Lecture 5 Flashcards
authoritative parenting
parenting in which warmth and responsiveness are combined
with clear and consistent rules,
What is important for authoritative parents and the establishing of rules
- Rules developmentally appropriate
- Explain why these rules are necessary
- Ask their children for input when formulating rules
- Consistently enforce the rules they set
authoritarian style parenting
characterized by strict rules and little
warmth. requires self-regulation from parent
permissive style parenting
parents are warm but provide little structure
self-regulation
ability to resist impulses and temptations that
keep us from achieving our long-term goals
People who struggle with self-regulation are at a greater risk of succumbing to behaviors that lead to problems such as
obesity
substance abuse
spiraling debt
unwanted pregnancy
Mission of authoritative parents:
help children accept and
internalize the rules and requirements of their environment and society in general
Children’s initial compliance comes from
extrinsic motivation: avoid punishment or to please their parents
authoritative parenting: , extrinsic motivations will likely turn intrinsic
Several forms of inconsistent enforcement of rules
Giving into temper tantrum
being unwilling to punish child in the moment of drama (too tired or having visitors)
These forms have negative outcomes
Inconsistent parenting consequences
increased conflict in fam
stimulates resistance (psychological reactance)
psychological reactance
resisting authority, unwilling to listen to authority
Why are limits in media use for teens harder to set for parents?
Can have boomerang effect
Effectiveness from parental discipline depends on:
degree to which children consider their parents’ authority legitimate
3 domains of parenting (Smetana)
- Moral: ex. lying and stealing. good/bad
- Conventional: ex. table manners, doing homework
- Personal: individual preferences ex. clothing, music, friends
Parental mediation
all the actions of adults aimed at making children media literate