Narcissist's Schemas Flashcards
Emotional Derivation
Not need others. Perfection, success, autonomy. Competitiveness
Mistrust / Abuse
Avoids intimacy. Doesn’t trust others.
Defectiveness / Shame
Avoids these feelings by engaging in self-soothing activities.
Subjugation
Controlling
Unrelenting Standards
Sacrifice pleasure to do things perfectly, relentlessly. Restless out of performance mode.
Entitlement / Grandiosity
Hallmark schema. Rules don’t apply to her/him. Feels special when treated differently to other people. Grandiose dreams and a sense of supreme self-importance.
Cover-up for defectiveness
Insufficient Self-Control
Refused to accept limits. Little tolerance for discomfort. Wants what she / he wants and can or tolerate waiting or being refused.
Approval-Seeking
Constant search for recognition, success, attention to others.
Fashion, beauty, competitiveness. Thinks everyone else is insanely jealous of them. They are insanely jealous of everyone else.
Compensation for loneliness and sense of defectiveness.