Chapters 5&6 Flashcards
accent
Highlighting the last few words of the client.
E.g. Client: This situation I’m in now is driving me crazy!
Counsellor: Driving you crazy?
request for clarification
a response the counesllor uses to be sure he or she understands what the client is saying.
e.g. help me understand this relationship. OR I don’t see the connection here, can you say more?
probe
A question that usually begins with who, what, where or how requiring more than a two word response.
E.g. What do you plan to do about getting a job?
Few probes use why, because it is often unanswerable and can cause defensiveness.
Closed Questions
one that requires a specific and limited response such as yes or no. It often begins with is, do or are
e.g. Do you enjoy meeting other people?
Open Question
Typically begins with what, how or could and allows the client more latitude to respond.
E.g. How does this affect you
Could you give me more information?
Tell me more about this.
3 elements of Counselling relationship
a) transference and countertransference
b) the working alliance
c) Real relationship
Real Relationship
When helping skills are used well, a real relationship (that is reality-oriented, appropriate, and undistorted) will emerge.
Starts a 2-way experience between counsellors and clients from their first experience
Facilitate genuineness in their clients, attempting to see and understand clients in a realistic manner. Clients contribute to the realness by being genuine and perceiving their own situations realistically.
working alliance
also known as the therapeutic alliance, counselling alliance, helping alliance…refers to the quality and strength of the reciprocal relationship between a client and a counsellor and includes both the affective elements and the collaborative working elements of this reciprocal relationship
3 components of working alliance
1) agreement on goals
2) agreement on tasks
3) the bond/relationship
Counsellor attributes associated with working alliance
warmth, flexibility, accurate interpretations
structure
a joint understanding between the counsellor and client regarding the characteristics, conditions, procedures and parameters of counselling
Benefits of structure
- gives direction
- protects the rights, roles and obligations of both counsellors and clients
- ensures the success of counselling
Aspects of structure
- Practical guidelines such as time limits, role limits, procedural limits, fees
Initiative
The motivation for change
reluctant client
one who has been referred by a third party and is frequently unmotivated to seek help
resistant client
a person in counselling who is unwilling, unready, or opposed to change,
Clings to the certainty of present behaviour, even when it’s counterproductive or dysfunctional
Most common form of resistance is “I don’t know”
Four Categories of Resistance
1) amount of verbalization
2) content of message
3) style of communication
4) attitude toward counsellor
How to deal with lack of initiative
- anticipate the
anger, frustration and defensiveness some clients display, so as to not be surprised - acceptance, patience, understanding and general nonjudgmental attititude
- use persuasion via
a) foot in the door - ask client to comply with a minor request and follow up with a larger request
b) door in the face - a seemingly impossible task, followed by a reasonable task - Confrontation - point out the inconsistency
- metaphors - e.g. what does a fighter do when he gets badly beaten up every time he fights?
- mattering. The perception that as human beings we are important and significant to the world around us and to others in our lives.
- Pragmatic techniques - (Silence, pause, reflection, empathy, questioning, describing, assessing, pretending, sharing ccounsellor’s perspective
Foot in the door
ask client to comply with a minor request and follow up with a larger request
e.g. journal your thoughts and feelings this week. THEN. Journal your thoughts and feelings from now on.
Door in the Face
a seemingly impossible task, followed by a reasonable task
e.g. talk briefly to 100 people a day between now and our next appointment. When they refuse… Okay, say hello to 3 new people each day.
Mattering
The perception that as human beings we are important and significant to the world around us and to others in our lives.
Physical Setting
some physical settings promote counselling process more than others. Ideas include: soft lighting, quiet colours, comfortable furniture, absence of clutter
1) Accessories - clean, plants, artwork
2) Colour - bright, soft (rather than dark)
3) Furniture - intermediate distance
4) Lighting - soft lights - yielded more pleasant and relaxed feelings, more favorable feelings about counsellor, more self disclosure
5) Smell - pleasant smells trigger happy memories
6) Sound - music may enhance, other sounds may detract esp if loud
7) Texture - soft texture surfaces that absorb sound to increase feelings of privacy
8) thermal conditions - 69-80 F and 30-60% humidity
Proxemics
spatial features of the environment - distance of 30-39 inches has been found to be average range
equilibrium theory
assumes there is an appropriate amount of intimacy within individuals and if transgressed, the individual will compensate in some way (decreasing eye contact, moving further away