Interpersonal relationships

Question 1

Emotional Intelligence

Answer 1

(Daniel Goleman, psychologist from Harvard)
• Being Self Aware 
• Managing emotions 
• Motivating yourself 
• Recognizing emotions in others 
• Handling relationships

Question 2

Personal Motivation for Interpersonal Contact: Why are we attracted = Attractiveness

Answer 2

Physical and others

Question 3

Personal Motivation for Interpersonal Contact: Why are we attracted = Perceived Gain

Answer 3

You may like or be attracted to someone because they have what you want, like money or belongings

Question 4

Personal Motivation for Interpersonal Contact: Why are we attracted = Similarities

Answer 4

Attracted to someone that similar to you

Question 5

Personal Motivation for Interpersonal Contact: Why are we attracted = Differences

Answer 5

They have hobbies or qualities that are different from you, Opposites attract.

Question 6

Personal Motivation for Interpersonal Contact: Why are we attracted = Proximity

Answer 6

More likely to be attracted to someone who is geologically close to you

Question 7

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Pleasurable

Answer 7

People need pleasure, It feels good to do something with someone

Question 8

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Affection

Answer 8

We all need affection or else we will die, Can be Someone that says good to see you or handshake and hug

Question 9

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Inclusion

Answer 9

Be included is a human need, we need to feel included or wanted

Question 10

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Escape

Answer 10

I don’t have to study for my exam because I have the excuse of a date.
- gives a reasons not to do something, gives you a reason to escape

Question 11

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Health

Answer 11

Communication is good for our health, has been proven to make you live longer with connections to people)
= people who are single have shorter lives, Its healthy to have people around.

Question 12

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Control

Answer 12

All people need control,
- 2 things that lead to problems with relationships is a pathological need for control and low self-esteem. Sometimes clingy people have a need for control.

Question 13

Small Talk: Bid and Bidding

Answer 13

Bids toward people like “hey let’s go get some coffee” or you say “hey do you want to come over and study”

Question 14

How to encourage bids and bidding both behaviorally and emotionally

Answer 14

Not being defensive, provide gratitude, praise others focus on others positive vibe when interacting with others all encourage bids and allows people to make a connection

Question 15

Small Talk: Self Disclosure

Answer 15

No relationship goes to the next level of intimacy without self-disclosure, we are afraid to do this because when we self disclose we set ourselves up to be vulnerable.

Question 16

Essentials of good relationships

Answer 16

conversational focus, being concerned about someone else, good empathy, providing emotional support.

Question 17

Motives for Inter Personal communication: Relaxation

Answer 17

interactions with other people can cause you to relax and forget about the other noises in your life.

Question 18

Bids and the Bidding process:

Answer 18

• A bid is a question, Like Hello how are you or any question (or bid) that requires a response.
• Focus on the people around you = talk to people that you know and are comfortable around. Look to familiar faces
• Set a positive tone in conversation = be positive and act positively
• Avoid harmful criticism
• Avoid becoming physically or emotionally overwhelmed = if your not feeling it leave, don’t put yourself in places where you feel overwhelmed
• Create a climate of praise and gratitude = give other people praise because they will want you around.
• Self disclose and connect = something that you generally don’t tell other people will create a connection. When you self disclose something to someone you fear about exposing something close to you, if I disclose something you trust that person.

Question 19

Essentials of good relationships: Verbal Skills

Answer 19

Are very important Being able to relay what you want to say with your verbal skills

Question 20

Essentials of good relationships: Emotional expressiveness

Answer 20

Express how you’re feeling with emotions, Ex. You can recognize someone like a parent when their feeling certain emotion

Question 21

Essentials of good relationships: Conversational focus

Answer 21

Sitting down and having a face to face conversation with someone without electronic devices in font of you. Building a conversation rapport with someone face to fac

Question 22

Essentials of good relationships: Nonverbal analysis

Answer 22

You know what is not being said, Ex someone says there fine, but you know they are not ok.

Question 23

Essentials of good relationships: Conversational encouragement

Answer 23

Shut up when someone else is talking, let them speak.

Question 24

Essentials of good relationships: Care and appreciation

Answer 24

Care and appreciate each other

Question 25

Essentials of good relationships: Commitment

Answer 25

When you decide to do something you commit to it and complete what you set out to do. (Reservoir or rewards)

Question 26

Essentials of good relationships: Adaptation

Answer 26

Can you change or are you against change. Adapting with what’s around you