midterm 2- debeaked Flashcards
Forced teaming.
“We in the same boat attitude”
Intentional and directed- not consequence
Projected shared purpose or experience when none exist
Make a clear refusal to accept the concept of partnership
“I did not ask for your help and i do not want it”
charm and niceness
Has motive
Niceness does not equal goodness
Nicest- decision, strategy of social interaction not a character trait.
Unsolicited niceness has discoverable motivee
Strategies against- explicitly rebuff unwanted approaches
too many details
Lose sight of what is actually happening, man is a stranger
lose sight of context
typecasting
A man labels a woman in a critical way, makes the women feel the need to prove him wrong
“You’re probably too snobbish to talk to a guy like me”- urge to than talk to him
“ there is a thing of being too proud you know” - resitited the label allowing the man to help her
Slight insult, want to prove wrong
loan sharking
Place in dept- Owe someone something, harder for you to than say no
Usually have a motive
unsolicited promise
They try to convince you of something, notice that you are hesitant about trusting you
Sign of questionable motive
Ask yourself- why are they trying to convince me ( they can tell you have doubt- messenger of intuition- and are trying to convince you
discounting the word no
Person who chooses to ignore your no is trying to control you
greatest intuition signal
Fear
Apprehension
Suspicion
Hesitation
Doubt
Gut feelings
Hunches
Curiosity
Nagging feelings, persistent doubts, physical sensation, wonder, anxiety
Humor
dark humour
common way to communicate true concern without feeling silly or showing fear
The idea comes into conscious for a reason, intuition picks up on information you dont notice
context over content
” make noise to distract you from the real issue
be honest with yourself
- context- they bothered you first, not obligated to talk to them
- conditioned to be nice
why should you listen to your intuition
- do not brush it off- determination to make sense of it
- pay attention, usually you ignore these signs of feeling uneasy initially, than once you think about it question your action
-would you have acted on your own prediction if it was you
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importance of believe and denial and honor intuition
- recognize when in the presence of real danger
-denial
get out of denial in order to take actions to reduce your worry
intuition
- permission to listen to yourself
- danger signal will sound when it should and you should act on it
- gut feeling
what to do when victim of threats
- ask who is capable of sending these threats
- what could their motives be
- what are warning signs, can be predicted
how to predict violent behaviours
seek control
- find common ground, something you share with the person- helps you view the situation the way they do
- behaviour result of constant decision making
- must see situation from both views and perspectives
- each step preceded by the step before it
- can intend to do something without reason
rule of opposites and prediction errors
rule of opposites
- evaluated favourable and unfavourable behaviour
- recognize context by behaviour
prediction errors
- belief that others perceive things as we do
- we must see situation our way AND offenders way
- bring into focus because of the different views
