Finding Contentment Flashcards
Happiness = Wanting What I Have / Having What I Want
= Gratitude / Gratification
= Practise / Pursuit
= Journey / Destination
“He who is not contented with what he has would not be contented with what he would like to have.” - Socrates
When 1 door closes, another opens. Look for the gifts/meanings
What are the essential needs in my life? (Food, water, air, sleep). Sometimes the best way to appreciate is to take it away.
Practise gratitude. Be optimistic. Savour life’s little moments. Be deeply committed to lifelong goals. Nurture relationships like air. Experiences > possessions.
Friend’s friend’s friend > $5000. A friend happy = 15% + my happiness, 5% with each friend separation.
DO NOT PURSUE. IT IS WITH ME NOW!
Joy = Love - Fear
Love and fear can never coexist. Let go of fear.
Root of fear = attachment (of what we want/don’t want to happen). Detach. Allow nature to run its course. Be present. Focus on the journey
Love unconditionally. Exercise the heart.
Joy = full-body love contact, overflowing. Internal. Do shit just for the joy of it!
Decisions from love = never regretted. Decisions from fear = almost always regretted. Preview my decisions with these 2 emotions.
Love/Fear = driving force. Step forward into growth or step back into safety.
Hilariously exaggerate the worst outcome. This shifts fear patterns.
Thriving* = Freq of Positive / Freq of Negative
* thriving = 3.0+
Be: Positive 3:1 Negative
Evolutionarily, negativity helped to survive. Now, due to over safety, it is a burden. Positivity allows to reach our potential.
Insincere positivity can lead to cause positive emotions and be toxic. See it for what it is. Maintain 3:1 or higher tho.
Positivity during normality deposits money into emotional bank. Create joy on a daily basis.
Finding meaning = shortcut to positivity
Faith = Belief / Intellect
Faith = heart (I believe in...) Intellect = mind (I believe that...) Belief = mid point. Find Balance
Experiencing the mystical is the most beautiful emotion
Faith offers the deeper meaning. Science helps understand.
Faith is no weak attempt to mask the meanings. It’s an embracing of what’s truly meaningful.
Greek’s 2 ways of looking at life (both essential):
Mythos = Metaphorical explanation to the intangible in life
Logos = Logic of life. Our current operating system.
Faith allows to shine from lighting my own candle rather than just when sun is up. Curiosity and awe fuels this
Wisdom = √Experience
Wisdom = filtering insights where others get lost in piles of knowledge
= simplifying/distilling down life’s complexity
Insight can come through gut instinct. Can come from nature. Even silence
Gain experience through experiment. Find the heart of the sum of experiences (the root)
This stems from repeated action.
See the constants and the variables.
Fix situations, not people
