”. Well you know that everything is about sex except sex? I find that the greatest pleasure, if you really analyze it is anticipation. What’s your favorite candy? “chocolate”. Do you ever save a piece of desert at home and throughout the day when you are at work, or doing errands, you visualize that piece of chocolate waiting for you when you get home? Throughout the day your mouth waters for it. When you get home you take that first bite and just tease yourself with it, not eating it all at once but just putting it in your mouth, licking it gently and tasting it and just enjoying it a little at a time. (lead in to discovery channel or piano performance)
Discovery Channel
Summary: 1. Feel a state of high arousal: feel a state of high arousal, feel that amazing rush all over. 2 it’s fascinating: FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point down) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON. 3 sense of safety; CERTAIN YOU’RE SAFE…YOU FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL
I saw the most interesting show in the Discovery Channel last night. They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Universal Studios and Disneyland. Wouldn’t that be an awesome way to make a living? They were talking about the elements that make up the ideal attraction and that there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction. First, when you experience the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH AROUSAL. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over. When you imagine how much fun it is to ride a roller coaster or any other kind of amusement park ride…it’s like as that ride is climbing up and up, you can feel your heart pounding with excitement, you feel you’re breathing faster and faster, sometimes you’re even gasping and panting you feel the blood rushing through every part of your body and as that excitement and tension is building and building, you reach the top of the ride and then as it crests, you just release in a flood of excitement, and sometimes you’re screaming you’re so turned on. And then they said that the next part of this ideal attraction is – it’s fascinating. You just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point down) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON again. And they said, finally the most important element is a sense of overall safety. That even though the attraction may look a little dangerous, you’re CERTAIN YOU’RE SAFE…YOU FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. Can you (squeeze her hand) feel_that_…is pretty close to the way it is?
Piano Performance
Almost nothing beats performing in front of a live audience. I used to have these piano recitals for high school and college and the most difficult ones were my senior recitals. So much work went into them in practicing and memorizing the music. On top of that, all my friends, family, and my parents friends, basically most of my small town in attendance. I would be waiting behind the stage and hear the crowd chattering but I knew I was as ready as I would ever be. I would step on stage, bow, walk to this beautiful, shapely concert grand piano that I couldn’t wait to GET MY HANDS ON on and sit down. As soon as I placed my hands on the keys I was home and all the NERVOUSNESS and ANTICIPATION TRANSFORMED into pure EXCITEMENT and CONNECTION with those listening. I could feel everyone’s energy shining INSIDE ME and this deep sense of connection to them, as if this instrument I was about to play was PHYSICALLY CONNECTED to them. It was such a powerful feeling that you know that feeling of excitement you get that sends tingles all the way down your spine and then transfers into your stomach as butterflies? I would feel that every time right before I would hit a note. And then I would play. Do you believe in life forces like energy and ESP? Well this very experience made me completely believe in it. At that moment, I felt ABSOLUTE EXCITEMENT like the moment you FALL IN LOVE…
Twin Brother - C1
Summary: Dancer, comedian; kiss, touch; lots of money, most amazing girl in the world
So you are at a party and the music’s loud, there are a lot of people, and you are distracted by the lights, the club music, and the excitement of the social atmosphere where you can just let yourself go. Suddenly you walk across the room because you are drawn to a set of twin guys (point to yourself with boths hands as to indicate yourself). These guys are completely identical in the way they look, dress, smell, and almost in the way they behave. The first guy is an incredible dancer. He takes you to the dance floor by grabbing your hand, leading you into the center of the crowd where you can focus nothing but the two of you dancing. His rhythm, confidence, eye contact, and moves are the best you’ve ever had. After the dance you walk over to his identical brother who has been watching and waiting for you takes your hand and leads you to a quieter part of the bar to talk. After spending some time with the other brother he starts to make you laugh at everything he says. You are laughing so hard your stomach begins to tire and you want him to stop but the laughter is so addicting you can’t stop because he is so funny. Which brother would you choose? Comedian. I had this girlfriend who would make me laugh, so hard…inside…I would fall to the floor sometimes in joy. Dancing. The way someone dances is how they are in the bedroom. Ok, so the first guy takes you back, grabs your waist, runs his fingers through your hair and kisses you better than anyone before. His kiss is electrifying, powerful, sensual, and amazing and you feel on top of the world. I’m talking butterflies in your stomach. The other brother grabs you and then…i don’t know, I had this roommate in college that told me beyond kissing, it’s all about the touch of one’s hands (lean over show her your palm and gently grab behind her neck) I don’t know but his theory was that it was not about the kiss but about the touch of one’s hand and the connection through touch. So the second brother touches you with his hands that is like no other. Which brother would you choose? Same scenario: The first twin had all the money in the world, could send you on a shopping trip anywhere in the world, could fly you both to an exotic beach where you would lay in the sand, eat at the finest restaurants, cruise on yachts with servants waiting on you hand and foot. The second twin could only support you comfortably but made you feel like the most important girl in the world. Which would you choose? Good because I don’t have a lot of money (laugh jokingly).
Animal Pattern
If you could Choose an animal based purely on looks, what would it be? Ok. Based on location? If you could be an animal for a year, what animal would you be? If you had to choose someone be with, what animal would they represent? If you were to choose someone to have sex with, what animal would they be similar to?
Boyfriend Pattern
“What’s the feeling of realizing when you’re really attracted to someone?” My friend _____has a roommate named _____ who has a boyfriend who she is falling for. She starts to notice things like the rhythm of her breathing, the beating of her heart, and even her changing body temperature from inside. She also starts to notice the small things about her boyfriend like the the cute idiosyncrasies about his personality which make him so appealing and the minor characteristics
New Direction
First ask about their passions in life and moments when they might have moments of discovery and they get profoundly curious (painting, listening to music, poetry, reading, meditating). “I think it is so exciting when you can feel yourself opening up for a new direction and you feel it inside, the new possibilities growing for your life. Something like _____ must be very enlightening.
Qualifying
“You’re pretty, but there are a lot of pretty girls out there. What is different about you?”
“do you want to hear the weirdest thing? When I first met you and got that first impression, I feel different than when I see you know. My first impression was neutral and I was in my own headspace. Now I see you….she says good?…say you’re adorable. Beauty is so common…it’s everywhere. What’s important is good energy, great outlook, great personality. It’s rare. You’ve got two out of three and that’s a good start.
Incredible Connection mixed with a little Falling in Love.
I recently just got out of a long relationship. I guess I’m not your average guy. I mean for me… I have to develop a mental relationship with someone before anything more will happen. I really have to “Connect” with someone first… I mean…. Have you ever been talking to someone and noticed that everything around you seemed to fade away? … And as you listened more and more you began to focus more and more of your attention on him. Do you remember how that felt to truly start becoming attracted to someone? Maybe you remember feeling “butterflies” in your stomach? To become attracted to someone…. not only because of their physical appearance… but because of who they are… because as you listened to them, their true attitudes and beliefs became apparent to you. As you listened to what they had to say… you suddenly realized that this guy was truly unique. Finally, you had found your “MAN”. Do you remember the last time this happened? Maybe, you felt a little scared or nervous at first because you were feeling such an incredible connection. Or maybe… you began to think about “What might happen in the near future?” How your heart would speed up as he began to move closer to you… How you would feel such an Amazing RUSH of energy as he held you tight in his arms… or how it would feel to have his lips Pressed against yours for the first time. Maybe the little girl inside you dreams about meeting a man like this at night… Maybe you think about what steps you would need to take to Hold On to this guy once you finally meet him? I mean… maybe it seems like I have gone off on a tangent here… but that is how I feel.
Imagine the Future
Did you ever…. Instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time? (SELF-POINT).
3Like maybe even though you only knew them for a short while. . It seemed like you had known them your whole life, as if there were this timeless connection between you and them (point from her to you). I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all barriers just drop away and melt and you just feel totally comfortable and at ease with them (SELF-POINT). And its like maybe you were even able to (And you might find that you are able to) imagine a time in the future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (SELF-POINT) and looking back on today as having been the start of it? I just think that’s the neatest thing when a person can… go inside and… instantly recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that… lets that connection take place with someone (point)… with me,,, it usually takes a bit longer. But when you really FEEL A CONNECTION WITH SOMEONE. You know that mysterious, timeless link that just makes you feel like you’ve known someone forever… like you were meant to know them… .and it’s like YOU’RE LOOKING RIGHT AT YOUR FUTURE… like YOUR FUTURE IS RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU… when you FEEL THAT… it all starts out as an actual physical click… a tug that takes place right… (raise your hand over your head, point your index finger, and then SLOWLY bring it down straight down the middle of her face, without touching her until you get to her solar plexus, just below her breasts)..THERE! (touch her solar plexus) Can you FEEL THAT(squeeze her hand with your free hand) is maybe how that can happen… NOW… WITH ME… I just find that’s such a great feeling… isn’t it? I think it’s so funny how some people can just do that and let it happen instantaneously (SNAP) because for me it takes longer. But I do find that during the course of an evening (a conversation), as you really listen to someone (POINT), and you start to recognize those values and qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself WITH ME that’s when you can make that connection and really feel that growing bond. But what I find really interesting is… what can happen is when you FEEL THAT CONNECTION, that warm, safe and comfortable feeling right there, then what can sometimes happen is a picture of this new person your connecting with will sneak itself right into that special location in YOUR MINE where one keeps a person they care deeply for, and that’s how you know you’re already starting to fall for this person. And sometimes during the course of the evening or maybe even during a simple conversation like this one you’ll look up at that picture and as you continue to feel that attraction growing, its like that picture gets bigger and brighter. And that’s how you know you really just want to be with this person and you’re really READY to be swept off your feet. NOW the funny thing is, when you have that kind of connection with a new person (SELF-POINT), maybe as you’re snuggling in the sheets about to fall asleep, again (POP) up comes that picture of this person in that special special place and also maybe at some time during the day like when you’re stepping into the shower or you hear the sound of running water again it reminds you to see that picture so clearly in your mine.
Traveling Woman Dream Pattern
Summary: Reoccurring dream, house not a home, Bali pictures, woman walks in, almost kiss
Do you ever have a recurring dream? A dream that’s so powerful it KEEPS COMING UP? I have this recurring dream that’s so vivid in detail and so deep with emotion that I can truly see it, NAME. It’s about this amazing woman. I’m looking for a home, not a house, but a home. A house is a place of shelter, practical but only temporary. A home on the other hand is a place where you stop and it says YOU BELONG HERE (self point), this is where YOU WANT TO STAY (point). You never want to leave because here is where YOU MUST BE. So I’m walking along the countryside enjoying the beautiful landscape of these tall, majestic redwood trees and I come upon a cottage that has a for lease sign and a number on the window. I know I shouldn’t go in because there’s no one home but it’s so inviting I just have to go in. BUT HAVE YOU EVER FELT SOMETHING WAS SO INVITING, THAT FEELS SO IRRESISTIBLE, YOU HAD TO HAVE IT AND YOU COULDN’T WAIT FOR PERMISSION? YOU JUST WENT FOR IT? Very clearly, it’s a woman’s place, the imprint of her personality and creativity is all over this place. Even HER IMPRINT IS ON THE WALLS AND YOU CAN SEE THIS FEMININE ENERGY RADIATING FROM THESE WALLS. You can see that she is a photographer because she has photographs all over her walls and there’s a book on the coffee table full of pictures of Bali. I don’t know how well you can imagine but the pictures are of this crystal white sand. As I’m looking at it, I’m actually starting to fantasize of feeling the sand between my feet and looking out on this deep blue sky and the soft warm breeze hitting my face. IT’S JUST SO TEMPTING TO FORGET ABOUT EVERYTHING, EVEN YOURSELF. THE SUN HITS MY SKIN AND I BECOME FLUSH. Clearly you can see this is a person with great passion for their career and a great passion for their life of something they really love to do. I’m looking around and she walk in. She’s towing a little roller bag that you use to go on a quick trip. And rather than being angry, upset, shocked or scared that I’m there, she says “oh, hello can I help you?” I say oh, I know I shouldn’t have come in and I didn’t ask for an appointment but IT JUST LOOKS SO INVITING I HAD TO COME IN. And rather than getting mad at me she said “well I tell you what, why don’t I fix you a cup of coffee, I don’t have a lot of time but I can show you around. So as I drink the coffee I continue looking around and see that she is really passionate and talented at her work. We start talking and both look down the hall at one of the pictures of Bali. Suddenly, we stop talking, and you can feel that excitement. You know that SPECIAL GROWING TENSION. Just before that soft electric brush of the lips and you know SOMETHING BIG IS ABOUT TO GO DOWN HERE. And she brushes up against me and I brush against her and we can feel each other’s heat coming from each other’s body. We pull away from each other before something gets started before YOU HAVE TO GO THROUGH WITH THIS. And she says, I tell you what, I have to get to the airport but here’s my number. Take all the time that you want, make yourself at home and when you’re ready give me a call. . When I wake up I think to myself, Wow, that is an incredible energy. How attractive, rather than being thrown by the unexpected she’s fine with it. Not only is she not upset by me being there, even though she’s in a hurry, and I don’t belong there, she wants to make me feel comfortable. She has the presence of mind to make me feel comfortable. She doesn’t think it’s a bad thing to make a man feel comfortable, she does it naturally. And then also she has a passion for life and she’s doing something she really loves, something she enjoys doing. I remember waking up from the dream and thinking if I ever meet that woman and that energy, that’s a woman that I’m really going to love.
Perfect phone message after 1st date.
“Hey Debbie…it’s NAME…I don’t know where you’ll be when you get this message…or what you’ll be going when you get it (implies she’s going something but she’s listening to the message and she’s taking the time for you)…but I do know that maybe you can remember the fun we had meeting (embedded command and is vague)…and want to talk again. I’m at 555-555. Why don’t you give me a call…see if you can catch me.”
