Interpersonal Skills Flashcards
What are examples interpersonal skills
Assertiveness, networking conscientiousness, openness, teamwork, conflict resolution and emotional intelligence
What are the categories of empathy
Cognitive empathy, emotional empathy and compassionate empathy
What is cognitive empathy
Understanding what a person is thinking and feeling
What is emotional empathy
Sharing the same feeling that another person is experiencing eg feeling heartbroken for someone who lost a family member
What is the downside to emotional empathy
It can lead to emotional overload. This happens when you take on someone’s negative emotions so much that you become overwhelmed by them.
Compassionate empathy
Taking actions to help someone we are empathetic towards.
What is intercultural empathy
The ability to perceive the world as it is perceived by a culture different from your own
What is the empathy gap
We often think we empathise with everyone in the same way, regardless of any difference. However, this is not the case. An empathy gap exists, a type of cognitive bias, which is very often in our unconscious mind
What is a critical aspect of healthy relationships
Adaptability
What are the detrimental factors in a relationship
Expectations and loss of individuality
What are some ways to deal with rejection
- Do not tolerate harsh self criticism
- Do not assume a rejection is personal
- Revive your self worth
- Connect
What is loneliness
A subjective feeling that you feel emotionally disconnected form the people around you, that they don’t quite get you, see you or appreciate you
What are ways to deal with a broken heart
- identify and work on voids in your life
- do not social media stalk the person who broke up with you
- make a list of all the compromises you had to make in the relationship
- do things that used to bring you joy
What is hookup culture
Uncommitted sexual encounters that have become a norm
What is emotional disengagement
Being emotionally distant from a partner
What are the four horsemen
Four negative communication patterns that are likely to lead to the end of a relationship as identified by Dr John Gottman. They include: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling
What is criticism in the four horse men and how can you deal with it
It is an attack on the other persons character and you can deal with it but using I statements describing how you feel instead of blaming and shaming the other person
What is contempt in the four horse men and how can you deal with it
Sarcasm, eye rolling, name calling and mocking. This can be combatted by building a culture of respect and appreciation in relationships
What is defensiveness in the four horse men and how can you deal with it
Protecting yourself through self righteousness. You can combat it by ensuring you take responsibility for your part of an argument.
What is stonewalling in the four horse men and how can you deal with it
It’s withdrawing from the conversation. It can be dealt with by taking a 20 minute time out to cool down if things are going no where in an argument
What is the most common way one tries to display power in a relationship
Physical abuse
What is the TEARS foundation
An organisation based in South Africa that assist through intervention and education programmes for those who are impacted by gender based violence and child sexual abuse
What are four things to remember about consent
- it needs to happen every time
- you can change your mind at any time and withdraw consent
- silence does not imply consent
- a person must have capacity in order to give consent
Why should we get consent
Besides the legal implications it shows respect and caring for the person. It is about the persons emotional needs as well.
What is the cycle of abuse
- Tension building
- Incident
- Reconciliation
- Calm
What to do when supporting someone in an abusive relationship
- believe what they tell you
- ensure they know it’s never their fault
- do not judge them
- be supportive and encouraging
- offer to go with them to seek professional help
- keep in contact
