Judaism: Marriage ✅ Flashcards

Question

Outline the pre-marriage ritual of fasting

Answer 1

- Depending on the community most Jewish couples fast on the day of their wedding - This is to atone for any sins. - The couple may eat again after the wedding ceremony.

Answer 2

Specially knotted ritual fringes, or tassels found on a tallit (prayer shawl)

Answer 3

* Marriage is a spiritual union. It connects people more closely to the covenant and reflects relationships between God and the Jewish people. * Marriage is a commitment to the Jewish community and its preservation as the Chosen People of the Covenant.

Answer 4

* Celibacy has little importance in Jewish communities and opinions of single people are seldom valued. * Married couples are added to the community to speak on issues relevant to the community and to society in general.

Answer 5

- This is usually the livelier one. - The bride sits on an attractive throne surrounded by her attendants, family, friends etc. - She receives guests and well wishes, as musicians play, and friends play.

Answer 6

Jewish matchmaker

Answer 7

- Marriage contract - It includes: - Husband's obligations and responsibilities to his - wife - inheritance information - requirements should the couple divorce. - It is the spiritual connection both parties have with the traditions and beliefs of Judaism. It is an affirmation of the stated responsibilities of God's love and justice to the people of israel. - Reform Jews typically do not have a ketubah and simply replace it with a marriage certificate. - It is signed immediately before the marriage ceremony and is witnessed by two people. - The ketubah reminds the couple to protect each other with insurance, wills, trusts, and other documents of financial security.

Answer 8

A formal Jewish bill of divorce

Answer 9

• Jews believe that marriage is a religious duty that is central to Jewish life. To marry and have children is the first command given in the Torah. God's command to be fruitful and multiply is regarded as one of the greatest mitzvot. “Be fruitful and multiply” (Genesis 1:27) • When the prophet Hosea wrote about his marriage to Gomer, he likened God’s relationship with his people as a marriage and Israel as his bride. • The Talmud says them a man presents himself in the after-world, he will be asked three questions: - Did you trade in good faith? - Did you set time for study? - Did you raise a family

Answer 10

“The very altar weeps when a man divorces the wife of his youth” (rabbinic saying)

Answer 11

1. Fulfilment of commandments 2. Completion and wholeness 3. Path to sanctification (kiddushin) 4. Covenant life 5. Preserves the Jewish nation 6. Expresses beliefs through ritual

Answer 12

* Jews are expected to marry Jews. * For Orthodox Jews, an interfaith marriage constitutes a violation of the covenant because it introduces a gentile partner into the relationship. * “You shall not intermarry with them [gentiles]” Deuteronomy

Answer 13

A raised platform in the synagogue where services are led

Answer 14

1. Contract/Betrothal - An offer of marriage is proposed. The offer is accepted and Rebekah is married by contract. - Rebekah is asked if she consents to the marriage. - Gifts and money are given both to the bride and the parents of the bride. 2. Ceremony/Consummation - Rebekah and Isaac go into the tent 3. Celebration - There is no mention of a wedding feast, but one likely happened according to the accounts of Jacob's marriage to Leah and Rachel. NOTE: In the time of these historical Jewish marriages, these stages occurred over the course of many years (depending on the contract ect.). Today, these three stages are combined into one ceremony.

Answer 15

Is yiddish for the veiling ceremony.

Answer 16

Is a bath used by Jews for ritual cleaning, or spiritual cleansing

Answer 17

* Because marriage is a divine union, he/she takes mutual responsibility for the other’s physical and emotional wellbeing * Two individuals gain a new identity, status, and voice within the Jewish community * Prior to marriage, they were individuals from seperate families, now they’ve created a new family responsible for each other, their children and the Jewish nation.

Answer 18

“See that they [your parents] eat and drink, and take them where they need to go” (Talmud)

Answer 19

- Circling - This is the tradition of the bride circling the groom seven times - This is seen as the bride creating a wall of protection around the groom - Some couples today circle each other to symbolise equality, especially in reformed Judaism.

Answer 20

The 613 Mitzvot and the Talmud.

Answer 21

- It is commanded for a Jewish married couple to have children. A family is considered complete when they have one male and female child. One who does not fulfil this mitzvah to have children is considered analogous to a murder for he has depleted life. - Jewish values are central to family life and often protect them from many broken family situations e.g. Shabbat - Parents are expected to feed, clothe and educate their children and see they can support themselves - Children are expected to take care of their parents - Naturally, parents are only human and sometimes make mistakes. Judaism insists that children are to be as tactful as possible when pointing out their parent’s wrongdoings.

Answer 22

“Gather the people, consecrate the assembly; bring together the elders, gather the children… Let the bridegroom leave his room, and the bride her chamber.” (Joel 2:16)

Answer 23

* Sanctification in Judaism is described as kiddushin which is the blessing of marriage. * Fulfilling God’s mitzvot to marry enables a Jewish couple to express holiness in their daily lives. * Because kiddushin is sanctification, it signifies that the couple is raised to a new level of holiness as God is a part of their home. * Marriage sanctifies the relationship of husband and wife and establishes their obligations to each other, the Jewish people and God.

Answer 24

“A woman encompasses a man” (Jeremiah 31:22)

Answer 25

A Jewish religious court can compel the husband to grant a divorce when there is a just case, such as when a husband refuses to have marital relations, when he doesn't not provide adequately for her support, when he is unfaithful etc.

Answer 26

Isaac and Rebekah and Jacob and Leah

Answer 27

Seven wedding blessings

Answer 28

The few minutes that the Chassan and Kallah spend alone together immediately after the wedding ceremony.

Answer 29

- It is held at a table full of food and drinks. - Seated adjacent to the groom is his father, and the bride's father, who are surrounded by rabbis. Around the table are male guests, relatives and friends of the groom who toast the groom and sing. - In many Hasidic circles, a ‘badhan’ (wedding jester) is employed to entertain the assembled guests by toasting the groom in rhymed couplets sung in traditional tunes. - The most crucial procedure at the groom’s reception is the completion of the marriage contract (Ketubah), which is carefully reviewed by the rabbi, to ensure that the details are correct.

Answer 30

“Any man who has no wife is no proper man” (Yebamoth 63a) | “A man who has no wife is doomed to an existence without joy” (Yevamot 62b)

Answer 31

* A New Identity * Personal Yom Kippur * Mitzvot Observances * Roles and Responsibilities * Relationship with Spouse’s Parents * Experience of Marriage Rituals

Answer 32

- Judaism strictly forbid sexual relations during menstruation. - From the time of her period starts until she has immersed in a mikvah or ritual bath, a wife is in a state of ‘niddah’ or seperated from her husband; it is never less than 12 days. - To an outsider, this may seem as though it would put a strain on the relationship, however couples often find the reverse is true. In being separated, they learn how to express their love in non-physical ways and when they are reunited their bond is stronger than before.

Answer 33

Wedding jeseter

Answer 34

- Is a bath used by Jews for ritual cleaning, or spiritual cleansing - In the week before the wedding, the kallah (bride) visits the mikvah. There, the Kallah immerses herself in the water, while saying a special prayer. This spiritually cleanses her so that she can enter the marriage relationship in a state of purity. - For the Kallah, the ritual mikvah is the gateway to her future life. (an act of ritual purification, marking life’s transitions)

Answer 35

Simultaneous receptions held by the bride and groom, for the guests.

Answer 36

A canopy with 4 open sides under which a wedding ceremony takes place.

Answer 37

* Jews are obligated to seek out a person who will bring them completeness. Based in the second account of creation, it is the belief that the husband and wife join together to form a single soul. Without each other, they are spiritually incomplete. * “Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother, and cleave to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24)

Answer 38

• The Jewish individual experiences a personal Yom Kippur (most spiritual holiday of the Jewish calendar) on their wedding day. On this day, all sins are forgiven.

Answer 39

The veil - Traditionally used to symbolise the woman covering her face in public with a veil during the year between the traditional kiddushin (betrothal) and nissun (ceremony) - It symbolically represents the added level of modesty the bride is expected to adopt with the elevated position of married state. - It also symbolises the fact that the beauty of the bride is reserved for the husband alone - Some people also see the veil as something that takes the value of physical beauty and places emphasis on character and the heart. - It also symbolises Rebeka veiling her face before her marriage to Isaac. Tallit - Prayer shawl. It is a large rectangular shawl made of cotton, wool or synthetic fibres. In each four corners are strings tied in a particular pattern called a ‘tzitzit’ - This is given to the groom by the bride for the daily prayers after marriage.

Answer 40

- An empty glass is then wrapped in a napkin and placed under the groom's right foot, he then breaks it as a symbol of the destruction of the first and second temple. - The smashing of the glass is often in place of the kiss at the end of the ceremony. - After the glass is smashed, everyone says ‘mazel tov’ which means congratulations. - It is also a reminder that in the midst of joy, there is also sadness and sorrow and the couple has a responsibility to try and repair in a spiritual sense. - This is common to all branches of Judaism.

Answer 41

- Literally means ‘going up’ - The honour of being called up to read the Torah in a synagogue - This refers to when a person who is going to get married physically ascends to the bimah (A raised platform in the synagogue where services are led). The person ascends to the bimah where the Torah is read and is honoured to recite the blessings over the Torah - To have an Aliyah one must be Jewish and have reached the age of bar mitzvah (when a boy turns 13 and is responsible for his own actions, for girls it is 12) - On the Shabbat preceding the wedding the groom is called to read the Torah in the synagogue - After reciting the blessings the couple leave the synagogue and are showered with candy and raisins, symbolising sweetness, and fruitfulness.

Answer 42

* The Tisch lets women of the community receive the kallah with joy and encouragement similar to the men and the chassan. Later the community receives the newly-married couple whose previous sins are now forgiven due to a personal Yom kippur. * Parents and sometimes grandparents escort the chassan and kallah to the chuppa. Each celebration brings the generations together. * Every person participating can feel involved by singing and dancing.

Answer 43

1. The Tisch 2. The bedekken 3. Signing of the ketubah 4. Hakafot 5. Placing the ring 6. Seven wedding blessings 7. Smashing of the glass 8. Yichud

Answer 44

The importance that Judaism has placed on marriage has contributed to Jewish survival over the generations. In spite of the oppression of Jews throughout the centuries, they have succeeded in preserving their religious and cultural heritage. This is partly due to the spiritual basis for marriage and the commitment to the family.

Answer 45

“And she [Rebekah] took the veil and covered herself.” Genesis 24:65)

Answer 46

Religious Court

Answer 47

- The newly-married couple enter the yichud room. In Juwish law, this finalises the marriage ceremony. - At one time this is where the marriage was consummated. - Today, yichud symbolises the necessity of taking time for each other amidst the hustle and bustle of life.

Answer 48

“Teach your son a trade, or you teach him how to be a robber” (Talmud)

Answer 49

* Jews have the responsibility to marry and raise a family within Judaism * When children are born, the community is strengthened and the number of Jews increases. Reproduction is an important aspect of continuing the religion from generation to generation.

Answer 50

* When the chassan places the veil over the kallah’s face in the bakken ritual, he indicates that he loves her more for her inner qualities * When the kallah enters the chuppa and circles the chassah, she symbolically creates a wall of protection around her husband and their marriage. The chuppah symbolises their new home will be open to all around them. * The chassan presents the kallah with a gold ring to represent their everlasting and unbroken union of marriage. * The chassan presents the kallah with the ketubah; it states the husband’s obligations to his wife: providing food, clothing, home and emotional needs. The ketubah is often framed in their home to remind them of their contract.

Answer 51

* The individual is required to treat his or her spouse’s parents with the same respect and courtesy shown to their own. * The wholeness and completion provided by marriage means that, to some extent, one spouse’s parents are also the other person’s parents.

Answer 52

“She is not yours to vex and grieve” (Talmud)

Answer 53

Marriage contract

Answer 54

Sheva Brachot

Answer 55

- A canopy with 4 open sides under which a wedding ceremony takes place. A basic chuppah looks like a square piece of fabric supported by four poles, however they can be decorated with flowers or other sentimental ornaments. - The Chuppah signifies the house or home the couple will make. This stems from the Torah - Ancient Rabbis compared it to the tent of Abraham who was famed for his hospitality; his tent had entrances on all four sides to signal a message of welcome to travellers coming from any direction.

Answer 56

- Traditionally engagement was organised by a third person called a ‘shadchan’ (matchmaker). This was a paid position within the community. - Individuals involved are not forced into an unwanted marriage contract. - Apart from traditional circles this is no longer how Jews meet their partners.

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