Get People to my Point of View

Question 1

What should be done if one yells?

Answer 1

The other should listen. When 2 people yell, there’s no communication, just noise and bad vibrations.

Question 2

Why should you Welcome the disagreement?

Answer 2

If there’s a point I haven’t thought about, I should be thankful it’s brought to my attention.

Question 3

How do I Distrust my first instinctive impression?

Answer 3

Keep calm. Watch out for my first reaction of defence

Question 4

Why should I Control my temper?

Answer 4

The size of a person is measured by what makes him or her angry.

Question 5

How do you Listen first?

Answer 5

Give opponents/others a chance to talk. Let them finish.

Question 6

Look for areas of agreement and…..?

Answer 6

Dwell on the points which I agree on. (Methods might be different but the purpose is the same)

Question 7

Why should I think over my opponent’s ideas? And mean it?

Answer 7

They may be right. Agreeing to it is way better than a “we told you so, but you wouldn’t listen!”

Question 8

How should you respond to opponents showing interest?

Answer 8

Think of them as people who really want to help me

Question 9

What did Buddha say about hatred?

Answer 9

“Hatred is never ended by hatred but by love.”

Question 10

9/10 how do arguments end (in terms of new beliefs)?

Answer 10

Each contestant is more firmly convinced ever about his own opinion.

Question 11

What should be done to change their POV instead of saying “you’re wrong.”?

Answer 11

Ask questions in a friendly, cooperative manner. Be very careful not to let him think I’m making an issue of this point.

Question 12

What did Ben Franklin do when hit with stinging truth?

What would he do when asserted with what he thought was an error?

Answer 12

He was big and wise enough to realise it was true, then began to change immediately.

Began by observing how his opinion may be right.

Question 13

When we are wrong, we may admit it to ourselves. But in what case will we admit it to others?

Answer 13

Only when we are handled gently and tactfully we may admit it to others and even take pride in our broad-mindedness

Question 14

Instead of instinctively reacting with “that’s right/wrong”, What should be done?

Answer 14

Understand precisely what the meaning of the statement is to the other person.

Question 15

There’s magic in such phrases as “I may be wrong, I frequently am. Let’s examine the facts.” Why?

Answer 15

I will never get into uncle but admitting that I may be wrong.

Question 16

What type of person defends their mistakes?

Answer 16

Any fool can try to defend their mistakes - and most of them do

Question 17

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 1

Answer 17

The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it

Question 18

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 2

Answer 18

Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say “You’re wrong”

Question 19

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 3

Answer 19

If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically

Question 20

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 4

Answer 20

Begin in a friendly way

Question 21

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 5

Answer 21

Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately

Question 22

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 6

Answer 22

Let the other person do a great deal of the talking

Question 23

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 7

Answer 23

Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers

Question 24

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 8

Answer 24

Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view

Question 25

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 9

Answer 25

Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires

Question 26

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 10

Answer 26

Appeal to the nobler motives

Question 27

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 11

Answer 27

Dramatize your ideas

Question 28

HOW TO WIN PEOPLE TO YOUR WAY OF THINKING - Principle 12

Answer 28

Throw down a challenge

Question 29

How to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument

Answer 29

*Welcome the disagreement
*Distrust your first instinctive impression
*Control your temper
*Listen first - don’t resist, debate or defend
*Look for areas of agreement -dwell on things you both agree on
*Be honest - look for areas where you can admit error and say so, Apologize for your mistakes
*Promise to think over your opponents ideas and study them - your opponent may be right
*Thank your opponent sincerely for their interest
*Postpone action to give both sides the time to think through the problem - suggest that new meeting be held at a later time

Question 30

What did Henry Ford say was the one secret to success?

Answer 30

It lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as your own

Question 31

Ways to arouse an eager want in another person

Answer 31

1. Be enthusiastic and inspire them!
2. Think always in terms of other people’s point of view, and see things from their perspective
3. Understand the working of the other person’s mind and how they think about things

Question 32

We all are interested in what we want. What are some ways to persuade someone to do things?

Answer 32

Talk about what they want and how to get it.
First arouse in another person an eager want!
Ask yourself “How can I make this person want to do it?”