Lecture 4: love and attraction Flashcards
How will Attractiveness impact how we see others?
- appearance, character and profession all impact our behavior.
We find attractive people more trustworthy
What do we assume about attractive people?
Confident
Credible
Appropriate
What are the three levels of the attraction template?
Must
Need
Have
The number of people who get divorced after a disability is encored is what %?
50-80%
Is the % chance of divorce the same or higher for couples who meet after a disability?
No higher, it would be as if it never happened.
What were the greeks four concepts of modern love?
- Storage
- Agape
- Philia
- Eros
What is the greeks definition of storage?
- Is a loving attachment, deep friendship, or nonsexual affection.
What is the greeks definition of Agape?
Is similar to generosity and charity.
What is the greeks definition of Philia?
Is closest in meaning to friendship
What is the greeks definition of Eros?
Is closest in meaning to our concept of passion
What would the greeks define as romantic love?
Eros: My lover fits my ideal
What is harder to work around in a realtionship
physical or mental disability?
Mental
What would the greeks define as Game-playing love?
Ludus:
I keep my lover up in the air about my commitment
What would the greeks define a Friendship?
Storage/philia:
The best love grows out of an enduring friendship.
What would the greeks define as Logical love?
Pragma:
I consider a lovers potential in life before committing myself
What would the greeks define as Possessive or excited love?
(Mania):
I get so excited about my love that I cannot sleep
What would the greeks define as selfless love
(agape):
I would do anything I can to help my lover.
True or false:
Women are more pragmatic in love, and men are more romantic
True
True or false:
Our mental function changes when aroused.
True.
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Intimacy?
The experience of warmth towards another person that arises from feelings of closeness, bondedness, and contentedness to the other.
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Passion?
An intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, which is accomplished by physiological arousal
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Commitment/Decision?
A component of love that involves that short-term and long-term issues.
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has none of the three sections?
Non-love
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only intimacy?
Liking
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only passion?
Infactuation
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only commitment?
Empty love
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has intimacy and passion?
Romantic love
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has commitment and passion?
Fatuous love
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has commitment and intimacy?
Companionate love
Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has all three aspects?
Consummate love
What are the ABC’s of romantic relatioships?
A- attraction
B- building
C- Continuation
What is the potential D and E of the “ABC’s” of love?
D- deterioration
E- ending
What are the six descriptors of Passionate love?
- Emotionally very intense
- the focus of ones life
- Highly sexualized feelings
- Sexual activity may be present or absent
- Fear of rejection
- Relationship feels unstable
What are the six descriptors of compassionate love?
- Emotion is less intense
- A focus of ones life
- less highly sexualized
- Sexual activity may be present or absent
- Emotional trust
- Relationship feels strong and stable.
What is the First stage of Relationship development?
Romance: We sense our possibilities and create a shared vision.
What is the secound stage of Relationship development?
Power struggle: We learn to recognize and learn and validate differing needs and perceptions.
We learn to say who we are and ask for what we want
What is the Third stage of Relationship development?
Stability: Learn to take responsibility and expand our senses of identity through dialogue with eachother.
What is the fourth stage of relationship development?
Commitment:
Experience ourselves as interdependent - “we”. Learn to live with paradoxes and insoluble dilemmas
What is the final stage of relationship development?
Co-Creation:
Learn to create our own universe and work towards a better world-interdependent with all of life.
What are the two major fears of intimacy?
- being controlled
- being loved and left
