Module 3- Arguers as Lovers and Chpt 2 Flashcards
What does it mean “arguers must be located”?
Figuring out their motivation-power or truth?
What are the three stances in Arguers or Lovers?
Rape, Seduction, Lover
What did Wayne Brockreide write?
“Arugers as Lovers”, Metaphorically paper about argumentative stances. Rape, Seduce, Lover. (Bully, Manipulator, Team Player).
What stance takes power for themselves through force?
Rape
What metaphoric stance uses punishments and commands?
Rape
What is another name for the Rape stance?
Bully
What can we do to respond to a Rape person in an argument?
Submit or fight back
How did Wayne Brockreide label a manipulator?
Seducer
How does someone use seduction in an argument?
Lies, deceives, charms, tricksd
How can we respond to a manipulator?
Submit or trick back.
What is a Lover known as?
Team player
How does Lover interact?
Works together to solve problem. Willing to risk not be right, treats others as equals
Which stances have victims?
Unilateral communication –Rape, seduce. Lover has NO victim.
Does a Lover or Team Player have a victim?
No.
Communication in one direction
Unilateral communication
A Lover has what type of communication?
Bilateral communication
How do rapist and seducers communicate
Unilateral. With power and force.
Someone who is unable or unwilling to communicate
Inanimate object
Out of control emotionally
illogical
Someone with no principles or no rules
immoral
What are three types of people you can’t have an argument with?
Inanimate object (unwilling or unable)
Illogical
Immoral
What are the 5 elements of conflict?
1.Expressed struggle
2. Interdependent parties
3. incompatible goals (perceived)
4. scarce resources (perceived)
5. Interference achieving goals
What is a resource in conflict?
Any positive physical, social, or economical consequence
What forms can one express a struggle in?
Verbal
Non verbal
Direct
Subtle
What is the lens model?
How we view our:
Behaviors
Self and other party
The relationship
What is motivated by superiority?
Seduction
What stance is motivated by power?
Rape
What stance is motivated by truth from both sides?
Lover
What are Brockreide’s 4 conclusions from Arguers and Lovers?
1.The three stances don’t stand alone or are also not all inclusive.
2.Philosphers and scientist are lovers. Advertisers and Politicians are seducers and rapists
3.All 3 stances may be used to get to the truth; power, manipulation or team work.
4. Argument is important and necessary to growth.
Name the three main types of family environments.
Aggressive
Collaborative
Avoidant
Name a positive metaphor of conflict.
Conflict is like a garden.
What are filters in the lens model?
How we see ourselves and others
