Common Masks Flashcards
Show-Off
Hungers for adoration and envy of others.
Sense on invalidity and undesirability but met not be aware of it.
Reflection in applause. No other interest in you
Ignore obvious solicitations.
Offer positive feedback for the simple and ordinary niceties of the interaction.
Not- you are amazing.
Focus on thoughtful, unadorned kindnesses instead of gloomy images and actions she presents for admiration.
Say good luck with it rather than talking her up as to how amazing she is.
The Bully
Rigid mistrust of people and their motives.
Fearful others will control, make a fool or take advantage of him.
He must endure you feel weak, powerless and even stupid.
Look the bully on the eye and tell him how his words and actions make you feel.
Do not give-in, apologise, counterattack, or run away or cry.
The Entitled One
Make yo own set of rules and do what she wants.
No give and take. No ‘no’ and no remorse for pushy demands.
Place boundaries when they step over the line about how it makes you feel.
Eg embarrassing you by being rude to waitress.
Addictive Self-Soother
Workaholic, drugs, porn, internet surfing, drinking binges, marathons. Delivers tirades in efforts to avoid feeling aloneness and fragility.
Expected to pander to his selective emotional departures and not request his presence, regardless of emotional costs to you.
He’s detached.
Your supposed ignorance of his career
Validate that he’s busy but you miss him and want a compromise. Don’t apologise or toss in the towel.
