chapter 7 communication in personal relationships Flashcards
what are personal relationships?
a unique commitment between irreplaceable induvial who are influenced by rules, relational dialectics and surrounding contexts
what are the qualities that define personal relationships
- uniqueness ( particular people: who they are and what they think, feel and do- that define the connection )
- commitment ( passion [feelings] and investments [time, energy money] )
what is the definition of relationship rules
they define what is expected, what is not allowed and when and how to do various things
what are constitutive rules in relationships
define the meaning of various types of communication in personal relationships
example: women friends count listening to problems as demonstrating care and men often count doing things together as showing care
what are regulative rules in relationships
they influence interaction by specifying when and with whom to engage in various kinds of communication with
examples: some romantic partners limit PDA to private settings or like it’s not normal to start an argument in public
what contexts affect relationships
social circles, family units, social media norms and society as a whole
example: sometimes or family members will disapprove our partner
what are relational dialectics?
are opposing and continual tensions that are normal in personal relationships
what are the 3 relational dialectics
created by Baxter and Montgomery
- Autonomy/Connection ( we love sharing experiences but we also need independence )
- Novelty/Predictability ( have standard times to get together and they develop preferred interaction routines)
- openness/closedness ( we want to share our inner selves w out partners yet at times we don’t feel like sharing and talk about certain topics)
what are the 4 ways to managing dialectics? (these are response’s)
- neutralization: negotiate a compromise
- separation: response favors one need in a conversation and ignores the other
- segmentation: assigning each need to certain, spheres, issues, activities or times (ex: friends open to talk about many things but not politics)
- reframing : redefine apparently contradictory needs as not really in opposition
what is social penetration?
relationships deepen through a process of self-disclosure where someone gradually reveals more personal information to each other
moving from superficial to intimate levels of communication
The Onion Model:
The theory is often visualized as an “onion” with layers, where each layer represents a different level of intimacy and self-disclosure.
what are the stage’s of romantic relationships
- escalation: relationship starts with predictable social interaction
- navigation: is a ongoing process of communicating to sustain intimacy in oneself, one’s partner, the relationship and surrounding contexts (THE LONGEST STAGE OF A RELATIONSHIP)
- deterioration: begins with dissatisfaction with the relationship
what are the guidelines for maintaining healthy personal relationships (4 main ones)
- manage distance ( geographical separation, don’t set unrealistic expectations for time spent together)
-create equitable romantic relationships (invest in the equal about of time into each other, equity of financial, emotions relate to relationship satisfaction
- resist violence and abuse between intimates ( physical, verbal and emotional abuse, stalking, partner violence )
- negotiate safer sex! :0
