LESSON 2 ATTRACTION LOVE AND COMMITMENT

Question 1

Who is the biological model of love as proposed by anthropologist , love can start with any of these three feelings: lust, attraction and attachment depending on the person. Each involves different neurochemicals in your brain.

Answer 1

Helen Fisher

Question 2

3 BRAIN SYSTEMS OF LOVE OR STAGES OF FALLING IN LOVE

Answer 2

1. Lust
2. Attraction
3. Attachment

Question 3

refers to an urge or desire that motivates us to partake in sexual activity.

Answer 3

Lust

Question 4

is described as the love-struck phase.

►This is the stage when a person loses sleep and appetite over someone and become excited to someone while daydreaming of special person.

➤It is part of lust because it involves focusing our attention to a particular person or desire. Many factors influence attraction.

Answer 4

Attraction

Question 5

WHAT ARE THE FACTORS OF ATTRACTION

Answer 5

a. Physical Attractiveness

b. Proximity

c. Similarity

d. Reciprocity

Question 6

< it is one of the primary determinants of romantic attraction. Most people prefer whom they consider physically attractive especially in the early stages of dating.

Answer 6

Physical Attractiveness

Question 7

➤ people tend to get attracted to people who are geographically closer to them.

➤ The more we are liked by someone they equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking.

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b. Proximity

Question 8

> People pick partners who we have similarities with such as social class, background, religious beliefs, age and education. The more attitudes and opinions two people share, especially when they are similar, the more they will want to do the same activities, and would create a strong bond between them.

Answer 8

c. Similarity

Question 9

&laquo_space;People like others who like them back.

People feel indebted when someone does something good for them and tend to reciprocate the action.

➤ The more we are liked by someone they equally like, the more we behave in ways that promote mutual feelings of liking.

Answer 9

Reciprocity

Question 10

is a deep and enduring emotional bond that connects one person to another across time and space. It is when long-lasting commitments are exchanged.

Answer 10

Attachment

Question 11

a psychologist, suggests that there are three main components of love. Love relationships vary and it depends on the presence or absence of each of these components.

Answer 11

Robert Sternberg (1988),

Question 12

WHAT ARE THE 3 COMPONENTS OF TRIANGULAR THEORY

Answer 12

INTIMACY

PASSION

COMMITMENT

Question 13

is an intense emotion, a compelling enthusiasm or desire for something.

Answer 13

PASSION

Question 14

is the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support something.

➤ It is an act deciding to consistently fulfill and live by agreements made with another person, entity, or cause, and where the values of integrity and respect serve as a guide to one’s behavior and thinking.

➤ To express commitment is to show love and loyalty, respect and appreciate others, convey honesty and trust, work as a team and compromise, and disagree agreeably

Answer 14

COMMITMENT

Question 15

Who studied love and denote each type by giving each one a Greek name.

Answer 15

Ancient Greeks

Question 16

Who offers a theory love styles which are derived from an analysis of writings about love through centuries.

Answer 16

• Lee (1973)

Question 17

What 8 LOVE STYLES NAMED AFTER GREEK NAMES

Answer 17

1. PHILIA - Affectionate Love
2. Pragma - Enduring Love
3. Storge Familiar Love
4. Eros Romantic Love
5. Ludus Playful Love
6. Mania Obsessive Love
7. Philautia - Self Love
8. Agape Selfless Love

Question 18

PHILIA

Answer 18

• Affectionate Love

Question 19

2. Pragma -

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Enduring Love

Question 20

3. Storge

Answer 20

Familiar Love

Question 21

4. Eros

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Romantic Love

Question 22

5. Ludus

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Playful Love

Question 23

6. Mania

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Obsessive Love

Question 24

7. Philautia -

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Self Love

Question 25

8. Agape

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Selfless Love

Question 26

It is the love that runs deep in true friendship. Love without romantic attraction and occurs between friends or family members. It is called brotherly love when both people share the same values and respect each other.

Ways to show this love:

Exchange in deep conversation with a friend.

Exchange beliefs and imperfections with close friends.

Be open and trustworthy

Be supportive in difficult times

Answer 26

PHILIA- AFFECTIONATE LOVE

Question 27

• It is a mature love that develops over time. Commitment and efforts are needed to reach “Pragma”. Instead of “falling in love”, you are “standing in love” with the partner by your side.

Ways to show this love:

Continue to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships

Seek and show effort with your partner.

Choose to work with your partner forever.

Answer 27

PRAGMA - ENDURING LOVE

Question 28

It is naturally occurring love rooted in parents and children, as well as best friends. It’s an infinite love built upon acceptance and deep emotional connection. This love come easily and immediately in parent and child relationships. It flows between parents and children or childhood friends.

Ways to show this love:

Sacrifice your time, self or personal pleasures

Quickly forgive harmful actions

Share memorable and impactful moments.

Show gratitude towards the people close to you.

Answer 28

STORGE - FAMILIAR LOVE

Question 29

• It is a personal infatuation and physical pleasure. It is passionate love displayed through physical affection.

Ways to show this love:

• Admiring someone’s physical body

• Engage in physical touch such as hugging and kissing but it is not appropriate for you yet.

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EROS - ROMANTIC LOVE

Question 30

• Flirting and beginning stages of intimate love. It is a child-like and flirtatious love found in the beginning. This type of love consists of teasing, playful motives and laughter between two people.

Ways to show this love:

• Spend time together to laugh and have fun

• Exemplify childlike behavior together.

Answer 30

LUDUS- PLAYFUL LOVE

Question 31

Obsessiveness or madness over a love partner is mania. It leads to unwanted jealousy or possessiveness.

Ways to avoid this love:

• Recognize obsessive or possessive behavior before acting upon it.

• Focus on yourself more than another person.

• Put trust into your relationships

Answer 31

ΜΑΝΙΑ - OBSESSIVE LOVE

Question 32

• It is having a healthy “self-compassion” love towards one’s self. It is when you recognize your self-worth and don’t ignore your personal needs. Self-love begins with acknowledging your responsibility for your well-being.

Ways to avoid this love:

Respect, accept and appreciate yourself.

Create environment that nurtures your well-being.

• Take care of yourself like a parent would care for a child.

Spend time around people who supports you.

Answer 32

PHILAUTIA - SELF LOVE

Question 33

It is an empathetic attitude of love for everyone and anyone. It is the highest love to offer. It is given without any expectations of receiving anything in return. It is considered as unconditional love.

Ways to avoid this love:

Dedicate your life to improve the lives of others.

Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.

Offer your time and charity to someone in need.

Express unconditional love in any situation.

Answer 33

AGAPE - SELFLESS LOVE

Question 34

is an intimate interpersonal relationship that involves physical or emotional intimacy.

It is characterized by friendship, familiarity, or romantic love.

➤ It involves closeness, connectedness, and bondedness.

Answer 34

INTIMACY