Lecture 4: love and attraction

Question 1

How will Attractiveness impact how we see others?

Answer 1

• appearance, character and profession all impact our behavior.

We find attractive people more trustworthy

Question 2

What do we assume about attractive people?

Answer 2

Confident
Credible
Appropriate

Question 3

What are the three levels of the attraction template?

Answer 3

Must
Need
Have

Question 4

The number of people who get divorced after a disability is encored is what %?

Answer 4

50-80%

Question 5

Is the % chance of divorce the same or higher for couples who meet after a disability?

Answer 5

No higher, it would be as if it never happened.

Question 6

What were the greeks four concepts of modern love?

Answer 6

• Storage
• Agape
• Philia
• Eros

Question 7

What is the greeks definition of storage?

Answer 7

• Is a loving attachment, deep friendship, or nonsexual affection.

Question 8

What is the greeks definition of Agape?

Answer 8

Is similar to generosity and charity.

Question 9

What is the greeks definition of Philia?

Answer 9

Is closest in meaning to friendship

Question 10

What is the greeks definition of Eros?

Answer 10

Is closest in meaning to our concept of passion

Question 11

What would the greeks define as romantic love?

Answer 11

Eros: My lover fits my ideal

Question 12

What is harder to work around in a realtionship

physical or mental disability?

Answer 12

Mental

Question 13

What would the greeks define as Game-playing love?

Answer 13

Ludus:

I keep my lover up in the air about my commitment

Question 14

What would the greeks define a Friendship?

Answer 14

Storage/philia:

The best love grows out of an enduring friendship.

Question 15

What would the greeks define as Logical love?

Answer 15

Pragma:

I consider a lovers potential in life before committing myself

Question 16

What would the greeks define as Possessive or excited love?

Answer 16

(Mania):

I get so excited about my love that I cannot sleep

Question 17

What would the greeks define as selfless love

Answer 17

(agape):

I would do anything I can to help my lover.

Question 18

True or false:

Women are more pragmatic in love, and men are more romantic

Answer 18

True

Question 19

True or false:

Our mental function changes when aroused.

Answer 19

True.

Question 20

Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Intimacy?

Answer 20

The experience of warmth towards another person that arises from feelings of closeness, bondedness, and contentedness to the other.

Question 21

Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Passion?

Answer 21

An intense romantic or sexual desire for another person, which is accomplished by physiological arousal

Question 22

Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the definition of Commitment/Decision?

Answer 22

A component of love that involves that short-term and long-term issues.

Question 23

Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has none of the three sections?

Answer 23

Non-love

Question 24

Within Sterberg’s Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only intimacy?

Answer 24

Liking

Question 25

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only passion?

Answer 25

Infactuation

Question 26

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has only commitment?

Answer 26

Empty love

Question 27

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has intimacy and passion?

Answer 27

Romantic love

Question 28

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has commitment and passion?

Answer 28

Fatuous love

Question 29

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has commitment and intimacy?

Answer 29

Companionate love

Question 30

Within Sterberg's Triangular love theory, what is the relationship that has all three aspects?

Answer 30

Consummate love

Question 31

What are the ABC's of romantic relatioships?

Answer 31

A- attraction B- building C- Continuation

Question 32

What is the potential D and E of the "ABC's" of love?

Answer 32

D- deterioration | E- ending

Question 33

What are the six descriptors of Passionate love?

Answer 33

1. Emotionally very intense 2. the focus of ones life 3. Highly sexualized feelings 4. Sexual activity may be present or absent 5. Fear of rejection 6. Relationship feels unstable

Question 34

What are the six descriptors of compassionate love?

Answer 34

1. Emotion is less intense 2. A focus of ones life 3. less highly sexualized 4. Sexual activity may be present or absent 5. Emotional trust 6. Relationship feels strong and stable.

Question 35

What is the First stage of Relationship development?

Answer 35

Romance: We sense our possibilities and create a shared vision.

Question 36

What is the secound stage of Relationship development?

Answer 36

Power struggle: We learn to recognize and learn and validate differing needs and perceptions. We learn to say who we are and ask for what we want

Question 37

What is the Third stage of Relationship development?

Answer 37

Stability: Learn to take responsibility and expand our senses of identity through dialogue with eachother.

Question 38

What is the fourth stage of relationship development?

Answer 38

Commitment: | Experience ourselves as interdependent - "we". Learn to live with paradoxes and insoluble dilemmas

Question 39

What is the final stage of relationship development?

Answer 39

Co-Creation: | Learn to create our own universe and work towards a better world-interdependent with all of life.

Question 40

What are the two major fears of intimacy?

Answer 40

- being controlled | - being loved and left