Narcissist's Schemas

Question 1

Emotional Derivation

Answer 1

Not need others. Perfection, success, autonomy. Competitiveness

Question 2

Mistrust / Abuse

Answer 2

Avoids intimacy. Doesn’t trust others.

Question 3

Defectiveness / Shame

Answer 3

Avoids these feelings by engaging in self-soothing activities.

Question 4

Subjugation

Answer 4

Controlling

Question 5

Unrelenting Standards

Answer 5

Sacrifice pleasure to do things perfectly, relentlessly. Restless out of performance mode.

Question 6

Entitlement / Grandiosity

Answer 6

Hallmark schema. Rules don’t apply to her/him. Feels special when treated differently to other people. Grandiose dreams and a sense of supreme self-importance.

Cover-up for defectiveness

Question 7

Insufficient Self-Control

Answer 7

Refused to accept limits. Little tolerance for discomfort. Wants what she / he wants and can or tolerate waiting or being refused.

Question 8

Approval-Seeking

Answer 8

Constant search for recognition, success, attention to others.

Fashion, beauty, competitiveness. Thinks everyone else is insanely jealous of them. They are insanely jealous of everyone else.

Compensation for loneliness and sense of defectiveness.