Coaching Questions Flashcards
Plot Mountain - 5 Stakeholder ?s
- Who are the key players?
- Who is the customer for this outcome (role, responsibility, decision making authority)?
- Who is working to support you?
- Who is working against you?
- Who else is impacted by this?
Plot Mountain - Challenge ?
What is the specific challenge (threat, opportunity, unfulfilled obligation) that you are facing?
Plot Mountain - Goal ?
What does success look like?
Plot Mountain - 3 Bigger Game ?s
- Why is this important?
- What is it that you are taking care of?
- What is the bigger game you are playing?
Plot Mountain - Options ?
What options are you considering?
Plot Mountain - 3 COS?s
- How will you know you’ve succeeded (What specific conditions?)?
- What is your time frame?
- What resources do you want to use for this?
Plot Mountain - Offer ?
Would you like to work with me on this?
3 Agenda ?’s
- What would you like to focus on today?
- What would be a successful outcome of our conversation?
- How will we know when you have succeeded?
5 MAP ?’s
- What is your promise?
- What is your likelihood of fulfillment (LoF)?
- Are any promises in jeopardy? (If so, what is needed, and what is your plan?
- What lessons could propell you forward?
- What next actions will move you closer to fulfillment?
3 Breakthrough Project ?’s
- What near-term outcome could significantly increase your likelihood of realizing your bigger goal?
- Looking across the value chain (BVC), what would be possible as a result?
- What ingredients (resouces, knowledge & expertise, competencies, capacity, experience, systems, authorities, commitments) will you need?
5 Timing ?s
- How long has this been on your mind?
- Where else has this shown up for you?
- Why is this coming up now?
- What is actually happening?
- What are the implications for the future?
3 Connector ?’s
- Is there anything else?
- What do you really think?… want?
- Where else has this shown up for you?
5 Exploration ?’s
- What is the challenge?
- What strategies have you used?
- What are you already clear / unclear about?
- Where are you getting stuck?
- What do you need to move forward?
3 Expansive ?s
- What might change if you knew you could not fail?
- What might change if you had 10x’s more boldness?
- How could this challenge also be an opportunity?
3 Prying ?’s
- Is there anything else you haven’t told me yet?
- Are there any thoughts or ideas are you having that you are reluctant to share?
- Are you avoiding or ignoring or running away from anything?
3 Ontological Discovery ?’s
- What is happening biologically?…Show me… Exaggerate…
- What specific emotions / moods are you experiencing?
- What **interpretations **are you making about yourself, others, and the situation?
Reframing 3 ?’s
- What are the costs & benefits?
- If you continued down this path, what does your **default future **look like? Is that a future you want?
- What would be a more inspiring / empowering interpretation?
5 Motivator ?’s
- Imagine you have succeeded. Speaking in present tense, what does success feel like?
- If you accomplished X, what would become possible?
- What about this energizes you?
- Are you willing to **be a commitment **for this?
- If so, what will you start/stop doing or do significantly more/ less of as an expression of your commitment?
5 Assessor Hat ?’s
- Why are we making this assessment?
- What is the domain?
- What standards are you using to evaluate?
- What evidence do you have?
- How can you research (Performance, Talent, 360) and/or test your assessment?
3 Teaching ?’s
- What is the most important lesson in this?
- What are the implications for your capability & performance?
- How could you apply what you are learning?
5 Planning ?’s
- Imagine you have you are standing in the future, and you have succeeded. Speaking in present tense, what are the conditions that define success?
- Working backwards, what specific challenges did you encounter?
- What specific milestones did you achieve?
- What critical **design elements **(resources, competencies, authorities, capacity) contributed to success?
- What innovative strategies did you employ?
3 Network of Support ?’s
- What design elements (resources, competencies, authorities, capacity) were needed?
- **Who **was critical?
- What specific commitments did they make to you?
3 Ontological Design ?’s
- What would be a more empowering inerpretation?… Rehearse… Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
- What biological factors (emotions, breathing, posture) will support that?…Show me… Exaggerate…Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
- Are there any specific moods / emotions show up?… Rehearse… Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
5 Leadership Transformation ?’s
- Who is the new leader are you becoming?
- Who is the old leader are you leaving behind?
- What is the difference between the old and new mindsets?
- What new actions are you committed to?
- What old strategies are you letting go of?
3 Driver Cap ?’s
- What are you most energized about working on?
- What are your next steps?
- WWDWBW?
5 Homework ?’s
- What is the most important lesson are you taking from this?
- What questions are you left with?
- What **declarations, demands, requests **do you want to commit to making?
- What practice(s) will strengthen your performance?
- How will this support your bigger game?
3 Closing ?’s
- Did we address…to your level of satisfaction?
- Is there anything you would like to address to feel complete?
- What about our coaching is working for you?… What could we try doing more or less of?
GROW Model 4 ?s
- What is your goal?
- What is the current reality?
- What are your options?
- What are you willing to commit to?
Learning & Performance 5 ?s
- What type of learner are you?
- Do you have any enemies of learning?
- Can you think of an experience that challenged your basic assumptions & permanently shifted your POV?
- What % of time are you reacting to situations vs. generating possibilities?
- Are you engaged in any recurrent practices?
Uncover the Old Game 5 ?s
- What types of situations make you feel most at ease?
- What types of situations make you uncomfortable?
- How might others describe your work style (helpful, analytical, confrontational, or creative)? examples?
- Do you have any default / go-to strategies?
- What are your negative opinions typically about?
Game Design 5 ?s
- What is the Point?
- What are the Entities?
- Who is the Team?
- What are the Rules?
- What are the Strategies?
Mastery & Flow 5 ?s
- Who could be a teacher / mentor for you?
- What could be your practice (e.g. box breathing)?
- Where are you likely to encounter your edges? What are some recurrent risks you can engage in?
- Are their any old strategies that you need to surrender?
- What could be a vision of success that you could focus on?
Being a Player - 5 ?’s
- What challenge did you face?
- How did you choose to respond?
- How was it that your response did not succeed?
- Is there anything you could have done differently in order to be more aligned with your purpose, your values, or more likely to succeed?
- Is there something you can do now to reduce the negative affects, to bring closure to this event?
Learning from Unsuccessful Conversations - 7 ?s
- What was your goal for the conversation? What did you want to have as an outcome (gold standard - both would likely agree with)?
- What went wrong (put self in center)?
- As close as you can, try to replay how the conversation went. What was actually said?
- What was really on your mind? Was there anything you were thinking or feeling, but did not say?
- Why not? What did you imagine would have been the negative consequences if you did say what you thought and felt (task, relationship, how would you have felt)?
- What were the negative consequences of not saying what you thought and felt (task, relationship, how you felt)?
- What do you imagine the other person had on their mind, but decided not to tell you?
Inquiring About Ones Truth - 3 ?’s
- I understand you have the perspective that… I imagine you are feeling… Is that true? Is there anything else? (present)
- I’d like to understand your reasoning. What leads you to believe that… (past)
- Before we engage in a discussion, what would you suggest we do to take care of your concerns? (future)