Coaching Mastery Flashcards
Masterful Coach Definition
One who inspires and empowers greatness
Three Gifts of Coaching
Coaching allows Leaders the opportunity for reflection and discovery, where they:
- Move from a reactive to a generative
- Expand horizon of possible priorities, goals, actions and results
- Create impossible futures
A Coach’s Stand - Three Principles
- Leader’s, Team’s, and Organization’s greatness
- Our power to generate impossible futures
- Discovering the way forward
Three Integral Contexts
that shape and contstrain our horizon of possible priorities, goals, actions and results.
- Historical
- Ontological - Our conversations (int & ext) about ourselves, others, and the world
- Biological - Our physical predispositions
Generative Power of Declaring
We have the power to generate new possibilities simply by declaring them, e.g. “I am/do/have this… and I give up (being/doing/having) that…”
Preparing for a Coaching Session - Seven Factors
- What does this Leader care about?
- What does the full expression of their authentic self look like?
- What is happening right now?
- What am I committed to accomplish next?
- Who do I need to be to accomplish that?
- Who does the Leader need to be?
- How will it go? Script the conversation.
Preparing for a Conversation - 7P’s
- Purpose
- Product
- People
- Process
- Pitfalls
- Prep
- Practical Concerns
4 Stages of Powerful Conversations
- Get to what really matters: Find the big breakdown!! You have 10 minutes to create value before they decide that you are a very nice person with good intentions who listens well.
- Distinguish: Generate a fresh insight – Disturb, perturb, and shake up the coherency of their thinking. Generate an ‘aha moment’ that shifts their POV.
- Reframe & Design: Explore and experiment with new TPOV’s that generate new possibilities
- Forward the Action: Take Leader’s good intentions to do something great, and translate that into results.
Coaching w/o Authority - Four Steps
For Marc - Prepare for Every Coaching Session
- Place your care and concern for them at the very center of your being.
- Presume a little bit of intimacy, knowing that your job is to help them be their best
- Get some level of permission: Knock on their door before entering and disrupting their world. “Can I be blunt?”
- Take a ‘just tolerable’ risk, still preserving the dignity or the Leader and others involved
Remember, trust is built by taking an emotional risk and being supported in that risk.
4 Roles of the Executive Coach
- Leader - Declare the Future
- Performance Maximizer - Identify strengths to leverage and waste to eliminate
- Collaborator - Build together
- Strategic Thought Partner - Think strategically together
8 Coaching Principles
- Stand for the Leader’s greatness to generate an impossible future.
- Listen and Speak with total acceptance, commitment, and courage.
- Stay 100% present, open, and connected. Give them the experience of being the most important person in the room.
- Cause Leaders to experience their limiting ways of being.
- Transform ruts into rivers.
- Discuss undiscussables.
- Share GPOV with precision and compassion.
- Make clear, bold and powerful promises, offers, and requests.
7 Committed Listening Guidelines - Be 100% present, open, and connected, and actively and empathically listen for:
- What is true and authentic
- Deeply felt cares and commitments
- Hot or dead spots in body and emotion
- Discrepencies b/t what is said and what is revealed, e.g. when intentions do not lead to committed action
- Breakdowns (Interruptions)
- Edges
- Gaps in logic: ungrounded interpretations
5 Committed Speaking Guidelines
- Balance inquiry with passionate advocacy.
- Speak from the heart.
- Speak to their commitment and care.
- Offer feedback with near-brutal candor.
- Speak w/ boldness, courage, & compassion.
7 Coaching Caps (for returning people to themselves, their promises, and to action.)
- Facilitator
- Assessor
- Teacher
- Motivator
- Reframer
- Driver
- Planner
Facilitator Cap - Five Skills
- Follow 8 Committed Listening Guidelines.
- Draw Leaders out w/ open ?’s like, “What do you want?” “Is there anything else?” “Tell me more.” & “What do you think?”
- Encourage exploration with probing ?’s like, “Do you feel fully alive?” “What doe your authentic self say?” “What one thought are you most reluctant to share?” “What is the worst that can happen?” What if you had 10x’s more…”
- Validate & encourage good ideas w/ short declarative statements like, “Great idea.”
- Evoke creativity, e.g. “If your idea was a metaphor…?”
Put it on - To engage and draw ppl out; when ppl feel misunderstood; have seeds of a brilliant idea, but are expressing it in a vague, inarticulate way; get defensive, or closed to your interpretation.
Motivator Cap - Five Skills to Inspire Leaders to generate impossible futures:
- Declare the vision that lies in Leader’s mind and heart, but is currently considered impossible.
- Connect the vision to the sources of motivation, “If you had X, what would you also have that is more important than X?”
- Surround the vision with experiential & emotional energy.
- Request Leader demonstrate their willingness to make the vision a reality through dramatic action: “What will you do that is dramatically different?”
- Hold people accountable: “I want to remind you of your commitment to…”
Put it on - to inspire ppl; or when ppl have labeled themselves as “losers” or say they have “no choice”
Assessor Cap - Four Skills
- Get to what matters - the big breakdown? What is missing that will make the difference?
- Ground assessments of current state, future state, and gaps? “Do you have data to back that up?” Encourage finding ways to test. Explore competing voices.
- Measure progress, & ID possible course corrections.
- Synthesize previous assessments, e.g. Business Assessment, Talent Assessment, and 360 Feedback.
Put it on when - to help ppl clearly need to talk about a concrete plan to get from where they are to where they want to be; to ground assessments; and when ppl can’t buy into the “What” b/c they insist on seeing the “How” first.