Exam #3 Flashcards
What are close relationships characterized by?
Frequency, intensity, and uniqueness.
What are the 3 primary forces that draw people together?
Proximity, interpersonal attractiveness, and similarity.
Applies to physical appearance as well as personality. (Revealed through Comm)
Attractiveness
We tend to develop relationships with those who are about the same level of attractiveness as we are.
Matching hypothesis
What are the 3 parts of attractiveness?
Physical, social (warm, outgoing), task (hoe desirable someone is to work with)
We like people who are like us.
Similarity
Communication, specifically self-disclosure, is key to relational development. (Depth, breadth, frequency)
Social penetration theory
Explores how individual communication practices affect relational development and decline. (5 steps towards commitment and 5 steps down toward dissolution)
Knapp’s stage model
What are the 5 steps towards intimacy in knapp’s stage model?
- Initiating
- Experimenting
- Intensifying
- Integrating
- Bonding
What are the five stages to termination in knapp’s stage model?
- Differentiating
- Circumscribing
- Stagnating
- Avoiding
- Terminating
Recognizes that people move toward and away from intimacy and commitment as a relationship develops. (Couples encounter turning points which change the trajectory of their relationship)
Turning Point Model
What are common turning points in romantic relationships?
Get to know time Quality time Physical separation External competition Passion Exclusivity
What are common turning points in friendships?
Sharing activities Taking a trip together Sharing living quarters/no longer living together Self-disclosure Interference from a romantic partner
People experience tension when they experience two contradictory but connected needs. (Have to leave to balance these tensions both as individuals and as a dyad)
Relational dialectic theory
Primarily nonverbal, ambiguity allows for deniability (women tend to do this more actively, at least at the beginning of the relationship)
Flirting
Must leave to manage conflicting but equally important interpersonal needs.
Dialectics
What are the strategies for maintaining relationships?
- Positivity
- Assurances
- Self-disclosure
- Sharing tasks/household task talk
- Constructive conflict
- Appropriate humor
Once we open ourselves to intimacy, we also open ourselves to hurt and rejection. Negative, hurtful behaviors like nagging, criticizing, embarrassing, teasing, sounds often begin a cycle of negative behaviors.
Aversive communication behavior
Complex and painful emotion that occurs when a person perceives a threat to an existing relationship. (Can happen in romantic relationships and friendships)
Jealousy
The behavior/feature that drew you to a person is ultimately what causes the relationship to end.
Fatal attraction
Communication among a small number of people who share a common purpose or goal, who feel connected to each other, and who coordinate their behavior.
Small group communication
How many people are in a small group?
5-7 people are optimal. Must have 3 people
Goal must be clear if group is to be productive.
Shared purpose in group communication
Provide us with a sense of belonging and affection. (Family, friends, social groups)
Primary groups
Meet principally to solve problems or achieve a goal. (Support groups, work groups, committees)
Secondary groups
Focused on getting the job done.
Task communication
Focused on group maintenance and interpersonal relationships. (Not the same as socializing)
Relational communication