Family Relationships Flashcards
What is discipline?
- the set of strategies parents use to teach their children how to behave appropriately
- effective if child stops engaging in inappropriate behaviour and engages in appropriate behaviour instead
- ideally leads to internalization
What is internalization?
- the process by which children learn and accept the reasons for desired behaviour
How can a caregiver foster internalization?
- reasoning that focuses on the effects of a behaviour on someone else is best strategy for promoting internalization
- teaches empathy
- reasoning has to be combined with psychological pressure to foster internalization
What is the sweet spot of psychological pressure?
- slightly raised voice and disapproving look
What happens if there is too little psychological pressure?
- child disobeys and ignores message
What happens if there is too much psychological pressure?
- child is obedient but only because they feel forced to do it
- will only comply of there is a risk of being caught
What are some guidelines to disciplining young children?
- show and tell
- set limits
- give consequences
- hear them out
- give them your attention
- catch them being good
- know when not to respond
- be prepared for trouble
- redirect bad behaviour
- call a time out
What are the 2 dimensions of parenting?
- discipline/control
- sensitivity/support/warmth
What is the discipline/control dimension?
- extent to which parents monitor and manage their children’s behaviour through rules and consequences
What is the sensitivity/support/warmth dimension?
- extent to which parents mirror their children and are responsive to them
What are the parenting styles?
- authoritative
- authoritarian
- permissive
- uninvolved
What is authoritative parenting?
- high sensitivity/warmth and discipline
- attentive and responsive to child’s needs and concerns and respect the child’s perspective
- set clear standards and limits for their children and are firm and consistent about enforcement, but also allow autonomy within those limits
What is the effect of authoritative parenting on kids?
- good self confidence
- socially skilled; tend to have many friends and are well liked
- internalizes adults’ expectations and behave accordingly
- do well academically
What is authoritarian parenting?
- high in discipline, but low in sensitivity
- cold and unresponsive to child’s needs
- expect child to comply with parent’s desires without question
- exercise power by using threats, punishments, psychological control
What is the effect of authoritarian parenting on kids?
- creates hostility in children towards parents
- may be obedient in front of parent but tend to not internalize parent’s message
- more likely to rebel against parent’s rules, especially in adolescence
- lower in self confidence and generally higher levels of mental problems
- lower social competence
- more behavioural problems, like aggression and delinquency
What is permissive parenting?
- high in sensitivity, but low in discipline
- responsive to child’s needs and wishes but overly lenient
- do not require child to regulate themselves or act in appropriate ways
What is the effect of permissive parenting on kids?
- higher in impulsivity and tend to struggle with self control
- lower in academic achievement
- more behavioural problems, like aggression and delinquency
What is uninvolved parenting?
- low in discipline and sensitivity
- generally disengaged from parenting
- sometimes rejecting and neglectful
- focused on their own needs instead of children’s needs
What is the effect of uninvolved parenting on kids?
- struggle with self worth and mental health problems
- insecure attachment
- low in social competence
- low academic achievement
- more behavioural problems
What is moms parenting like?
- spend on average, even those that work, 1.5 hours more with their children than dads
- more likely to provide physical care and emotional support to children