Part 2: Ways to Make People Like You Flashcards
How to make friends and let people like you?
Principle 1: Become genuinely interested in other people
You can make more friends in 2 months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years trying to get people interested in you.
We like people whom admire us.
“We are interested in others when they are interested in us” – Publilius Syrus
Greet people with animation and enthusiasm.
Say Hello to people in a way that shows you are pleased to talk with them.
What is a simple way to make a good impression?
Principle 2: Smile
Actions speak louder than words. A smile says “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you”
Smile, don’t give an insincere grin. Insincere grins are mechanical and resented. Give real, heartwarming smiles that uplift the room.
Smile even when on the phone. Your smile will come through the phone through your voice.
You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you.
If you don’t feel like smiling, force yourself to smile. Act as if you were already happy, and that will tend to actually make you happy. Psychologist William James – “Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together…. Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness… is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness was already there…”
Your mental attitude determines your happiness. “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so” – Shakespeare
To someone who has seen a dozen people scowl, frown, or turn away their faces, your smile will be like the sun breaking through the clouds.
What is the sweetest and most important sound for any person?
Principle 3: A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
People value their name or whatever nickname it is that they go by.
Remember people’s names. Make an effort to remember their names the first try. Don’t even spell the name wrong if you can.
What is an easy way to become a good conversationalist?
Principle 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
If you want to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that people will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.
How to interest people?
Principle 5: Talk in terms of the other person’s interests
The royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about things he or she treasures most.
Try and focus on what that person is interested in and talk about it. Franklin Roosevelt, before having a visitor in his office, used to study topics he knew his guest would be interested in discussing before they came over.
How to make people like you instantly?
Principle 6: Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
Always make the other person feel important
“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you”. If you want to be appreciated, feel important, worthwhile, give that feeling to others first.
