Lesson 6 Flashcards
some people may try to purchase love with self-effacing compliance, material goods, or sexual favors
Affection
submit themselves either to people or to institution
Submissiveness
Dominating, humiliating, and depriving others
Power, Prestige, Possession
developing independence or emotional detachment
Withdrawal
Compliant Personality, to protect oneself against feelings of helplessness
Moving Toward People
Neurotic needs (1-3)
Moving towards people
Neurotic needs (4-8)
Moving against people
Aggressive personality, to use other people for their own benefit
Moving against people
Detached personality, solve the basic conflict of isolation
Moving away from people
Neurotic need 9-10
Moving away from people
is an attempt to solve conflicts by painting a godlike picture of oneself
Idealized self-image
see themselves as good and saintly
Compliant people
build an idealized image of themselves as strong, heroic, and omnipotent; and
Aggressive people
paint their self-portraits as wise, self-sufficient, and independent.
Detached neurotics
comprehensive drive toward actualizing the ideal self
Neurotic search for glory
“tyranny of the should”
Need for perfection
compulsive drive toward superiority
Neurotic ambitions
the most destructive element, “its chief aim is to put others to shame or defeat them through one’s very success; or to attain the power
Drive to vindictive triumph
believing that something is wrong with the outside world, they proclaim that they are special and therefore entitled to be treated in accordance with their idealized view of themselves.
Neurotic claims
Based on an idealized image of self and is usually loudly proclaimed in order to protect and support a glorified view of one’s self.
Neurotic Pride
when they realize that their real self does not match the insatiable demands of their idealized self, they will begin to hate and despise themselves
Self hatred
was due to certain environmental conditions and not to biology
Oedipus complex
no more anatomical reason why girls should be envious of the penis.
Penis envy
boys should desire a breast or a womb.
womb envy
General goal: help patients gradually grow in the direction of self-realization
Horney’s psychotherapy
Techniques:
Dream Interpretation and Free Association
