Chapter 7 Parenting Videos Flashcards

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According to the 1, 2, 3 Magic technique, how should you think of your kids and yourself?

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Rather than thinking of your kids as little adults, think of them as wild animals, and of yourself as a wild animal trainer

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What kind of behaviours does 1, 2, 3 Magic control?

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“Stop” behaviours

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How to use the 1, 2, 3 Magic technique?

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  • When kid does something wrong, calmly say “That’s 1”
  • If behaviour continues, say “That’s 2”
  • If behaviour continues, say “That’s 3, take 5” (or whatever amount of time), then send them to their room for a 5-minute time-out
  • when kids come out of their room, don’t talk/lecture them about their behaviour
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What does 1, 2, 3 Magic recommend when siblings are fighting?

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  • count them both
  • don’t ask who started it
  • never expect the older one to be more mature
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Pros and cons of 1, 2, 3 Magic

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  • pros: good for short-term compliance; simple system; cuts down on potentially hostile verbal interactions because of the no talking/lecturing rule
  • cons: because of the no talking rule parents lose the opportunity to use inductive discipline and teach/explain to kids why certain behaviours are wrong; because this is a very punishment-based system I think it just creates temporary solutions and won’t be effective in the long run
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What does Winning at Parenting believe you should teach your kids?

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  • to like themselves
  • to think for themselves
  • that there’s no problem so great it can’t be solved
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According to Winning at Parenting, how can you help your kids like themselves, think for themselves, and problem-solve?

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  • giving them age-appropriate choices to make

- unless the kid’s decisions are life-threatening, let them make the decisions

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Winning at Parenting’s 3 philosophical tenants

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  1. Kids are worth it
  2. I won’t do anything to a kid that I wouldn’t want done to me
  3. What’s my goal as a parent?
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Winning at Parenting’s 3 approaches to parenting

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  • Brick wall: setting rigid rules - teaching kids what to think, not how to think
  • Jellyfish: anything goes, no structure, or allowing kids to make decisions because parents are absent/never around
  • Backbone: more flexible than a brick wall, but more structured than a jellyfish, giving kids responsibilities and decision-making skills
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Why does Winning at Parenting believe you shouldn’t say no? What are the alternatives?

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  • no is control
  • 3 alternatives: “yes, later”, “give me a minute” (to think), “convince me”
  • this helps kids develop their own backbone
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According to Winning at Parenting, what should you do when you need your child to do something?

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  • tell the kid what needs to be done, then have them repeat it back to you
  • if it doesn’t get done, enforce logical consequences consistently to provide structure for your child
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Pros and cons of Winning at Parenting

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  • pros: establishes structure; allows kids to think for themselves and make their own decisions
  • cons: may not be effective with very young children who aren’t ready to make their own decisions
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