Chapter 9

Question 0

Similarity Thesis

Answer 0

Comfort from knowing that someone likes the same things as you, similar values, same race, economic class or educational standing

Question 1

Relationship Factors

Answer 1

Appearance, Similarity, Complementary, Rewards, Competency, Proximity, Disclosure

Question 2

Exchange Theory

Answer 2

We often seek out people who can give us rewards that are greater than or equal to the cost encountered in dealing with them

Question 3

Comparison Level

Answer 3

Minimum standard of behavior that is acceptable

Question 4

Comparison level of alternatives (CLallt)

Answer 4

A comparison between rewards being received currently and ones expected to receive in others

Question 5

Relational Maintenance

Answer 5

Communication aimed at keeping relationships operating smoothly and satisfactorily

Question 6

Relationship stages

Answer 6

Initiating, Experimenting, Intensifying, Integrating, Bonding, Differentiating, Circumscribing, Stagnating, Avoiding, Terminating

Question 7

Initiating

Answer 7

Show that you are interested in making contact.

Demonstrate that you are a person worth talking to

Question 8

Experimenting

Answer 8

Searching for common ground

“Do you like tacos? I like tacos too!”

Question 9

Intensifying

Answer 9

Spending increasing amounts of time together

Question 10

Integrating

Answer 10

Begin to take an identity as a social unit. Sharing each other’s commitments

Question 11

Bonding

Answer 11

Partners make symbolic gestures to the world that their relationship exists

Question 12

Differentiating

Answer 12

Finding themselves needing to reestablish themselves as individuals.

Question 13

Circumscribing

Answer 13

Communication decreases in quantity and quality

Question 14

Stagnating

Answer 14

A hollow shell of its former self.

No feeling or growth occur

Question 15

Avoiding

Answer 15

People in a relationship try to create distance between each other.

Question 16

Terminating

Answer 16

The final stage of deterioration

Question 17

Dialectical tensions

Answer 17

Conflict that arise when two opposing or incompatible forces exist simultaneously

Question 18

Integration-separation dialect

Answer 18

Conflicting desires for connection and independence

Question 19

Connection-autonomy dialectic

Answer 19

We want to be close to others, but we seek independence

Question 20

Inclusion-seclusion dialectic

Answer 20

Struggle to reconcile a desire for involvement with the “outside world” with the desire to live their own lives, free from the interference of others.
Accepting an invitation to a party on the weekend

Question 21

Stability-change dialectic

Answer 21

Operates both between partners and when they face others outside the relationship.

Question 22

Predictability- novelty dialectic

Answer 22

Not wanting a completely unpredictable partner and not wanting to become bored

Question 23

Conventionality-uniqueness dialectic

Answer 23

Challenges that people in a relationship face when trying to meet others’ expectations as well as their own

Question 24

Expression-privacy dialectic

Answer 24

Along with drive for intimacy, the need to maintain space between ourselves and others.

Question 25

Openness-closedness dialectic

Answer 25

Internal struggle between expression and privacy

Question 26

Revelation-concealment dialectic

Answer 26

Conflicts between openness and privacy that operate externally

Question 27

Strategies for Managing Dialectical Tensions

Answer 27

Denial, Disorientation, Alternation, Segmentation, Balance, Integration, Recalibration, Reaffirmation

Question 28

Metacommunication

Answer 28

Describe messages that refer to other messages

Discussing relationships

Question 29

Relational Transgressions

Answer 29

When one partner violates the terms of the relationship