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Question 1

How can meditation strengthen your relationship?

Answer 1

By balancing your energies and improving your sacred sexuality practice.

Question 2

How often should you practice meditating with your partner?

Answer 2

At least once a week.

You can incorporate this practice during your “quality time” weekly dates, or could also do it in the mornings or before bed for example. This will improve the quality of your connection and intimacy.

Question 3

What is on the list for a full tantra session?

Answer 3

Candles, roses, massages, and meditation prior to having sex.

Question 4

Best practices for Counterpart meditation for singles.

Answer 4

1. Shield your energy
2. Allow things to unfold naturally
3. Call upon your divine counterpart’s higher self, then feel and visualize their presence as you meditate.

Question 5

How can couples position themselves during meditation?

Answer 5

1. You can sit crossed legged in front of each other and place a pillow or cushion under your hips so that your hips are elevated.
2. You can place two chairs in front of one another, this will most likely be the most comfortable way for people with tighter hips.
3. You can sit in the YabYum position with the female or the person that identifies with the feminine energy sitting on top of the male’s lap.

Question 6

What is the benefit of eye-gazing?

Answer 6

Connect at the soul level.

In this place you can deeply feel and see each other, and communicate without words.

Question 7

How do you practice eye-gazing?

Answer 7

1. Agree on a time. (Usually 3-5 minutes)
2. Sit comfortably facing each other.
3. Get comfortable.

• It is okay to blink, but hold eye contact.
• Some traditions share that the right eye is more critical and analytical, while the left eye is more gentle and welcoming because it is more connected to the heart and soul. Try both and see how it feels for you.
• Some people experience seeing their partner’s face shifting, they may see their face from past/parallel lives or their energetic form, if this happens with you, just observe it with an open mind.

Question 8

How do you practice the Partner Meditation Balancing Breath technique?

Answer 8

• Sit comfortably facing each other and activate your energy shields.
• Take a few deep breaths to center yourself first, you may need a moment with your eyes closed to go within and ground yourself first before connecting with your partner.
• Inhale slowly in a count of 1 to 4, while your partner exhales slowly in a count of 1 to 4.
• Keep following this rhythm balancing your breaths creating a continuous flow.

Question 9

How can you practice the partner microcosmic orbit during meditation.

Answer 9

1. Inhale visualizing energy moving down from your partner’s crown to their pelvis through the front of their body, and out of their genitals into yours then up from your pelvis to your crown.
2. Exhale visualizing energy moving down from your crown to your pelvis through the front of your body then out of your genitals into your partner’s genitals and traveling up their spine as you inhale.

You can practice this meditation sitting in front of each other, or while having sex. When you practice this visualization while having sex you are helping to exchange the orgasmic energy between you and your partner and practicing prolonging both of your orgasmic experience.

Question 10

With respect to giving and receiving, which is more masculine and which is more feminine?

Answer 10

Giving is masculine and receiving is feminine.

Question 11

How can a couple practice giving and recieving at home?

Answer 11

During your weekly dates, practice switching roles as giver and receiver to become comfortable in both positions and be skilled at both.

Question 12

List the attributes of being the giver.

Answer 12

• Give pleasure to your partner through acts such as massages or oral sex.
• Practice giving without expecting anything in return and prioritize your partner’s pleasure.
• Communicate with your partner about their preferences and desires before and during the date.
• Pay attention to your own feelings and reactions as you give pleasure.
• Be open to receiving feedback from your partner and avoid taking it personally.
• Encourage your partner to give feedback and express their desires.
• Cultivate open and comfortable communication for a better sex life and relationship.
• Practice acts of devotion without expecting sex in return.
• Alternate roles with your partner, allowing them to receive without giving back immediately.

Question 13

List the attributes of being the reciever.

Answer 13

Learn to express yourself and use your voice as the receiver to receive what you like, want, and need.
Avoid being passive and unresponsive during pleasurable activities; let your partner know you’re enjoying it through sounds and verbal cues.
Provide guidance and feedback to your partner during the experience, balancing positive reinforcement with requests for adjustments.
Find a sweet balance between giving feedback and relaxing as the receiver, avoiding overcontrol and allowing your partner to flow.
Address any negative beliefs or feelings of unworthiness as the receiver of attention and love.
Practice switching roles even in activities like kissing, taking turns being the active participant and the one surrendering.

Question 14

List the tantric principles of touch.

Answer 14

• Stay present and focused on your touch, avoiding distractions and maintaining a sense of connection.
• Ensure that you are relaxed and comfortable in your own body while touching your partner.
• Pay attention to your breath and encourage deep breathing in both yourself and your partner.
• Infuse your touch with love and appreciation, conveying your emotions through your hands or lips.
• Project confidence in your touch to inspire trust and surrender from your partner.
• Warm up your hands and create a comfortable environment for touch.
• Explore touching their entire body, front and back, including all chakra areas.

Question 15

List the six levels of touch.

Answer 15

1st level; Static touch, no moving yin energy.

2nd level; Moving, stroking, circular motions or straight lines,
quicker and slower movements.

3rd level; Squeezing, pinching and needing gently.

4th level; Scratching

5th level; Slapping (and holding)

6th level; Healing (intentionally send loving energy to your partner’s body, transmuting any negative energies through visualization and energetic intention. Use hands, lips, or genitals to facilitate healing and remove what doesn’t serve their highest good.)

Question 16

What are the 3 types of orgasms?

Answer 16

1. Implosive vs. explosive
2. Local vs. full-body
3. Physical vs. spiritual

Question 17

Describe implosive vs explosive orgasms.

Answer 17

Implosive (energy contained within the body)
Explosive (energy expelled from the body
With implosive orgasms often felt in one place like the clitoris or as full-body orgasms.

Question 18

Describe local vs. full body orgasms.

Answer 18

Local orgasms concentrate energy in one area, typically the pelvis, while full-body orgasms allow energy to freely move throughout the entire body.

Question 19

Describe physical vs spiritual orgasms.

Answer 19

Physical orgasms focus on specific areas like the pelvis or heart, while spiritual orgasms involve energy flowing through the entire body, activating higher chakras and leading to a sense of expansion and connection with the higher-self and soul.

Question 20

List the kind of orgasms that can be achieved.

Answer 20

Ejaculatory orgasms
Male non ejaculatory orgasms
Prostate orgasms
Clitoris orgasms
G-spot orgasms (often with squirting)
A and P spot orgams (Anterior and Posterior fornix)
Cervix orgams
Full-body (cosmic) orgasms
Heart orgasms
Brain orgasms

Question 21

List the key characteristics of the tantric massage.

Answer 21

• Tantric massage utilizes tantra principles and involves full body stimulation with a focus on sensitive areas such as the lingam, yoni, and prostate (with prior agreement).
• It incorporates breathwork, meditation, and mindfulness, and goes beyond being solely sexual, having a spiritual and energetic component to promote inner healing.
• Genital massage is integral to tantric massage as it awakens life-force energy, always accompanied by a full body massage to open and relax the body beforehand.

Question 22

What conditions can tantric massages be beneficial for?

Answer 22

Sexual abuse
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
Anorgasmia
Female genital mutilation (FGM)
Chronic health conditions
Infertility
Childbirth trauma
Impotence and premature ejaculation
Pornography addiction
Excessive masturbation
Feelings of guilt a shame relating to sexuality
Low energy levels
Excessive negative energy and emotions

Question 23

Why should we wait until we have a partner to recieve a tantric massage opposed to hiring a stranger?

Answer 23

Due to the sacred and vulnerable nature of tantric massage, it is recommended to wait until you have a trusted partner to share this intimate practice with, as receiving it from a stranger carries the risk of emotional and spiritual wounds if not approached with infinite love, respect, and proper energetic boundaries.

Question 24

What are the most essential elements of a tantra massage?

Answer 24

For the recipient, being able to receive pleasure without feeling compelled to reciprocate.
For the giver, being willing to provide pleasure without the need of the same in return.
For the giver, learning to read the partner’s body language and understanding the importance of touch.
For both, forgetting about time.
Each partner must have a strong desire to please the other.
Strong personal hygiene in preparation for the experience is essential.

Question 25

What is the focus of de-armouring yoni massage?

Answer 25

De-armouring yoni massage focuses on releasing sexual blockages and eliminating numbness or pain to enhance pleasure and access our true pleasure potential.

Question 26

How does de-armouring work?

Answer 26

De-armouring involves applying strategic pressure to specific areas in the vaginal canal, stimulating tightness and contraction to release spiritual, emotional, and physical blockages.

Question 27

What are the effects of de-armouring on the body?

Answer 27

De-armouring increases blood flow to sexual tissues, releases pressure spots, and opens pathways for psychological, physical, and emotional healing.

Question 28

What emotions can accumulate in the vaginal canal and limit pleasure potential?

Answer 28

Suppressed anger, shame, guilt, or sadness can accumulate in the vaginal canal, significantly limiting pleasure potential.

Question 29

What can be achieved after de-armouring sessions?

Answer 29

After de-armouring sessions, you can transform your vagina, opening yourself up to internal orgasms, feeling more relaxed, softer, lighter, and ready for pure sexual bliss.

Question 30

Who can benefit from de-armoring sessions?

Answer 30

Every woman but it will be especially beneficial to women who can relate to any of the topics listed below:
* Feel little to no sensation in your vaginal area
* Have experienced sexual trauma
* Have low self-esteem
* Experience body or sexual shame
* Are always in your head during intercourse or foreplay
* Experience pain or tightness during sex
* Struggle with internal vaginal orgasms
* Experience limited enjoyment
* Feel disconnected, blocked, stuck, or like you are carrying ‘baggage’ down there from the past
* Was taught that sex is dirty or that you can not be sexual as a woman
* Have been penetrated too soon before your Yoni was really open (Very common)
* Learned dysfunctional beliefs and convictions around (female) sexuality
* Stress
* Rought sex
* Using too much vibrator

Question 31

What can manifest as a result of tension or baggage in relation to sexual experiences?

Answer 31

Lack of physical sensations or behavioral patterns that negatively impact the way you experience sex and pleasure.

Question 32

How does tension or baggage affect the relaxation and openness of sexual tissues?

Answer 32

It can cause contraction, pain, or tightness in response to sexual stimulation, preventing the natural relaxation and openness of sexual tissues.

Question 33

Where are the areas of contraction typically located in the vagina?

Answer 33

The areas of contraction are typically located in the vagina, consisting of built-up pockets of pressure.

Question 34

What are some negative physical sensations associated with these areas of contraction?

Answer 34

These areas can feel numb or sore when touched, leading to negative physical sensations.

Question 35

Can these areas also release emotional responses when stimulated?

Answer 35

Yes, when stimulated, these areas can release emotional responses such as sadness, grief, or anger.

Question 36

What are some potential consequences of experiencing tension or carrying baggage in sexual areas?

Answer 36

Experiencing these issues can lead to anxiety in the bedroom, numbness in the vaginal region, sexual shutdown, and low libido.

Question 37

What are some tips for solo de-armoring sessions?

Answer 37

De-armoring yoni massage can be shared with a partner or performed solo using a dildo, especially to reach the cervix while staying relaxed.
Consider using a crystal dildo for its natural organic material and powerful healing energies, ensuring it is cleansed and connected with your intention before use.

Question 38

What is the intent of a de-armoring yoni session?

Answer 38

• The intention of this practice is to release any stored emotion, tightness, or trauma.
• The intention of this practice is not focused on reaching orgasm but rather on relaxing into the healing process with love and awareness.
• During the practice, various emotions and sensations may arise, and it’s important to be present and accepting of whatever unfolds, including the possibility of an orgasm without intentionally seeking it.

Question 39

List the tips of receiving or practicing a yoni massage yourself?

Answer 39

• Listen to your body
• Go slow
• Completely release any judgment
• Eliminate expectations
• Give yourself full permission to express any and all emotions — anger, tears, rage, laughter, grief — that surface
• Remember that the goal right now is not to have an orgasm but rather to release any stored emotion, tightness, or trauma
• Do not overthink or ‘get in your head’
• Trust your body
• Hold nothing back

Question 40

What are the 16 steps to perform a De-Armoring Yoni Massage?

Answer 40

1. Set the mood: Create a warm, inviting atmosphere with fresh bedding, dim lights, candles, and meditative music.
2. Prepare the oils: Use natural, hypoallergenic massage oils like coconut oil or almond oil to reduce friction and increase sensation.
3. Set intentions: Establish emotional mood and mindset for the massage.
4. Find a comfortable position: Ensure your partner or yourself is relaxed, lying on their back with knees bent and legs apart. Use pillows for added comfort.
5. Breathe deeply: Focus on deep breathing throughout the experience.
6. Massage the entire body first: Relax and open the body before touching the yoni, including breasts.
7. Ask for permission: If the giver, obtain consent before touching the yoni.
8. Massage the vulva: Start with gentle touches, squeezes, circling, and tapping on the external area, including labias.
9. Insert fingers or dildo: With permission, gently insert fingers or a dildo into the yoni.
10. Start slow: Begin with only the tip inserted, allowing the yoni to adjust and open gradually.
11. Static touch: Hold fingers or dildo in place with loving intention.
12. Explore and release tension: Search for areas of tension, pain, or numbness, focusing on them with pressure and different motions.
13. Express sounds: Encourage the receiver to express sensations through sound, releasing emotions as needed.
14. Assess needs: Once an area is expressed and released, remove pressure and ask the body or receiver what is needed next
15. Locate another area: If desired, find another area of numbness or discomfort to apply pressure to, continuing the de-armouring process.
16. Enjoy new sensations: After consistent de-armouring sessions, new sensations and pleasure may arise, allowing for the expression of sounds of pleasure.

Question 41

List the 17 steps to stimulate the g-spot.

Answer 41

1. Set the mood: Create a warm, inviting atmosphere with fresh bedding, dim lights, candles, and meditative music. (*Use a waterproof layer if concerned about wetting the sheets.)
2. Prepare the oils: Use natural, hypoallergenic massage oils like coconut oil or almond oil to reduce friction and increase sensation.
3. Empty your bladder.
4. Set intentions: Establish emotional mood and mindset for the massage.
5. Find a comfortable position: Relax lying on your back with legs apart and knees bent, using pillows for support if needed. (For solo practice, find a relaxed position with easy access to your vagina.)
6. Breathe deeply: Focus on long, deep breaths throughout the experience.
7. Massage the entire body first: Prioritize relaxing the entire body, including breasts, before touching the yoni.
8. Ask for permission: If the giver, obtain consent before touching the yoni.
9. Massage the vulva: Start with gentle, varied touches on the external area, including labias, demonstrating love and care in each touch.
10. Insert fingers or dildo: With permission, gently insert fingers or a dildo into the yoni. (For solo practice, ensure you feel ready and open before insertion.)
11. Start slow: Begin with inserting only the tip and allow the yoni to gradually open up to the touch.
12. Locate the G-spot: Curve fingers or use a curved dildo to stimulate the G-spot, located about two knuckles inside or along the upper wall of the vagina.
13. Relax into it: Allow the feeling of needing to urinate to build while staying relaxed, taking deep breaths as sexual excitement grows.
14. Find rhythm and pressure: Experiment with slow and gentle or fast and strong touch to find what feels best.
15. Release tension and expectation: Approach the moment with curiosity and allow sensations to build without pressure. Squirting may happen on the first try or require a few attempts.
16. Ride the wave: Stay relaxed and let your body take you to orgasm, being aware that fluid passing through the urethra will feel similar to urination.
17. Continue if desired: Female ejaculation doesn’t have to end the experience; explore multiple orgasms and ejaculations with further sexual play.

Question 42

Is it recommended to have a specific tantra/meditation room in your home, or can you use your bedroom for these practices?

Answer 42

It is a great idea to have a specific tantra/meditation room, but if not possible, your bedroom can be used with some adjustments.

Question 43

Why should you avoid watching TV, eating, and working in your bedroom?

Answer 43

These activities should be avoided to associate the bedroom with sleep and rest, ensuring better nights of sleep.

Question 44

Should you have electronics in the bedroom or tantra room?

Answer 44

No, it’s best to have no electronics, including cell phones, TVs, and computers, to minimize electromagnetic radiation and distractions.

Question 45

How often should you change your bedding?

Answer 45

It is recommended to change your sheets at least once a week or more frequently if needed.

Question 46

What kind of lighting is ideal for the space?

Answer 46

Soft, dimmable lights and lamps that can change colors create a romantic and relaxing ambiance.

Question 47

Are natural candles recommended?

Answer 47

Yes, natural candles made of coconut wax, beeswax, or soy wax with natural fragrances are recommended for a pleasant aroma and positive energy.

Question 48

What additional items should be easily accessible?

Answer 48

Hand towels, wet wipes or kleenex, natural lubricant oils, massage oils, and any other massage tools.

Question 49

How can crystals contribute to the space?

Answer 49

Crystals bring protection and amplify the energy in the room, so gradually building a collection is beneficial.

Question 50

Why is it important to keep the space clutter-free?

Answer 50

A neat space helps promote comfort and allows energy to flow freely.

Question 51

Can spontaneous sex occur in other places besides the bedroom?

Answer 51

Yes, spontaneous sex in different locations can bring variety and surprise to the relationship, but avoid the habit of only expecting sex when tired or rushed.

Question 52

How can putting more effort improve your sex life?

Answer 52

Putting in effort can enhance your sex life and maintain excitement in the relationship.

Question 53

How should we connect with our partner?

Answer 53

• Center and ground yourself before practicing with your partner to create a solid foundation.
• Connect with your partner through eye contact, breath, hugs, and kisses, creating a safe space without expectations.
• Approach the practice without expectations, allowing it to unfold naturally and without pressure or preconceived notions.

Question 54

What are some positioning tips for sacred sex?

Answer 54

• The male should lie down and focus on relaxing his body, while the female takes the active role on top, moving slowly and gently.
• The focus for the male is on deep breathing and expanding sexual energy throughout the body, while the female explores and stimulates pleasurable spots inside her vagina.
• Once the male has mastered non-ejaculatory sex, different positions can be explored for added variety and pleasure.

Question 55

What is the importance of reminding yourself of your intention in sacred sexuality?

Answer 55

Reminding yourself of your intention helps keep you focused on your goals, whether it’s learning sacred sexuality, experiencing different kinds of orgasms, improving your sex life, or deepening intimacy and connection with your partner.

Question 56

What is the recommended period of abstaining from ejaculation for males prior to practicing?

Answer 56

Males should feel comfortable with not ejaculating for at least 15 to 21 days before starting their practice.

Question 57

How long should males wait without ejaculating before having sex with their partner?

Answer 57

Males should wait at least 11 days without ejaculating before engaging in sexual activity with their partner to ensure that the refractory period has ended and hormone levels are back to normal.

Question 58

What is the recommended time frame since the last ejaculation for males before starting non-ejaculatory sex?

Answer 58

It is advised that males have their last ejaculation no longer than 21 days prior to starting non-ejaculatory sex to prevent excessive build-up of sexual tension.

Question 59

What is important for females to consider before engaging in sacred sexuality practices?

Answer 59

Females should have previously completed a 21-day no orgasm challenge and feel comfortable with their sexual energy, ensuring that they can enjoy it without it controlling them.

Question 60

What is the purpose of the 21-day challenge of having sex without ejaculating?

Answer 60

The purpose of the 21-day challenge is to rewire the brain and create new neural pathways in order to become comfortable with being sexual with a partner without the need for ejaculation (or making the partner ejaculate).

Question 61

Should you engage in masturbation during the 21-day sacred sexuality challenge with your partner?

Answer 61

No, it is recommended to abstain from masturbation during this process.

Question 62

How should you start the practice during the initial days of the challenge?

Answer 62

The male should penetrate the female and stay still or engage in minimal movement, gently rocking back and forth, while focusing on the orgasmic breath and microcosmic orbit visualization. Starting with about 5 minutes of this practice is sufficient, gradually increasing the time each day.

Question 63

Why is it important to start slowly and take it easy in the beginning of the challenge?

Answer 63

Starting slowly helps avoid reverting to old sexual patterns and allows for a deeper focus on subtle energies and sensations with the partner, even if one is already capable of having sex for an extended duration without ejaculating.

Question 64

How should I breathe during the practice to stay relaxed and focused?

Answer 64

Take deep inhales through the nose and exhales out the mouth. Allow natural sounds to come out when exhaling. This helps to stay relaxed, focused, and move the energy up from the pelvis towards the head.

Question 65

What is the purpose of visualizing the couple’s microcosmic orbit energy path?

Answer 65

The visualization of the microcosmic orbit energy path helps the energy flow freely between partners and allows for the prolonging and sharing of orgasmic waves. It is not necessary to visualize it continuously, but focusing on it periodically can be beneficial.

Question 66

What is the path of the energy in the microcosmic orbit visualization?

Answer 66

The energy flows up from the pelvis to the crown through the back of the spine, then down from the crown to the pelvis through the front of the body. It then moves out of the genitals into the partner’s genitals and up their back to their crown, continuing down from their crown to their pelvis and out of their genitals into yours, and so on, creating an infinity symbol.

Question 67

What kind of pelvic movements can be explored during the practice?

Answer 67

Instead of just thrusting back and forth, you can focus on arching and tucking or making wavelike movements with your pelvis. You can also try circling your pelvis around. The goal is to move your pelvis while staying inside your partner or while they are inside you, rather than focusing solely on in-and-out movements.

Question 68

Who may find it easier to perform these pelvic movements?

Answer 68

Women may find it easier to perform these pelvic movements compared to men. That’s one of the reasons why it’s recommended to have the woman on top until both partners feel comfortable with the practice.

Question 69

Why is it important to move slowly during the practice?

Answer 69

Moving slowly helps prevent ejaculation and discomfort. It allows you to build capacity for orgasmic energy without the need to reach a climax, experiencing waves of pleasure instead.

Question 70

What should be avoided to prevent testicle pain and discomfort for males?

Answer 70

Avoid getting close to the point of no return where ejaculation is imminent. This can be caused by moving too fast. If testicle pain occurs, the sexual energy should be moved by getting aroused again, focusing on the microcosmic orbit flow and orgasmic breath, and moving even slower.

Question 71

Why is patience important in the practice?

Answer 71

Patience allows for a more fulfilling experience. Learning to stay relaxed while aroused and practicing deep breathing facilitates the experience of non-ejaculatory orgasms.

Question 72

How should males approach the practice to stay relaxed?

Answer 72

Males should focus on staying relaxed, breathing slowly, and allowing the orgasmic energy to expand throughout their body. Instead of tensing up and breathing fast and shallow when nearing orgasm, they should relax and feel the sensations throughout their entire body.

Question 73

What should females do to enhance their experience?

Answer 73

Females should relax into the experience and avoid trying to forcefully reach orgasm. Instead, they can imagine themselves fully melting and relaxing to receive the orgasmic energy.

Question 74

How should one approach the practice with an open heart?

Answer 74

Focus on feeling the heart open, breathe through the heart, and relax the heart. This allows energy to flow through the heart and enhances the overall experience.

Question 75

How should one approach the practice with an open heart?

Answer 75

Focus on feeling the heart open, breathe through the heart, and relax the heart. This allows energy to flow through the heart and enhances the overall experience.

Question 76

Is there a specific timeframe for experiencing full-body and tantric orgasms?

Answer 76

The timeframe varies for each individual. It can take minutes, days, weeks, or even months. However, with practice, it becomes easier and faster to replicate the experience.

Question 77

Can full-body orgasms be experienced quickly?

Answer 77

Yes, once learned, full-body orgasms can be experienced in just a few minutes, similar to other types of orgasms. The duration of sexual activity does not necessarily need to be prolonged unless desired.

Question 78

Are oral and anal sex practices considered part of Sacred Sexuality?

Answer 78

Yes, these practices can be considered part of Sacred Sexuality as they involve intimate energy exchange with a partner.

Question 79

Is there an energy exchange involved in oral and anal sex?

Answer 79

Yes, there is still an energy exchange with a partner during oral and anal sex, making them potential components of a Sacred Sexuality practice.

Question 80

Are there any considerations for males regarding ejaculation frequency during oral sex?

Answer 80

Males should be aware of their ejaculation frequency and can choose to receive oral sex for a shorter period of time or at a slower pace to avoid ejaculation, or they can time it to align with their ejaculation if desired.