Family Legacies And Plan Flashcards
is known as the basic unit of society.
Family
is also essential in the family, as define in the Bible “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love
grandparents (both of your parents).
First Generation
parents and siblings (brother / sister).
Second Generation
you and your siblings (brother/sister ).
Third Generation
→ is the original cell of social life. It is the natural society in which husband and wife are called to give themselves in love and in the gift of life.
→ is the community in which, from childhood, one can learn moral values, begin to honor God and make good use of freedom.
→ should live in such a way that its members learn to care and take responsibility for
the young, old, the sick, the handicapped and the poor. → must be helped and defended by appropriate social measures. Where families cannot fulfill their responsibilities, other social bodies have theduty of helping them and of supporting this institution.
→ the importance of family for the life and well-being of society entails a particular responsibility for society to support and strengthen marriageand the family.
The Family
→respect for parents derives from gratitude toward those who, by the gift of life, their love and their work, have brought their children intothe world and enabled them to grow in stature, wisdom and grace.
→filial respect is shown by true docility and obedience. Children should obey their parents in all that they ask of them when it is for their good or that of the family, they should also obey the reasonable directions of their teachers and all to whom their parents have entrusted them. But, if a child is convinced in conscience that it would be morally wrong to obey a particularorder, he must not do so.
→ grown children have responsibilities towards their parents. As much as they can,
children must give their parents material and moral support in old age and in times of illness, loneliness and distress.
→ filial respect promotes harmony in all family life; it also concerns relationships
Between brothers and sisters. Respect toward parents fills the home with light
and warmth. With humility and meekness, with patience, support one another in charity.
Duties of Children
→the fecundity of conjugal love cannot be deduced solely to the procreation of children, but must extend to their moral education and their spiritual formation.
→the right and duty of parents to educate their children are primordial and inalienable
→parents must regard their children as children of God and respect them as human persons showing themselves obedient and educate their children to fulfill God’s law.
→parents have the first responsibility for the education of their children. They bear witness to this responsibility first by creating a home where tenderness, love, forgiveness, respect, fidelity and disinterested service are the rule.
→parents have grave responsibility to give good example to their children. By knowing how to acknowledge their own failings to their children, parents will be better able and correct them.
→parents should teach children to avoid the compromising and degrading influences which threatens human societies.
→parents’ respect and affection are expressed by the care and attention they devote to bringing up their young children and providing for their physical and spiritual needs.
→parents should be careful not to exert pressure on their children either in the choice of a profession or in that of a spouse, giving judicious advice, particularly when they are planning to start a family. Some forego marriage in order to care for their parents, siblings, to give more completely to a profession or serve other honorable ends.
Duties of Parents
From birth to adulthood, it is the family who provides care and nurturance. The home environs can either influence the child in positive or negative ways. Through actions and by their examples, parents become influential persons in the life of a child, they also become his/her models of social behaviors. You probably notice that you or your brother / sister has the same intonation in talking or may have similar mannerism of your parents. Some family influences can be altered or slightly modified in the process of socialization as he entered into school or influenced by friends and neighbors. Friends and peers also become powerful, the youth like you sometimes listen to your friends and peers more than your parents.
Teenagers give importance to their social group. However, even the strong influence of the “barkadas”, parents continue to take the lead in shaping the behaviors of the adolescent children. We cannot discount the fact that as teenagers facing major choices and decisions, parents become the sole provider of comfort and guidance.
Close parent-child relationship, good parenting skills, shared family activities and values and positive parent relationship can create a positive effects to their children.
Family Influences
No matter who we are, where we live, or what our goals may be, we all have one thing in common: a heritage. That is, a social, emotional, and spiritual legacy passed from parent to a child. Parents always pass to their children a legacy… good, bad or some of both.
FAMILY LEGACIES
The key building blocks of children’s social legacy include:
a. Respect, beginning with themselves and working out to other people.
b. Responsibility, fostered by respect for themselves, that is cultivated by assigningchildren duties within the family, making them accountable for their actions, and giving them room to make wrong choices once in a while.
c. Unconditional love and acceptance by their parents, combined with conditional acceptance when the parents discipline for bad behavior or actions.
d. The setting of social boundaries concerning how to relate to God, authority, peers, the environment and siblings.
e. Rules that are given withing a loving relationship.
- SOCIAL LEGACY
Strong includes:
a. Provides a safe environment in which deep emotional roots can grow.
b. Foster confidence through stability.
c. Conveys a tone of trusting support.
d. Nurture a strong sense of positive identity.
e. Creates a “resting place” for the soul.
f. Demonstrates unconditional love.
- EMOTIONAL LEGACY.
Five things that aid children receive spiritual legacy includes:
a. Acknowledge and reinforce spiritual realities. Emphasize that having a relationship with God is personal. Let them know that God is loving and forgiving. We ourselves should be loving and forgiving as well.
b. View God as a personal, caring being who is to be loved and respected.
c. Make spiritual activities a routine part of life. d. Clarify timeless truth- what is right and wrong.
e. Incorporate spiritual principles into everyday living.
- SPIRITUAL LEGACY.
The following are some of the things that parents of adolescents may need to do according to FAMILY TIMES of the New Mexico University, USA:
- Openly discuss peer pressure, drugs and alcohol.
- Be good role models about responsible relationships. 3. Honestly discuss love, sex and relationships.
- Make them understand body and emotional changes.
- Spend time with them.
- Support them at home and in school activities.
- Respect them.
- Be honest to them.
- Talk to them.
10.Listen to them without judgment.
The factors that make families resilient in the midst of adversity as cited in Rasheed, 2011, Cleofe 2016.
These factors are seen essential in maintaining healthy relationship among family members:
- A positive outlook.
Having a positive outlook helps a person or the family deal with any difficulty situation creatively. This means that the situation will allow to turn adversities into opportunities. The insights gain the stronger the person you become.
- Spiritual values and support groups.
Praying calms the anxious mind, comforts the burdened heart, and gives peace to a restless soul. It relaxes the body and mind and allows you to think objectively and positively. The amount of support one receives instressful times is related with the resilience of the family.
- Open, supportive communication.
Open communication facilitates ways to understand the stressor, and collaborative efforts are brought about from each member to cope positively with it.
- Adaptability.
Families that a capable of adapting to crises and are willing to embrace them respond more effectively to difficult situations. Families that can adapt to the schedules of members are less stressed out in meeting their needs, particularly in terms of availability of the parents to attend to the activities of their children.
5.Informal social support.
The support that one receives from the family, as well as the support that the family receives from others, allows them to feel that there are people around them and that they are not alone. Families that see help coming from kin, friends, neighbors, work colleagues, and even from others are able to cope well in the trying times.
