EXAM 2 Flashcards
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politeness theory
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explains why and how people try to promote, protect, to save face
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face
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desired self image you wish to present to others
3
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negative face
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- desire to act freely without constraint
- brutally honest
4
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positive face
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- liked, appreciated, admired
- doing thing so people feel this way about you
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3 assumptions of politeness theory
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1) all people are concerned with maintaining face
2) humans are rational and goal orientated
3) Some behaviors are fundamentally face threatening
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preventive face work
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- working for a specific face
- avoid topic
- lie
- pretend not to notice
- change topic
- BEFORE THE FACE HAPPENS
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corrective face work
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- fixing face of self or another after a face threatening act
- AFTER FACE HAPPENS
8
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avoid
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choose not to communicate/ change topic
9
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go off record
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indirectly hints or subtly mentions face threat topic
10
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negative politeness
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speaker makes effort to recognize others negative face needs
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positive politeness
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speaker emphasizes recipes need to be liked
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bald on record
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blunt. no attempt to protect face
13
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artifacts
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things you own/ materialistic
14
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kinesics
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body movement
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haptics
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touch
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proxemics
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use of personal space
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physical appearance
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what you look like
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environment
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how you set up “your” space
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chronemics
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the use of time to communicate
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vocalics
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tone, rate, pitch of speaking
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stages of escalation
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- initiating
- experimenting
- intensifying
- integrating
- bonding
22
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movement in relationships
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- generally sequential
- may be forward or backward
- move within stages happen
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initiating stage
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- display self
- scan for commonalities/ attractiveness
- talk
- greeting seduction rituals
- ends with first line
- caution and convention
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experimenting stage
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- we ask questions
- small talk
- we decide if its worthwhile
- most relationships do not progress beyond this point
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intensifying stage
- move beyond superficial knowledge
- gradually= tentative
- increase depth
- more informal
- switch from I to we
- make direct expressions
- private jokes
- take on roles
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integrating stage
- identities fuse and become a couple
- merge social circles
- common property (songs/ movies)
- similarities in speech, dress and mannerisms
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bonding stage
- public ritual to announce the formal commitment
- marriage/ engagement
- hard to terminate at this point
- you can pop in and out of this stage
- make sacrifices for relationship
- long term plans
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coming apart stages
- differentiating
- circumscribing
- stagnating
- avoiding
- terminating
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differentiating stage
- becoming distant
- realizing how different you are as people
- arguments and attempts to break up
- confused/ separate
- less talk about topics central to personalities
- unfused identities
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circumscribing stage
- cutting off certain topics
- reduce quantity and quality
- less affection talk
- do induvidualisic actives
- feel cold or distant
- silent in the car
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stagnating stage
- communication is infrequent, tense and awkward
- afraid talk will produce
- low experimentation
- little sense of bringing up certain topics because you know what would happen
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avoiding stage
- rearranging lives to avoid contact
- talk frankly
- more of a way not to waste engird on person
- angry, helpless, nervous
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terminating stage
-ending relationship verbally, physically
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liking
affection- warm, closeness, fondness
| respect- admiration independent of relationship
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loving
attachment- powerful drive to be in presence
caring- need to give without concern for receiving
intimacy- sense of deep union between 2 people
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principal of lease interest
the person who cares the least has the most power
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more romantic
men
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falls in love faster
men
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falls our of love faster
women
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recover better after relationship
women
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sees more problems in relationship
woman
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dump more
women
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dump more if less involved
men
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sees breakup as abrupt
men
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suffers more after relationship breakup
men
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experience unrequited love more
women
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who experiences love at first sight more
men
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love styles scale
- storge
- Agapic
- Manic
- Pragma
- Ludic
- Eros
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Storge
- friendship love
- very close friendships becomes love
- women have higher these
- love is not mystery feeling
- physical attraction is not as important
- emotions tend to be muted
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Agapic
- selfless love
- I would rather suffer than let them suffer
- put ones love above ones left
- can be taken advantage
- more focused on giving then receiving
- willing to make sacrifices
- want someone to love
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Manic
- possessive love
- feeling ownership over lover
- demanding, dependent, possessive
- always comparing relationship with when it was at its best
- happiness relies on someone else
- obsessive or over control
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Pragma
- logical love
- cognitive appreciate for others quality
- best to love someone with similar background
- shopping list lover
- rational (pros and cons)
- love is a choice
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Ludic
- game play love
- flirtatious and not committed
- love is fleeting and fun mindset
- best person to date
- avoid serious commitment
- low levels of disclosure
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Eros
- passionate love
- love at first sight
- emotional highs and lows
- escalate sexual intimacy
- physical contact/ nonverbal affection
- serial daters
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storge and storge
good
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eros and storge
bad
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eros and eros
bad
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manic and storge
bad
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social exchange theory
- people evaluate relationships based on an exchange of goods
- maximize reward
- minimize cost
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evaluating a relationship
- comparison level
- comparison level for alternatives
- outcomes
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comparison leven (CL)
- what we believe we deserve in our relationships
- the list
- measure our happiness
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comparison level for alternatives (CLalt)
- what rewards we would get if we were not in this relationship
- measure our stability
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outcomes (O)
-what actually comes occurs in reality
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8 codes of nonverbal comm
- artifacts
- kinesics
- haptics
- proxemics
- physical appearance
- environment
- chronemics
- vocalics
