Human Sexuality Exam 2 Flashcards
Factors in ability to communicate
- biological factors
- sociocultural factors
- psychological factors
Biological factors of communication
Physiological reactions, impact of alcohol and drug use, physical touching, hearing loss
Sociocultural factors of communication
Influence of media, gender, culture, religion, examples set by family and peers
Psychological factors of communication
Emotions, role of double standard in thinking, ego
Communication: a transactional process
- Involves conveying symbols, words, gestures, movements
- Goal of establishing human contact, exchanging information, and reinforcing or changing attitudes and behaviors
The nature of communication; 3 contexts
- Cultural context
- social context
- psychological context
Cultural context
the language, values, beliefs, and customs in which communication takes place
Social context
the roles we play in society
Psychological context
how people communicate based on their personalities
Basic communication model (feedbackloop)
- Sender has idea
- Sender encodes message
- Channel carries message
- Receiver decodes message
- Feedback
Repeat
the process of communicating sexually
- Basic five-step model of communication
- Nonverbal communication
Nonverbal communication
unwritten and unspoken
Verbal communication: Levels of communication
- Cliche conversation (lowest level)
- Giving information & reporting facts
- expressing ideas
- sharing feelings
- Self-disclosure
- intimate relationships
Characteristics of a good listener
- face the speaker
- maintain eye contact
- minimize external distractions
- respond appropriately
- focus soley on what the speaker is saying
- minimize internal distractions
- keep an open mind
- engage yourself
Listening
seeking information
Good listening skills
- facing the speaker/making eye contact
- giving signs that you are listening
- paying close attention
- asking clarification questions
- giving feedback/offering suggestions
- understanding other perspectives
- disregarding personal biases
Types of communication
- verbal
- nonverbal
- context of the message
verbal communication
speaking skills/listening skills
Nonverbal communication
- signs/symbols
- body language
Context of the message
physical context/emotional context
A vast majority of message meaning is sent
nonverbally
Many forms of nonverbal communication exist, including:
eye contact, facial expressions, tone of voice, posture & sounds that convey understanding
Nonverbal expression of feelings and thoughts are easy to what?
misinterpret
Most of our “feeling” communication is what?
nonverbal
3 important factors of nonverbal communication
- Proximity: nearness in physical space
- Eye contact: a symbol of interest
- Touching: signals intimacy, closeness
Nonverbal communication should what?
clarify, not confuse
Communication barriers
- inconsistent verbal & nonverbal messages
- defensiveness
- feedback is not given
- not actively listening
- being distracted
- speaking a different language
- different interpretations/perceptions
- not being clear or honest with your feelings
- being passive-aggressive
- personal biases affect message or response
- wishful listening
- resistance to change
- making assumptions about the other person
- organizing own thoughts rather than listening
- not enough time
- mind altering drugs
- electronic communication
Frame of reference =
personal biases affect message or response
Ways to avoid miscommunication
- not being distracted
- check biases
- avoid stereotypes
- take time to effectively communicate (most common problem)
Male & female communication issues
- vocabulary differences
- gender roles
- expressing feelings
- learned or real differences?
Barriers to effective sexual communication
- bypassing
- frame of reference
- lack of language skills
- lack of listening skills
- sex myths
- sexual fear
- negative beliefs about sexuality
- lack of sexuality information
- mind-altering drugs
- gender issues
- attitudes about sexuality
- sexual vocabulary
- privacy
- boundaries
- gender communication issues
Attitudes about sexuality
- some people are prevented from communicating openly about attitudes learned at home
- culture created where women are viewed in a negative way if they initiate or enjoy sex
Sexual language
- Many people are uncomfortable with sexual language
- Sexual language used can promote communication and relationships, or it can inhibit them
Parent-teen communication
- some prevented from communicating openly
- parents often don’t have conversations about sexuality with kids
- good parent-teen communication helps young people establish values and make healthy decisions
- leads to improved contraceptive use, improved communication about sexuality, delays initiation of sexual intercourse, & lowers sexual risk behaviors
Only about _ of adolescents have had conversation about sexuality with their parents
15%
_ of parents say they do not know how to discuss sexuality with their children
90%
_ of adults and _ of teens think it would be easier for young people to delay sexual activity & avoid unwanted pregnancy
91% & 87%
Sexual communication
- connects sexuality & intimacy
- sexual communication is tied to sexual satisfaction, which is tied to relationship satisfaction
- unique
In established relationships, initiating sexual activity
heterosexuals: men more often
same-sex: more emotionally expressive partner
Developing sexual communication skills
- Identify obstacles to discussing sex
- Keys to good communication (more tips later in this presentation)
- Self-disclosure
- Trust
- Feedback
Online sexual activities
- global
- cybersex
- online sex websites/chatrooms
- meet new partners
- safety
Dial-a-porn
- Commercial telephone sex lines that enable the caller to anonymously “talk dirty” with someone
- Phone worker is paid to respond to the caller’s fantasies
- Creates a sense of “pseudo-intimacy” with the voice
Cell phone sex
- easy access
- privacy
- mobility
- billion-dollar industry
Cybersex
Real time event involving persons engaging in sexual talk for the purpose of sexual gratification.
Triple-A engine
- access
- affordability
- anonymity
Online sexual activities effect on culture
- Crosses distance
- Promotes intimacy without physical contact
- Creates a new level of expression
- Positive for expression of under-represented groups
- Negative if it becomes compulsive or addictive
Benefits associated with sexting
- Closeness to receiver
- Fun/entertaining
- Physical validation
- Discuss boundaries
- Discuss likes/dislikes
- Increase arousal
- More likely to engage in risk-reduction behaviors
Risks associated with sexting
- Cyberbullying
- Sextbullying (subset of cyberbullying)
- Sextortion
- College admissions/job placement
- Emotional distress/humiliation
- Depression
- Suicide
- Legal risks (esp. for underage sexting)
- Vulnerable to child predators/sex traffickers
Legal risk of underage sexting
- Child pornography
- Distributing or possessing a sexually explicit photo
- Communicating with a minor with the intent of a lewd act
- Internet sex crimes
- Sending harmful matter with the intent of seduction
- Federal Law:
– No federal laws directly address teen sexting
– Many lawyers and parents feel that most sexting cases are best addressed by education and parental involvement
Legal consequences of underage sexting in Arkansas
In general, under Arkansas law it is a felony to:
- Knowingly produce, direct or promote any material that contains a child (under the age of 17) engaged in a sexual act.
— If convicted, an individual could face up to 30 years in prison.
- Knowingly posses or view any material of a child (under the age of 17) engaged in a sexual act.
— If convicted, an individual could face up to 10 years in prison.
- Uses or coerces a child (under the age of 17) into creating or participate in material that contains a minor engaged in a sexually explicit activity.
— If convicted, an individual could face up to 30 years in prison.
In AR, underage sexting (>18 years)
- Possession
— Any kind of nudity
— Any kind of sex act - Distribution
- Purposely creates
Active learning
- Develop their own “safety tips” and “guidelines” to prevent underage sexting and cyberbullying and promote online safety
- student-produced PSA regarding underage sexting: posters, videos
Decision-making skills
- evaluate consequences of sexting
Refusal skills
- Clear “NO” statement
- fogging statement
- alternative action
- delaying statement
Refusing while maintaining the relationship
refusal skills
How to argue
know your triggers
stand up for your rights without violating the rights of others
assertiveness
standing up for your rights at the expense of someone else’s rights
aggressiveness
Giving up your basic rights so that other people can achieve theirs
Nonassertiveness/passive
Learning assertiveness - DESC
- Describe the other person’s behavior or situation as objectively as possible (e.g. “When…”)
- Express your feelings about the other person using “I” statement (e.g. “I feel…”)
- Specify changes you would like to see made (e.g. “I would like you to…”)
- Choose the consequences you are prepared to accept (e.g. “If you…” or “If you don’t…” or “I will…”)
Assertiveness skills
State your position
- what you think and how you feel
- use I-statements
Offer a reason
- give your perspective
acknowledge other’s feelings
- don’t threaten or harm others
Tips to help people become more assertive
- Assess your style
- Use “I” statements
- Rehearse what you want to say
- Use body language
- Keep emotions in check
Resolving conflict; conflict resolution process
- active listening
- identify your position
- propose and explore alternatives
Giving and receiving criticism
- Find a private, relaxing place to discuss thoughts and feelings
- Devote sufficient time to discussion
- Limit distractions
- Plan relaxed time for discussion – avoid just before or after sexual encounter
- Recommendations for giving and receiving criticism
Techniques for improving sexual communication
- realize that one does not know everything
- ask good questions
- be open-minded and nonjudgmental
- maintain care and trust
- planning
- flooding
- learning assertiveness
Just like any other topic, partners should set aside time to talk about sexuality
planning
Repeating, over and over again, sexual words that are uncomfortable
flooding
Learning assertiveness
DESC model of assertiveness
Additional techniques for improving communication
- conflict resolution
- giving and receive criticism
- know your triggers
- evaluate your communication & identify ways that you miscommunicate
Steps toward change: techniques used by counselors to help us to communicate more effectively
- Practice active listening
- Elicit feedback
- Express feelings
- Use “I” statements
- Prohibit interruptions and blaming