Life Funny Rules Flashcards
Fluffy on raising the voice
If you can’t handle my raised voice how can you possibly handle the world where nobody cares about your feelings
Maintaining weight rules (4)
Mindful, slow eating
One 9 inch plate
Water with meal and before second helping
Single snack enjoyed slowly
Whicher about life in “Something more”, part of “Sword of Destiny” book?
…As you correctly observed, this isn’t a fairly tale, it’s life. Lousy and evil. And so, damn it all, let’s live it decently and well.
Let’s keep the amount of harm done to others to the absolute minimum.
Drinking with dinner?
Two drinks
Drinking party
Five drinks
What is one of our greatest freedoms as per mole fromCharlie Mackesy’s “The Boy, the mole, the fox and the Horse”?
One of the greatest freedoms is how we react to things…
What is the bravest thing you’ve ever said? -asked boy
“Help” - said the horse
“Asking for help isn’t giving up. It’s refusing to give up”- said the horse
What if somebody is wrong?
You have the right to be wrong!
Father Mike
How to eat chocolate in moderation? 3/3
Eat only when sitting
Enjoy mindfully every second of it
Drink hot tea with it
Kapłanka Nenneke o“bardzo powierzchownym zwiazku” Yennefer i Wiedźmina:
Dość typowe….
Obydwojga nie stać na nic opròcz silnie emocjonalnej oceny skutkòw przy jednoczesnym ignorowaniu przyczyn.
Love and Sex for genders
Woman are willing to give Sex in exchange for love
Man would give love in exchange for sex
How to start difficult topic when resistance is expected?
Start with at least 2-3 sentences describing circumstances and positive aspect of the situation acknowledging prior efforts.
Especially to spouse….
How to run your own psychologic diagnostics? 3/3
Ask yourself every few days where you are
What are my needs?
How can I respond better to the surrounding issues?
Can love tank be filled up by other sources of love and happiness projected over the spouse?
Maybe?
Isn’t it a quality time language ?
Like for ultimate sports fan, but need to project happiness/glow over relationship during togetherness moments
Like with relationship with a pet, garden, mountains, faith
How to have togetherness moments over things that are important for Nikki
Her kids
Her doing good job
How about her quality time?
What does the quality conversation focus on?
In quality conversation you focus on what you are hearing
You would ask questions with a genuine desire to understand spouses thoughts, feelings and desires
How to listen for feelings: what question to ask yourself?
What emotions is my spouse experiencing?
If you think that you have the answer - “confirm it”
“It sounds to me like you are feeling disappointed because I forgot…..”
Body language in quality conversations?
Observe it - hands, eyes, eyebrows, eye movements
sometimes it speaks one message while words speak another
ask for clarification to make sure you know what she is really thinking or feeling
Interruptions in quality conversations?
Refuse to do that
My goal is to discover your thoughts and feelings. My objective is not to defend myself or set you straight. It is to understand you.
Gary Chapman
Confucius (551-479 BC) about respect?
Respect yourself and others will respect you ✊🏽
Confucius (551-479 BC) about speed and perseverance?
It doesn’t matter how slowly you go as long as you don’t stop.
Confucius (551-479 BC) about three methods of learning wisdom?
First by Reflection, which is the noblest
Second by Imitation, which is the easiest;
And Third by Experience, which is the Bitterest
Confucius (551-479 BC) about what to do when you are right?
If you see what is right, and fail to act on it, you lack courage
Confucius (551-479 BC) about hatred?
If you hate a person, you are defeated by them
Confucius (551-479 BC) about books?
You cannot open a book without learning something
Confucius (551-479 BC) about chases?
He who chases two rabbits catches none!
FOCUS
Follow One Course Until Success
Rabbi about happiness:
“Happiness is not having what you want, it’s wanting what you have”
What should you do to dissolve self-hatred?
Laugh at life, laugh at others, and laugh at yourself
A wise man once said:
Life is tragic in its fate, lyric in its essence, and comic in its existence
How to spend time when worried?
maybe Thomas Gutheil, MD, legendary professor of psychiatry at Harvard
Never worry alone!
Mike Tyson and Gen. Eisenhower regarding having a “plan”?
Everybody has a plan until they get punched in the face
Plan is useless in the battle. Previous planning is indispensable though.
No matter what, you will need to boldly advance into the shadows of uncertainty.
How to guide choices in your life: what goals shall one have in mind?
Not to have necessarily glamorous, but for sure, a powerful life
By father Schmitz
Oscar Wilde about “existing”?
“To live is the rarest thing in the world — most people just exist” — Oscar Wilde
About joy and pain in life?
Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain” — Joseph Campbell
…it’s where you go when you want time back in your day to do it. You have some joy, somewhere. Use it.
How much faster does the fake news spread on Twitter?
6 times faster
because we are clicking and spreading it
How social media is divisive for society?
/\ gets individualized feeds… paid by advertiser who wants only one thing - your attention!
/\ is manipulated without knowing it
AI keeps running experiments to become more efficient
The Social dilemma
Dalai Lama about the success?
“Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.”
Set your boundaries. Be aware of your goals, have plans on how to achieve them, but also know what you’re not willing to do to get there.
Dalai Lama about love?
“Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive.”
Dietrich Bonhoeffer - German dissident theologian: about evil (killed in concentration camp)
Silence in the face of evil is itself evil.
God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.
What happens when you are not paying for the product?
You are the product
…advertisers pay for your attention
Michael Jordan about limits?
“Limits like fears are often just an illusion “
Arthur C. Clarke (author of 2001: A Space Odyssey; in 1945 proposed a satellite communication system using geostationary orbits) on discovering the limits?
The only way of discovering the limits of the possible is to venture a little way past them into the impossible.
Paulo Coelho on learning who you are:
You only know yourself when you go beyond your limits.
Yoga principles of communication(3)?
- especially for children posting?
Is it true?
Is it kind?
Is it necessary?
Come and get them in Greek?
“Molon Labe”
Leonidas at Thermopylae 480BC
Abraham Lincoln on speaking up when perceived to be a fool?
“Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt.”
For what purposes do you invest in your strenths and for what purposes in your weaknesses?
In strengths - to get best price for who you are
In weaknesses - to get better
Thomas Jefferson about lawyers:
It is the trade of lawyers to question everything, yield nothing, and talk by the hour
Franklin Delano Roosevelt on speech making:
Be sincere; be brief; be seated
Life and toilet paper
Life is like a toilet paper….
because you are either on the roll …or taking shit from an asshole….
