Module 3- Arguers as Lovers and Chpt 2

Question 1

What does it mean “arguers must be located”?

Answer 1

Figuring out their motivation-power or truth?

Question 2

What are the three stances in Arguers or Lovers?

Answer 2

Rape, Seduction, Lover

Question 3

What did Wayne Brockreide write?

Answer 3

“Arugers as Lovers”, Metaphorically paper about argumentative stances. Rape, Seduce, Lover. (Bully, Manipulator, Team Player).

Question 4

What stance takes power for themselves through force?

Answer 4

Rape

Question 5

What metaphoric stance uses punishments and commands?

Answer 5

Rape

Question 6

What is another name for the Rape stance?

Answer 6

Bully

Question 7

What can we do to respond to a Rape person in an argument?

Answer 7

Submit or fight back

Question 8

How did Wayne Brockreide label a manipulator?

Answer 8

Seducer

Question 9

How does someone use seduction in an argument?

Answer 9

Lies, deceives, charms, tricksd

Question 10

How can we respond to a manipulator?

Answer 10

Submit or trick back.

Question 11

What is a Lover known as?

Answer 11

Team player

Question 12

How does Lover interact?

Answer 12

Works together to solve problem. Willing to risk not be right, treats others as equals

Question 13

Which stances have victims?

Answer 13

Unilateral communication –Rape, seduce. Lover has NO victim.

Question 14

Does a Lover or Team Player have a victim?

Answer 14

No.

Question 15

Communication in one direction

Answer 15

Unilateral communication

Question 16

A Lover has what type of communication?

Answer 16

Bilateral communication

Question 17

How do rapist and seducers communicate

Answer 17

Unilateral. With power and force.

Question 18

Someone who is unable or unwilling to communicate

Answer 18

Inanimate object

Question 19

Out of control emotionally

Answer 19

illogical

Question 20

Someone with no principles or no rules

Answer 20

immoral

Question 21

What are three types of people you can’t have an argument with?

Answer 21

Inanimate object (unwilling or unable)
Illogical
Immoral

Question 22

What are the 5 elements of conflict?

Answer 22

1.Expressed struggle
2. Interdependent parties
3. incompatible goals (perceived)
4. scarce resources (perceived)
5. Interference achieving goals

Question 23

What is a resource in conflict?

Answer 23

Any positive physical, social, or economical consequence

Question 24

What forms can one express a struggle in?

Answer 24

Verbal
Non verbal
Direct
Subtle

Question 25

What is the lens model?

Answer 25

How we view our:
Behaviors
Self and other party
The relationship

Question 26

What is motivated by superiority?

Answer 26

Seduction

Question 27

What stance is motivated by power?

Answer 27

Rape

Question 28

What stance is motivated by truth from both sides?

Answer 28

Lover

Question 29

What are Brockreide’s 4 conclusions from Arguers and Lovers?

Answer 29

1.The three stances don’t stand alone or are also not all inclusive.
2.Philosphers and scientist are lovers. Advertisers and Politicians are seducers and rapists
3.All 3 stances may be used to get to the truth; power, manipulation or team work.
4. Argument is important and necessary to growth.

Question 30

Name the three main types of family environments.

Answer 30

Aggressive
Collaborative
Avoidant

Question 31

Name a positive metaphor of conflict.

Answer 31

Conflict is like a garden.

Question 32

What are filters in the lens model?

Answer 32

How we see ourselves and others