Chapter Ten Flashcards
Relational Maintenance
Relational maintenance: Efforts to keep a relationship at a desired level of closeness
Keeping it inexistence
Keeping a relationship in a specific state, status quo, stable level of intimacy
Keeping it satisfying
Keeping a relationship in repair
These overlap ^^
We maintain the things we care about
Anti-Social behaviors
Anti-social
Avoidance
Strategy intended to distance oneself from someone or not engage in a particular topic
Intentionally choosing not to bring up a topic, withdrawing from someone, giving the silent treatment, ignoring someone, or limiting communication
Jealousy Induction
Intentionally trying to make your partner jealous
Flirting with some intentionally in front of your partner, creating a ‘secret admirer’
Challenges in Cross-Sex Friendships
Romantic intent:
Strictly platonic
Mutual romance
Desires romance
Reject romance
Keeping friends platonic:
Fear of ruining friendship
No sexual attraction
Network disapproval
In other relationships
Risk is too great
Not dating atm
Emotional bond (is this romantic?) → Sexual Challenge (is sex on the table?) → Public Presentation (what do others say?)
Equity in a Relationship
people are getting a fair deal in terms of the benefits and costs they are getting as a result of being in a relationship
