Interpersonal Relationships Flashcards
In the early days, what was the predominant view of relationships, love and marriage?
- Belonged to the field of love not science
- Result of a mystic attraction, fatalistic
- Unhappy marriages - failures due to mistaking infatuation of love or else blame placed on bad luck or fate
Who are we attracted to?
- Proximity (convinient and familiar)
- Physical attractiveness (bias for beauty)
- Reciprocity (liking those who like us)
- Similarity (liking those that are like us)
What is Sternberg’s assessment of love?
Sternberg, 1998
- 45 item Triangular Love Scale
- intimacy subscale = warmth, support, self-disclosure and trust
- passion subscale = intense, physical and exciting elements of relationships
- commitment = feelings of stability, commitment and permanence
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
Low intimacy, low passion, low commitment
Non-love
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
High intimacy, low passion, low commitment
Liking
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
Low intimacy, high passion, low commitment
Infatuation
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
Low intimacy, low passion, high commitment
Empty Love
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
high intimacy, high passion, low commitment
Romantic Love
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
High intimacy, low passion, high commitment
Companionate love
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
Low intimacy, high passion, high commitment
Fatuous Love
What is Sternberg’s relationship type when there is;
High intimacy, high passion, high commitment
Consummate love
What is a secure attachment?
low dependence/anxiety, low avoidance
What is an anxious/preoccupied attachment?
high dependence/anxiety, low avoidance
negative view of self, positive view of other
What is a dismissing-avoidant attachment?
low dependence/anxiety, high avoidance
positive view of self, negative view of other
What is a fearful-avoidant attachment?
high dependence/anxiety, high avoidance
negative view of self, negative view of other
What are some assessments of attachments?
- Adult Attachment Questionnaire (AAQ; Simpson & Rholes, 1996)
- Attachment Style Questionnaire (ASQ; Feeney, Noller, & Hanrahan, 1994)
- Relationship Styles Questionnaire (RSQ; Griffin & Bartholomew, 1994)
- Experiences in Close Relationships (ECR; Brennan, Clark & Shaver, 1998) and revised version (ECR-R, Fraley, Waller, & Brennan, 2000)
- Adult Attachment Interview and other related interviews
What are the subscales of Spanier’s (1976) Dyadic Adjustment Scale?
- Dyadic consensus
- Dyadic satisfaction
- Dyadic cohesion
- Affectional expression
How many items in Spanier’s (1976) Dyadic Adjustment Scale?
32 in the most commonly used version
What is self-regulation?
- refers to those processes, internal and/or transactional, that enable an individual to guide his or her goal-directed activities over time and across changing circumstances (contexts).
- implies modulation of thought, affect, behaviour, or attention via deliberate or automated use of specific mechanisms and supportive meta-skills (Karoly, 1993, p. 25)
What does self-regulation predict in relationships?
satisfied couples have a dynamic and changing pattern of interaction produced through self-directed relationship change, rather than engaging in standard, ‘typical’ relationship behaviours (Halford, 1998)
How many items and scales are in the Behavioural Self-Regulation for Effective Relationships Scale (BSRERS)?
- 16 items
- 2 scales: strategies and effort
What are the Love Languages (Chapman, 1995)?
○ Acts of service ○ Physical touch ○ Words of affirmation ○ Quality time ○ Gift giving
What is mental load?
is mental work performed by an individual for the benefit of themselves or others, irrespective of
physical task performance.
How are emerging suggestions about mental load contributing to relationship satisfaction?
- Some people are happy to take on a greater mental load
- Others prefer to take on less
- Hypothesis is that if you take on the amount you want, you will be more satisfied OR if your partner recognises your mental load, you’ll be more satisfied.
How to control mental load for relationship satisfaction?
Stamp & Hazelwood, 2020
- Planning and strategising
- Monitoring and anticipating needs
- Knowing
- Managerial thinking
- Self-regulating