Exam 3 Flashcards
Responsiveness
The verbal and nonverbal behavior that conveys support and affection to a partner
Intimacy
Loving relationships characterized by closeness, connectedness, and bonds
Need for affiliation
The innate drive to be in a relationship
Immediate context
(Contexts of intimacy) Physical setting, couple’s mood, couple’s reason for talking
Personal context
(Contexts of intimacy) The personal beliefs and needs in a relationship
Relational Context
(Contexts of intimacy) Characteristics of a relationship and how a couple defines it
Group Context
(Contexts of intimacy) The couple’s social network of family and peers
Sociocultural Context
(Contexts of intimacy) Society’s norms and beliefs that couples live and relate with
Emotional Attachment
Feelings that promote a sense of closeness, bonding with one another, and connection
What are the 3 prongs of intimacy according to Prager?
- Self disclosure
- Interpersonal Interactions
- Positive Feelings
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Intimacy Status
the commitment to and depth of a relationship
Intimate
A person capable of experiencing intimacy with another person
pseudo-intimate
A person or relationship that appears to be intimate but lacks depth
Stereotyped relationship
relationships where an individual has a number of causal relationships that are devoid of commitment
Isolates
People are socially withdrawn with no apparent need for social or close personal relationship
Merger Status
When intimate partners in a relationship experience an equal balance of power
Psychosocial Development
The social and emotional development of an individual
Eight Stages of man
Erik Erikson’s theory that social and emotional development is a lifelong process that takes place in eight stages
Pre Crowd stage
Isolated Same sex peer groups exist in the form of cliques or small groups
Beginning of the crowd
Same sex natured peer groups tend to grow to around 10 people in 8-9th grade
Crowd in Transition
During the end of junior high, peer groups are seen as in transition because smaller groups are found within the large crowd
Fully Developed Crowd
A group of opposite sex cliques
Crowd Disintegration
As people get older, they are no longer able to maintain small, group relationships, they begin to focus more on their significant other
Empathy
the capacity to understand another’s circumstances and the ability to feel and express emotional concern for that person
Identity
An individual’s sense of who he or she is
Individuation
Where teens begin to form an identity of their own, separate from their family’s
Autonomy
One’s desire to self rule or one’s will
Gender Typing
The process of developing the behaviors, thoughts, and emotions associated with a particular gender
Cross- Sex friendships
Friendships between different sex peers
Contact Hypothesis
The idea that negative stereotypes about other groups exist because of a lack of contact in between groups
Intergenerational Family Theory
The theory that patterns of relational functioning are passed down from generation to generation
Elopement
Secret marriages between love partners that take place without parental approval and or knowledge
Eros
Sensual or Sexual Love
Philos
Brotherly Love (friends and family)
Agape
Self-sacrificing, spiritual, unconditional love
Prototype
A model of something
Love Map
A mental blueprint of what ideal love should look like
Infatuation
An intense, extravagant, and often short-lived passion for another person
Simple infatuation
physical attraction that is often connected with daydreams and fantasies
Romantic infatuation
Romantic love, involves a complicated often overpowering blend of emotion and sexuality
Passionate love
A wildly powerful emotion of experience as intense longing for the selected love object
Fatuous
refers to infatuation-based relationships
Stalking
The obsessive following, observing, or contacting of another person or the obsessive attempt to engage in any of these activities
Cyber Stalking
Online Stalking
Rejected Stalkers
Stalkers who want to reverse, or correct the rejection of their affections or love
Intimacy Stalkers
Stalkers who want to establish and intimate loving relationship with their victim
Incompetent stalkers
Stalkers who have poor social and emotional skills and have difficulty expressing themselves
Resentful Stalkers
Stalkers who are out for vengeance because they believe that they were wronged
Predatory Stalkers
Stalkers who spy on the victim in order to plan a sexual attack
Jealousy
An emotional reaction to the perception that a valued relationship is threatened because of a third party
Retroactive Jealousy
Occurs when a romantic partner is bothered by their partner’s past romantic and sexual relationships
Companionate Love
Deep, Tender, Mature, Affectionate attachment bonds shared between two people
Reward
the benefits from a social relationship
Triangular Theory of love
Robert Sternberg: Conceptualizes eight different types of love
Commitment
Loving another person as a conscious act of will
Passion
Physical attraction and romantic feelings that initially draw us towards another person
Non-love
Sternberg; The absence of intimacy, commitment, and passion
Liking
Sternberg; Intimacy is the sole element in the relationship and makes long lasting friendships
Empty love
Sternberg; Devoid of passion and intimacy
Infatuated Love
Sternberg; Consists of Passion only
Fatuous Love
Sternberg; Combines passion and commitment, couples wants to marry and cohabit right away
Romantic Love
Sternberg; Intimacy and passion are the main parts
Consummate love
Sternberg; Whole, absolute love for another person
Altruistic love
An unselfish giving type of love
Intrinsic Rewards
Rewards that are pleasurable in and of themselves
Interdependent love
The ability for people to be dependent and have someone depend on them
Dependent love
Love between an adult and an infant or child
Attachment
An emotional or affectionate bond that binds the child to a parent or caregiver
Attachment Theory
John Bowlbey’s theory about the enduring patterns of interpersonal relationships from cradle to grave
Secure Attachment Types
Where people have little difficulty seeking and maintaining closeness with another
Avoidant Attachment Type
Avoidant adults how discomfort with intimacy and have trust issues
Anxious/ Ambivalent Attachment Types
Insecurity is the hallmark of this attachment
Love Stories
Our unique personal experiences with love
Intergenerational Approach to family theory
An approach seeking to understand the transmitted information or traditions from one generation to another
Genograms
A diagram with various figures that illustrate relationships between family members
Erotic Lovers
People who are passionate and romantic and seek out passionately expressive lovers
Ludus
Love that is playfulLudic
Ludic Lovers
People who don’t care as much about commitment as they do just having fun
Storge
Friendship love
Storgic Lovers
People who typically come other love each other over time
Manic Lovers
Jealousy, Envy, and exclusivity are the hallmarks of these lovers
Pragma Love
Practicality and logic guide the lover
Agape
Intrinsic satisfaction with reciprocity
Polyamory
The practice of intimate relationships with more than one partner with all partner’s consent
Reiss’s Wheel Theory of love
A wheel that shows how love as a developmental process unfolds over time
Rapport
Reiss; A connection or bond we feel with another person
self revelations
Reiss; When we feel more comfortable in another person’s presence, we feel more comfortable self disclosing our personal hopes, dreams, fears, and goals
Mutual Dependency
Reiss; A couple’s reliance on one another for need fulfillment
Personality Need Fulfillment
Reiss; An established pattern oc mutual exchanges of support, sympathy, and decision making
Love Economic Model
Chau Vuong’s model; Based on the primary assumptions that people are rational decision makers and are able to tally the benefits and cons of being in love
Emotional Needs
Self esteem, social and spiritual needs, and safety
Entertainment Needs
Social Aspects of day to ay living and family life
Materialistic needs
the primary needs required for survival
Search Cost
Include our attractiveness or our ability to attract potential partners with social networking skills
Rejection Costs
The emotional Cost of rejection
Maintenance Costs
Emotional costs and time costs involved in finding the right person
Breakup Risk
Determining the lover’s future overall benefit with the individual
Breakup cost
Emotional and financial costs of a breakup, and the search cost necessary to find another love
Interpersonal Attraction
The attraction between people that leads to the development of platonic relationship
Natural Selection
The process by which nature selects the best adapted varieties of a species to survive
Sexual Selection
Natural Selection involving 1. two people competing to mate, and 2. someone chooses to mate with a more preferable person
Fertility Cues
Physical traits associated with fertility
Protector/ Provider cues
the cues a woman looks for in a mate
Social Exchange theory
Centers on the exchange of people’s material or symbolic resources. States that people act out of self interest
Cost
increases the likelihood that someone will not participate in a particular behavior
Matching Hypothesis
The premises that most of us want a socially desirable person regardless of our own degree of social desirability
Filter theory of mating
Suggests that individuals who use a filtering mechanism that helps them sort out a potential mate from the vast pool of candidates
Pool of candidates
Eligible relationship partners
Propinquity
Geographical closeness
Homogamy
Partnering with someone who is similar to you both socially and culturally
Exogamy
Where one marries outside of a particular group
Endogamy
The custom of marrying someone within your same group
Heterogamy
Partners who are different politically, socially, ethnically, etc
Pair Bonds
A couple who is emotionally bonded to each other
Courting
Socially prescribed forms of conduct that guide young men and women toward matrimony
Script theory
The theory that individuals use scripts that help organize the information in our environments
Cultural Scripts
Common guidance that provide instructions about what behaviors and emotions are expected in certain situations
Intrapsychic Scripts
Sexual Scripts that account for an individuals wants/ fantasies while still caring for the other person
Interpersonal Scripts
Seual Scripts that recognize how different people interact and relate to each other within specific situations
Dating Scripts
The models that guide our dating interactions
Asexual
A person who does not experience any physical attraction
Romantic Orientations
The sex or gender with which a person is likely to have a romantic relationship or fall in love with
Speed dating
A quick interaction between people to see if they would like to go on a second date
Dating Violence
The threat of an act of violence against a person involved in a dating relationships
Sexual Assault
Forcing Sex on someone who does not give consent
Hooking up
Brief sexual encounters with someone with no commitment
Sociological or incidental cue
The restrictions and limitations placed on ones ability to meet people
Preinteraction Cues
At glance information that helps us decide whether we would even want to date a certain person
Interaction cues
Cues that enable us to assess what we want in a relationship
Cognitive cues
another persons traits, beliefs, and goals in life. Their role in life
Personal commitment
the feelings, thoughts, and beliefs that we have about a spouse
Moral Commitment
Each person’s value and belief systems
Structural Commitments
Commitments bound by institutions such as marriage
Relational transgressions
Hurtful words or actions that communicate a devaluation of the partner or the relationship
Distress reactions
Reactions to a breakup that include such things as physical and emotional pain, and loss of interest
Protest Reactions
Behaviors and feelings that attempt to reestablish a relationship such as trying to reinvolve the ex partner in sexual relationships
Common Law marriage
A relationship between cohabiting heterosexual partners who are not legally married
