Life Funny Rules Flashcards
Fluffy on raising the voice
If you can’t handle my raised voice how can you possibly handle the world where nobody cares about your feelings
Maintaining weight rules (4)
Mindful, slow eating
One 9 inch plate
Water with meal and before second helping
Single snack enjoyed slowly
Whicher about life in “Something more”, part of “Sword of Destiny” book?
…As you correctly observed, this isn’t a fairly tale, it’s life. Lousy and evil. And so, damn it all, let’s live it decently and well.
Let’s keep the amount of harm done to others to the absolute minimum.
Drinking with dinner?
Two drinks
Drinking party
Five drinks
What is one of our greatest freedoms as per mole fromCharlie Mackesy’s “The Boy, the mole, the fox and the Horse”?
One of the greatest freedoms is how we react to things…
What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said? -asked boy
“Help” - said the horse
“Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up”- said the horse
What if somebody is wrong?
You have the right to be wrong!
Father Mike
How to eat chocolate in moderation? 3/3
Eat only when sitting
Enjoy mindfully every second of it
Drink hot tea with it
Kapłanka Nenneke o“bardzo powierzchownym zwiazku” Yennefer i Wiedźmina:
Dość typowe….
Obydwojga nie stać na nic opròcz silnie emocjonalnej oceny skutkòw przy jednoczesnym ignorowaniu przyczyn.
Love and Sex for genders
Woman are willing to give Sex in exchange for love
Man would give love in exchange for sex
How to start difficult topic when resistance is expected?
Start with at least 2-3 sentences describing circumstances and positive aspect of the situation acknowledging prior efforts.
Especially to spouse….
How to run your own psychologic diagnostics? 3/3
Ask yourself every few days where you are
What are my needs?
How can I respond better to the surrounding issues?
Can love tank be filled up by other sources of love and happiness projected over the spouse?
Maybe?
Isn’t it a quality time language ?
Like for ultimate sports fan, but need to project happiness/glow over relationship during togetherness moments
Like with relationship with a pet, garden, mountains, faith
How to have togetherness moments over things that are important for Nikki
Her kids
Her doing good job
How about her quality time?
What does the quality conversation focus on?
In quality conversation you focus on what you are hearing
You would ask questions with a genuine desire to understand spouses thoughts, feelings and desires
How to listen for feelings: what question to ask yourself?
What emotions is my spouse experiencing?
If you think that you have the answer - “confirm it”
“It sounds to me like you are feeling disappointed because I forgot…..”
Body language in quality conversations?
Observe it - hands, eyes, eyebrows, eye movements
sometimes it speaks one message while words speak another
ask for clarification to make sure you know what she is really thinking or feeling
Interruptions in quality conversations?
Refuse to do that
My goal is to discover your thoughts and feelings. My objective is not to defend myself or set you straight. It is to understand you.
Gary Chapman