Lectures 13 - 17 Flashcards
Defining “sex”?
Sexual behavior is any type of consensual sexual activity that generates pleasure between two or more people
There is less sex than ever before, what are the current points (4 points)
Currently…
1. People have sex later in life
2. People have fewer total sexual partners
3. People have sex less often (current average for everyone is 1-2 times per week)
4. Sex is especially low in adolescent and adults.
NZ Sexual Health Report findings
In 2007, 40% saying they have had sex, 25% saying they are currently sexually active.
Now people who have ever had sex is below 20%
What is the cause of less sex?
Stress & Modern Society
- Too busy in current society
Norms & Education
- Sex education is bad
Internet (Dating/Porn)
- Online dating
- Obsessed with porn
Too expensive to raise children/no enough time with children
Bad sex
- Youth having bad sex, stopping them from wanting it
Politicizing sex
- Making it part of political/religious discussions
What are the large differences in sexuality and gender (SEX)?
- There is reported masturbation frequency
- Men tend to express higher approval of casual sex
- Gay men and non-binary report higher sex than lesbian women
- Men spend more money on sex toys and porn
What is instrumental communication? (CONSENT)
Provides information.
e.g., telling someone what you would like is a good way of making sex good
What is expressive communication? (CONSENT)
Conveys/evokes emotion
e.g., communication emotions through whatever means you communicate, smiles, laughing, positive words
What is nonverbal communication? (CONSENT)
Sounds
e.g., mmmmmmm
What is the percentage for relationship dissolution?
60-70% of serious relationships dissolve within one year
Why are not many people getting married?
It used to take 2 years for people to get divorced.
1. Stressful society & pre-commitment
2. Less religious ~50%
3. (Slowly) increasing equality
The suffocation model of marriage evolution
Original expectations of marriage;
- Food
- House
- Protection
- Give children
As society developed, the increasing idea of family;
- Marriage involves love
- Raise children
- Children taught moral values
- Somewhere to live
- Food
- Clothes
Computers came in, parents should;
- Support one another’s goals
- Support children goals
- Educated
Soulmate ideology
- One person lets you become the best version of yourself
- Let’s you self-actualize
What is the suffocation model?
Greater expectations/pressure placed on one person “suffocates” marriage wellbeing.
- Explains lowering marriage rates and increasingly negative effects on relationship breakup
- Invested so much in expectation
BENEFITS of break-up/divorce
LAW - decreases intimate partner violence
PERSONALLY - staying in an unhappy relationship is worse for you
IDENTITY CHANGE - when people have new self-concept, they cope better
What is the hedonic treadmill?
Psychological phenomenon where people tend to return to a stable level of happiness despite experiencing major positive or negative events or life changes.
Does money make people happy?
Money is only there to get you over stressors, and what you need in life, once you get the money it doesn’t mean anything.
Money is good, but won’t fix all the problems
What is the most common places that people meet their romantic partner?
WORK, FRIENDS
Online dating options (2 points): Relationshopping
- Encourages unrealistically high standard
Superficial focus can lead dating app users to overly rely on physical traits - The paradox of choice
Why does having more choice lead to MORE regret?
Not able to focus on making one thing work.
What is the heuristic choice strategy?
Quick and easy ques that we use to inform decision
What are some evidences of deception in online dating?
- Old photos (around 21 months old, 2 years)
- Age (round down their age to avoid cutoff)
- Most people are inaccurate about something (81% presented with this)
Why might the more frequency of looking up someone’s background increase self-disclosure?
- Reciprocity
- Discomfort in not being on level playing field
- Might discover you have something in common
- A way for individuals to build trust and intimacy
What is the approach motive in relation to TINDER?
More conversation, more 2nd dates, long-term option.
- Positive beliefs with people on tinder, in turn reported greater dating success
What is the avoidance motive in relation to TINDER?
When people avoid embarassment if they try to meet people outside dating apps, reported feeling more anxious when they use apps.
Anxious attachment paradox for casual relationships
They want to meet people and from these meaningful relationships, go on fewer first dates, trying to make as many connections as dating apps. Scared of rejection if person does not appear.
