Mindset Flashcards
Think about your hero.
Do you think of this person as someone with extraordinary abilities who achieved with little effort? Now go find out the truth. Find out the tremendous effort that went into their accomplishment—and admire them more.
Think of times other people outdid you and you just assumed they were smarter or more talented.
Now consider the idea that they just used better strategies, taught themselves more, practiced harder, and worked their way through obstacles. You can do that, too, if you want to.
Are there situations where you get stupid—where you disengage your intelligence?
Next time you’re in one of those situations, get“yourself into a growth mindset—think about learning and improvement, not judgment—and hook it back up.
More than half of our society belongs to a negatively stereotyped group.
First you have all the women, and then you have all the other groups who are not supposed to be good at something or other. Give them the gift of the growth mindset. Create an environment that teaches the growth mindset to the adults and children in your life, especially the ones who are targets of negative stereotypes. Even when the negative label comes along, they’ll remain in charge of their learning.”
Mindsets frame the running account that’s taking place in people’s heads
They guide the whole interpretation process. The fixed mindset creates an internal monologue that is focused on judging: “This means I’m a loser.” “This means I’m a better person than they are.” “This means I’m a bad husband.” “This means my partner is selfish.”
People with a growth mindset are also constantly monitoring what’s going on, but their internal monologue is not about judging themselves and others in this way. Certainly they’re sensitive to positive and negative information, but they’re“attuned to its implications for learning and constructive action: What can I learn from this? How can I improve? How can I help my partner do this better?”
Even worse, since I was taking more risks, I might look back over the day and see all the mistakes and setbacks
And feel miserable.
What’s more, it’s not as though the fixed mindset wants to leave gracefully. If the fixed mindset has been controlling your internal monologue, it can say some pretty strong things to you when it sees those counters at zero: “You’re nothing.”
Every day people plan to do difficult things, but they don’t do them
They think, “I’ll do it tomorrow,” and they swear to themselves that they’ll follow through the next day.
Vowing, even Intense Vowing–
is often useless. The next day comes and the next day goes.
What works is making a vivid, concrete plan: “Tomorrow during my break, I’ll get a cup of tea, close the door to my office, and call the graduate school.” Or, in another case: “On Wednesday morning, right after I get up and brush my teeth, I’ll sit at my desk and start writing my report.”
Think of something you need to do, something you want to learn, or a problem you have to confront. What is it?
Now Make a Concrete Plan to Achieve it.
When will you follow through on your plan? Where will you do it? How will you do it? Think about it in vivid detail.
These concrete plans—plans you can visualize—about when, where, and how you are going to do something lead to really high levels of follow-through, which, of course, ups the chances of success.
So the idea is not only to make a growth-mindset plan, but also to visualize, in a concrete way how you’re going to carry it out
Critical to Make a Concrete, Growth Oriented Plan
And stick to it no matter what. be stubborn in clinging to it.
The worse they felt, the more they did the constructive thing. The less they felt like it, the more they made themselves do it.
The ones with the fixed-mindset thought: “If I have ability, I’ll do well; if I don’t, I won’t.”
As a result, they didn’t use sophisticated strategies to help themselves. They just studied in an earnest but superficial way and hoped for the best.
people in a growth mindset don’t merely make New Year’s resolutions and wait to see if they stick to them.
They understand that to diet, they need to plan. They may need to keep desserts out of the house. Or think in advance about what to order in restaurants. Or schedule a once-a-week splurge. Or consider exercising more.
They think actively about maintenance. What habits must they develop to continue the gains they’ve achieved?”
“Then there are the setbacks. They know that setbacks will happen.
So instead of beating themselves up, they ask: “What can I learn from this? What will I do next time when I’m in this situation?” It’s a learning process—not a battle between the bad you and the good you.”
When people drop the good–bad, strong–weak thinking that grows out of the fixed mindset
they’re better able to learn useful strategies that help with self-control. Every lapse doesn’t spell doom. It’s like anything else in the growth mindset. It’s a reminder that you’re an unfinished human being and a clue to how to do it better next time.”
“It’s amazing—once a problem improves,
people often stop doing what caused it to improve. Once you feel better, you stop taking your medicine.
But change doesn’t work that way. When you’ve lost weight, the issue doesn’t go away.
When Peoplechange to a growth mindset, they change from a judge-and-be-judged framework
to a learn-and-help-learn framework. Their commitment is to growth, and growth takes plenty of time, effort, and mutual support.”