LIFE TRANSITIONS 1

Question 1

What is a transition? How can they be described?

Answer 1

A change or passing from one condition to another.

Can be good or bad, planned or unplanned, anticipated or unanticipated.

Question 2

What are the 4 types of transitions?

Answer 2

1)Personal Transitions: Changes happening that only effect you.

2) Family Transitions: Changes in family dynamic and structure.

3) Career Transitions: Anything that relates/leads to careers/jobs

4) Community Transitions: Move from one place in the community to another. Ex: Going from being a teammate to a coach or going from being a student at a school to a volunteer at that school.

Question 3

What is a role? What are some examples of my roles?

Answer 3

Role: a set of expectations of how a person should behave or act in certain situations.

My roles: student, daughter, sister, teammate, employee, friend, cousin, etc

Question 4

Describe the 2 types of roles?

Answer 4

1) Position role: a role that defines your place within a family or society.
Ex: daughter, teacher, student, neighbour, president, mayor

2) Behaviour role: How specifically you’ll act within your position.
Ex: daughter-> obedient and helps with chores around the house.

Question 5

How are roles and expectations formed?

Answer 5

1) Observation: we learn our roles through observation, for example we mimic what we saw our parents do.

2) Explanation: “this is what we have to do”

3) Feedback: Know if what you’re doing is good or bad.

Question 6

What is self concept?

Answer 6

Self concept: how we see and evaluate ourselves. To be aware of oneself is to have a concept of oneself. It’s a mental idea of who you think you are.

It’s a general term that is used to refer to how one thinks about or perceives themselves.

Question 7

What are the three main components of self concept?

Answer 7

Self Image: How we see ourselves.

Self Esteem: How we feel/think about ourselves.

Ideal Self: The person we would like to be.

Question 8

What is self Image?

Answer 8

Self image is what you see in yourself; the view you have of yourself. It doesn’t necessarily have to reflect reality. A person’s self image is affected by many factors.

Question 9

Twenty Statements Test?

Answer 9

Kuhn (1960) did research about self image. He devised a test called the twenty statements test. In this test, he asked people to answer the question “who am I?” In 20 different ways. What he found was that people’s responses could be divided into two main groups.

Question 10

Twenty Statements Test 2 main responses?

Answer 10

1) Social Roles: external or objective aspects of oneself such as son, teacher, friend.

2) Personality Traits: internal or affective aspects of oneself such as impatient, humorous, outgoing.

Question 11

Other 4 types of responses to the test?

Answer 11

1) Physical description: tall, brown eyes
2) Social roles: daughter, student
3) Personality Traits: kind, caring, outgoing
4) Existential Statements: I’m a human, I’m a spiritual being, I’m an equal being. It’s basically a broad statement of how you fit into the world.

Question 12

What is self esteem?

Answer 12

Self esteem refers to the extent to which we like, accept, or approve of ourselves; how much we value or love ourselves.

Self esteem involves a certain amount of evaluation.

We may either have a positive or negative view of ourselves.

Question 13

What happens when you have a high self esteem?

Answer 13

When one has a high self esteem it means he or she has a positive view of themselves. This leads to:
-Confidence in our own abilities
-Acceptance of ourselves
-Not worried about what others think
-optimistic

Question 14

What happens when you have low self esteem?

Answer 14

When one has low self-esteem it means she or he has a negative view of themselves. This tends to lead to:
-A lack of confidence in one’s abilities
-want to look or be like others
-Worried about what others think
-Pessimistic

Question 15

What are the 4 main factors that influence our self esteem?

Answer 15

1) How other’s react: if people admire, flatter, seek us out, and if they praise we feel good about ourselves and this leads to a higher self esteem.

2) Compare ourselves to others: If people we compare ourselves with appear to be more successful, richer, happier, better looking than ourselves, leads to a lower negative self esteem.

3) Social Roles: Some social roles carry prestige. Being a stay at home dad have a negative stigma, same with being unemployed. On the other hand, doctors, pilots, CEO’s have a positive stigma attached to them.

4)Identification: roles also become part of our personality. We tend to identify with the positions we occupy.

Question 16

Ideal Self?

Answer 16

Our Ideal self is who we would like to be. If there is a mismatch between how you see yourself and what you’d like to be, this will likely effect how much you value yourself.

Question 17

Ideal self congruence and incongruence?

Answer 17

A person’s ideal self might not be consistent with what really happens in a person’s life. This is called incongruence.

If a person’s ideal self and actual self are very similar a state of congruence exists and it’s easier for the person to be their ‘best person’.

All people should expect at least a small amount of incongruence; it is unlikely that a total state of congruence will exist.

Question 18

What happens when we think highly of ourself?

Answer 18

When we think highly of ourselves we behave in ways that demonstrate confidence.

When we are confident, we are highly motivated.

When we are easily motivated, we usually meet with success in whatever tasks we undertake.

When we succeed we receive positive or favourable feedback which causes us to think positively about ourselves, and in turn increases our self esteem and self concept.

Question 19

What happens when we think less high of ourselves and have low self esteem?

Answer 19

When we have low self esteem or think less highly of ourselves, we respond in ways that demonstrate a lack of confidence.

When we lack confidence, we are less motivated.

Because we have low motivation, we often encounter failure.

When we fail, we often receive negative feedback, which then reinforces our self-doubt and low self-esteem.

Question 20

Niko Everett Story?

Answer 20

At age 11, she covered her legs in foundation.

At age 15, she lied about her mom.

At 17, she wanted to be skinnier.

At 21, her friend Julie told her to “meet yourself” and it didn’t register to her.

Then she started working with girls to raise their self esteem.

The third leading cause of teens is teen suicide.

People join gangs to feel important and like they belong somewhere.

Question 21

What are 5 suggestions Niko gave for building Self-Esteem?

Answer 21

1) Spend time with people who make you feel good about yourself

2) Turn up the volume on your positive thinking and delete the negative thoughts

3) Tell others what you like about them

4) Say thank you when you receive and compliment instead of trying to talk yourself out of it

5) Be someones Julie by making an effort to make them know the great person that you know

Question 22

Reece Doppenburg Story?

Answer 22

At the age of 4, his parents divorced.

His step brothers did drugs and fought with their mom.

His step father died from cancer and brain tumours.

Changed around the age of 14.

Question 23

5 steps to develop self confidence? Beauty Magazines?

Answer 23

1) Find yourself:
Spend time alone, figure out your talents and what you like and dislike, establish barriers of what’s right and wrong, and develop self respect.

2) Don’t care of what others think of you:
They aren’t rubbing your race so don’t let them determine your self worth, but still be mindful of others. We care more of how others think of us more than they actually care.

3) Surround yourself with encouragement:
People around you should create a positive environment because your environment influences you. Our words are really powerful, so we have to choose who we listen to.

4) Self Assess your attitude:
Figure out what negative thoughts you have because you are your biggest obstacle. Figure out if you’re creating an environment that’s positive for others.
Your unforgiveness will burden you more than the person you aren’t willing to forgive.

5) Be humble:
Pride comes before fall.
Self confidence rooted in other people’s beliefs is really insecurity. Self Confidence can open more opportunities than other personality traits.

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Beauty magazines are just product catalogues that get you to feel worse about yourself so you buy their products. In reality, societies standards are unattainable.

Question 24

What are personal standards?

Answer 24

Personal standards are a set of expectations one has for themselves and their behaviour. They are the thoughts, activities and behaviours that you find helpful and acceptable. They come from within and our upbringing. They come from ourself and are influenced by the people you spend time with and what you’re in like family, clubs, and religion.

Driven by yourself and what you adhere to.

Question 25

Why are personal standards important? How are they beneficial?

Answer 25

People with high standards tend to have better relationships and achieve their goals more often.

Understanding which behaviours uphold your standards and which ones do not helps to identify habits that need to be changed.

Not having rules of behaviours and social standards can lead to poor relationships, decreased communication abilities, and less fulfillment in life.

Your personal standards are closely connected to your core values and your purpose or mission in life. Everyone has values, whether you are aware of them or not. Core values help you determine whether behaviours are helpful or harmful to you.

Question 26

10 benefits of personal standards?

Answer 26

1) Raise self esteem and be respected by others.

2) Boost in Personal health (mental, emotional, physical, and social)

3) More likely to achieve your goal, increased belief in your ability to schriebe tough take.

4) Simplified the decision-making you have to do.

5) Gain the ability to clearly evaluate behaviours as being helpful or harmful.

6) Better able to understand your identity and that of other people.

7) Increased ability to control yourself.

8) Clearer vision of the long term, and what you want to accomplish.

9) More likely to keep yourself and others accountable.

10) Increased career and entrepreneurial skills.

Question 27

What are rules?

Answer 27

Expectations decided upon and imposed upon by someone else, like follow the speed limit, wear a seatbelt or uniform.