Coaching Questions Flashcards
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Plot Mountain - 5 Stakeholder ?s
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- Who are the key players?
- Who is the customer for this outcome (role, responsibility, decision making authority)?
- Who is working to support you?
- Who is working against you?
- Who else is impacted by this?
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Plot Mountain - Challenge ?
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What is the specific challenge (threat, opportunity, unfulfilled obligation) that you are facing?
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Plot Mountain - Goal ?
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What does success look like?
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Plot Mountain - 3 Bigger Game ?s
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- Why is this important?
- What is it that you are taking care of?
- What is the bigger game you are playing?
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Plot Mountain - Options ?
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What options are you considering?
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Plot Mountain - 3 COS?s
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- How will you know you’ve succeeded (What specific conditions?)?
- What is your time frame?
- What resources do you want to use for this?
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Plot Mountain - Offer ?
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Would you like to work with me on this?
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3 Agenda ?’s
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- What would you like to focus on today?
- What would be a successful outcome of our conversation?
- How will we know when you have succeeded?
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5 MAP ?’s
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- What is your promise?
- What is your likelihood of fulfillment (LoF)?
- Are any promises in jeopardy? (If so, what is needed, and what is your plan?
- What lessons could propell you forward?
- What next actions will move you closer to fulfillment?
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3 Breakthrough Project ?’s
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- What near-term outcome could significantly increase your likelihood of realizing your bigger goal?
- Looking across the value chain (BVC), what would be possible as a result?
- What ingredients (resouces, knowledge & expertise, competencies, capacity, experience, systems, authorities, commitments) will you need?
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5 Timing ?s
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- How long has this been on your mind?
- Where else has this shown up for you?
- Why is this coming up now?
- What is actually happening?
- What are the implications for the future?
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3 Connector ?’s
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- Is there anything else?
- What do you really think?… want?
- Where else has this shown up for you?
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5 Exploration ?’s
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- What is the challenge?
- What strategies have you used?
- What are you already clear / unclear about?
- Where are you getting stuck?
- What do you need to move forward?
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3 Expansive ?s
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- What might change if you knew you could not fail?
- What might change if you had 10x’s more boldness?
- How could this challenge also be an opportunity?
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3 Prying ?’s
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- Is there anything else you haven’t told me yet?
- Are there any thoughts or ideas are you having that you are reluctant to share?
- Are you avoiding or ignoring or running away from anything?
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3 Ontological Discovery ?’s
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- What is happening biologically?…Show me… Exaggerate…
- What specific emotions / moods are you experiencing?
- What **interpretations **are you making about yourself, others, and the situation?
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Reframing 3 ?’s
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- What are the costs & benefits?
- If you continued down this path, what does your **default future **look like? Is that a future you want?
- What would be a more inspiring / empowering interpretation?
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5 Motivator ?’s
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- Imagine you have succeeded. Speaking in present tense, what does success feel like?
- If you accomplished X, what would become possible?
- What about this energizes you?
- Are you willing to **be a commitment **for this?
- If so, what will you start/stop doing or do significantly more/ less of as an expression of your commitment?
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5 Assessor Hat ?’s
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- Why are we making this assessment?
- What is the domain?
- What standards are you using to evaluate?
- What evidence do you have?
- How can you research (Performance, Talent, 360) and/or test your assessment?
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3 Teaching ?’s
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- What is the most important lesson in this?
- What are the implications for your capability & performance?
- How could you apply what you are learning?
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5 Planning ?’s
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- Imagine you have you are standing in the future, and you have succeeded. Speaking in present tense, what are the conditions that define success?
- Working backwards, what specific challenges did you encounter?
- What specific milestones did you achieve?
- What critical **design elements **(resources, competencies, authorities, capacity) contributed to success?
- What innovative strategies did you employ?
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3 Network of Support ?’s
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- What design elements (resources, competencies, authorities, capacity) were needed?
- **Who **was critical?
- What specific commitments did they make to you?
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3 Ontological Design ?’s
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- What would be a more empowering inerpretation?… Rehearse… Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
- What biological factors (emotions, breathing, posture) will support that?…Show me… Exaggerate…Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
- Are there any specific moods / emotions show up?… Rehearse… Evaluate…Any resistance?… Modify… Rehearse…
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5 Leadership Transformation ?’s
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- Who is the new leader are you becoming?
- Who is the old leader are you leaving behind?
- What is the difference between the old and new mindsets?
- What new actions are you committed to?
- What old strategies are you letting go of?
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3 Driver Cap ?'s
1. What are you **most energized** about working on?
2. What are your **next steps**?
3. **WWDWBW?**
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5 Homework ?'s
1. What is the most important **lesson** are you taking from this?
2. What **questions** are you left with?
3. What **declarations, demands, requests **do you want to commit to making?
4. What **practice(s)** will strengthen your performance?
5. How will this support your **bigger game**?
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3 Closing ?'s
1. Did we address…to your level of **satisfaction**?
2. Is there anything you would like to address to feel **complete**?
3. What about our coaching is working for you?... What could we try doing more or less of?
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GROW Model 4 ?s
1. What is your **goal**?
2. What is the current **reality**?
3. What are your **options**?
4. What are you **willing** to commit to?
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Learning & Performance 5 ?s
1. What type of learner are you?
2. Do you have any enemies of learning?
3. Can you think of an experience that challenged your basic assumptions & permanently shifted your POV?
4. What % of time are you reacting to situations vs. generating possibilities?
5. Are you engaged in any recurrent practices?
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Uncover the Old Game 5 ?s
1. What types of situations make you feel most at ease?
2. What types of situations make you uncomfortable?
3. How might others describe your work style (helpful, analytical, confrontational, or creative)? examples?
4. Do you have any default / go-to strategies?
5. What are your negative opinions typically about?
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Game Design 5 ?s
1. What is the **Point**?
2. What are the **Entities**?
3. Who is the **Team**?
4. What are the **Rules**?
5. What are the **Strategies**?
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Mastery & Flow 5 ?s
1. Who could be a **teacher** / mentor for you?
2. What could be your **practice** (e.g. box breathing)?
3. Where are you likely to encounter your **edges**? What are some recurrent risks you can engage in?
4. Are their any old strategies that you need to **surrender**?
5. What could be a **vision** of success that you could focus on?
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Being a Player - 5 ?'s
1. What challenge did you face?
2. How did you choose to respond?
3. How was it that your response did not succeed?
4. Is there anything you could have done differently in order to be more aligned with your purpose, your values, or more likely to succeed?
5. Is there something you can do now to reduce the negative affects, to bring closure to this event?
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Learning from Unsuccessful Conversations - 7 ?s
1. What was your goal for the conversation? What did you want to have as an outcome (gold standard - both would likely agree with)?
2. What went wrong (put self in center)?
3. As close as you can, try to replay how the conversation went. What was actually said?
4. What was really on your mind? Was there anything you were thinking or feeling, but did not say?
5. Why not? What did you imagine would have been the negative consequences if you did say what you thought and felt (task, relationship, how would you have felt)?
6. What were the negative consequences of not saying what you thought and felt (task, relationship, how you felt)?
7. What do you imagine the other person had on their mind, but decided not to tell you?
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Inquiring About Ones Truth - 3 ?'s
1. I understand you have the perspective that... I imagine you are feeling... Is that true? Is there anything else? (present)
2. I'd like to understand your reasoning. What leads you to believe that... (past)
3. Before we engage in a discussion, what would you suggest we do to take care of your concerns? (future)
