Opening Flashcards
The Put on purpose
1) To create Fractionation, which is running her through different emotions. You go from tension and curiosity to humor. This shows you know how to create and release tension. And thus, it begins to educate her mind that you have what she needs to fulfill her deeply
2) creates tension, uncertainty and curiosity in the woman.
Examples of put ons
1) INNOCUOUS: say something innocuous like, “nice shoes” or, “what time is it?”
2) PUT ON QUESTION- “if you saw someone shoplifting right here, right now, would you report them? (This creates curiosity and tension because she’s wondering if I’m accusing her, if I’m doing it,or if someone by us is)
3) HUMOR/ TENSION BREAK- “because yo stole my heart”. Whenever you create tension and curiosity or confusion, she’ll laugh
4) ACKNOWLEDGE its corny: “this is maybe the stupidest thing I’ve said to someone I may like in a long time.”
5) MEET: “I’m glad you laughed because I wanted to meet the person wrapped in all of that pretty”
Implied compliments
Basically, this is something where we imply (heavily) the compliment, but aren’t direct. So, she has to put it together herself, therefore, she’s less likely to resist it.
Implied compliment formula/example
“It’s just that I really admire women with X and Y, so I had to come say hi and see if you’re friendly or terrible” x and Y are qualities i admire
“It’s just that I really admire women with grace and style, so I had to come say hi and see if you’re cool or a monster”
It’s just that and I had to come say hi, imply that you couldn’t help yourself . This is flattering to a woman
The comment/question/observation/SOI opener
Excuse me, do you do yoga or dance? You carry yourself with discipline and elegance. It’s a very rare and attractive trait.”
Never fail fallback line
If I can’t think of what to say, I can say: “I noticed you here and realized that if I didn’t say something, I’d never get to meet you.” Or “I’d never get to find out what you’re like.” My name is Dan
With this, you’re being honest, direct and vulnerable (we know how important that is). There’s nothing objectionable or that she can disagree with. You’re just being real. It’s a statement full of inarguable truism
2 sets
“What would you guys be doing if you didn’t have to be here studying?”or “shopping” then use their response to make convo
You can even use this for a solo girl whose studying or reading. It’s like a coffee shop opener
