Lecture 1 Flashcards
What are the five love languages?
words of affirmation
acts of service
receiving gifts
quality time
physical touch
What is Sternbergs triangular theory of love?
love has three components: intimacy, passion, & decision/commitment
intimacy (emotional or affective component)
passion (motivational component)
decision/commitment (cognitive component)
What are some example feelings related to intimacy?
- desiring to promote the welfare of the loved one
- experiencing happiness with them
- having a high regards for them
- receiving emotional support from the
- etc.
What are some drives of passion?
- psychological and physiological needs\
- sexual needs
- self-esteem
- dominance or submission
- self-actualization
What are the two main decisions related to commitment?
- short term: love someone or not
- long-term decision: maintain love or not
What are the 4 pure types of love in relation to the triangle theory of love?
- Nonlove: none
- Liking: just intimacy
- Infatuation: just passion
- Empty love: just commitment (final stage of longterm or beginning of arranged relationship)
What are the 4 types of complicated love in relation to the triangle?
- Romantic love: intimacy and passion (like puppy love)
- Fatuous love: passion and commitment (romeo and juliet style, courtship)
- Companionate love: intimacy and commitment (long-term)
- Consummate: all of the above
What is the color/styles theory of love?
Lee 1988
Eros
Agape
Storge
Pragma
Ludus
Mania
What are the three primary love styles in the color theory of love?
Eros: intense, passionate love (sex, powerful attraction)
Ludus: game-playing love (lack of commitment, playing with each others feelings)
Storge: friendship love (stable affection, sex-shy)
What are the three secondary love styles in the color theory of love?
Pragma (storge + ludus): practical love, businesslike, partner selection is logical
Mania (eros + ludus): possessive love, obsessive and jealous
Agape (eros + storge): compassionate love, obligation towards partner, altruistic, all-givi g
What is the prototype theory of love?
- Mental version of the best or ideal type of love
- Sets a prototype (like from past experience or imagination) –> searches for traits that match that prototype
- Example: maternal love, traits:
trust
caring
honest
respect
loyalty and commitment
What are the four main differences between passionate and companionate love?
- Emotion: intensity or intimacy
- Time length: fragility or durability
- Sexuality or closeness
- Biochemistry/brain activities
Describe emotional intensity in passionate love:
- emotional intensity: physiological arousal + caused by partner (stimuli –> physiological arousal in combination with cognitive interpretation –> emotions)
Describe time length in passionate love:
- time length: unstable, breif, quick to develop but quick to break, declines through habituation (getting used to the same interactions
Describe biochemistry in passionate love:
- pheromones secreted outside body by individual –> affects behavior of receiving individuals
- sex hormones: chemicals produced by sex organs and glands (e.g. testosterone or estrogen)
- neurotransmitters: serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine)
Describe sexuality in passionate love:
- sexual desire is the key feature
- partners with sexual desire more likely to be in passionate love
Describe emotional intimacy in companionate love:
- primarily positive and less intense emotional experiences (warmth, trust, care, loyalty, supportiveness, respect, etc)
- intimacy + commitment
- respect, admiration, interpersonal trust and reards
Describe time length in companionate love:
- more durable, inherently stably, just gets stronger over time but slowly
- steady development, may grow stronger
- passion replaced by commitment
- love scores high regardless of time
Describe biochemistry in companionate love:
- Peptide hormones: oxytocin & vasopressin (neurotransmitter + hormones)
- oxytocin: promotes relaxation & reduces pain
- vasopressin: increase the flow and circulation of blood
- Sexual activity, reproduction, and social bonding
Describe closeness in companionate love:
- High degree of interconnection or interdependency in thoughts, feelings, and behavior between partness
- Mutuality
- Direct influence on each other
