love and loving in a relationship Flashcards
love
deep abiding feelings that grow over time including qualities of friendship
-prioritization
-caring and sacrifices
-sexual desire (sometimes)
lust
sexual desire and arousal
triangular theory of love (Sternburg): intimacy
liking
romantic (passion) companitionate (decisions and commitment)
triangular theory of love (Sternburg): passion
infatuation
fatuous(decision and commitment)
romantic (intimacy)
triangular theory of love (Sternburg): decision/commitment
empty
compassionate (intimacy)
fatuous (passion)
lees color of love: eros
romantic
passionate
primary
lees color of love: agape
selfless love
mix of eros and storage
lees color of love: storage
friendship love
primary
lees color of love: pragma
shopping list of love
mix of storage and ludus
lees color of love: ludus
game playing love
primary
lees color of love: mania
possessive dependent love
mix of ludus and eros
current conceptualization: passionate
short term
sexual desire and preoccupation
short lived
idealized partner
current conceptualization: compassionate
long term
sexual and emotional intimacy
permanence/commitment
realistic view of partner
your brain on love
neurotransmitters released by the nervous system
-certain parts of the brain being activated
your brain on love: rejected in love
unrequited
nucleus acumbens
-craving which is also activated when addicted to cocaine
your brain on love: remaining in love
companion
ventral tegmental
raphe nucleus (system for calm)
ventral pallidum (pair bonding and reproduction)
5 love languages
words of affirmation
quality time
receiving gifts
acts of service
physical touch
mismatching and speaking the love language of the other person
people can be happy in relationships that do not have the same love language
