chapter 7 Flashcards
Levinger proposed ABCDE model of romantic relationships
Attraction Building Continuation Deterioration Ending
What are the most common places couples have met in the “real world”
work
through friends
at school
social get-together
What have been factors in the rise of hookup culture
delayed marraige
more positive attitudes toward premarital sex
historical factors such as the advent of the pill
Emotional and physical risk to hooking up
unintended pregnancy
STIs
sexual violence
potentially psychological distress
benefits of hooking up
sexual enjoyment
feeling attractive and empowered
feeling close to another person
ways in which technology has influenced dating and relationships
email, texting and facebook have changed the way people initiate relationships and communicate in relationships
individuals use emojis and emoticons to initate dates and within sexting exchanges
what is an essential in developing relationships
self disclosure
too much self disclosure can be a turn off
Intimacy and it’s development
it involves feelings of emotional closeness with each other and the desire to share you innermost thoughts and feelings
it is developed through self-disclosure
factors that support and challenge commitment in relationships
a balance between togetherness and individuality is important for committed relationships
factors such as boredom, negative evaluation etc… poses challenges in committed relationships
factors assoicated with jealousy
culture
personal traits
experiences
factors associated with distress
ruminating or brooding, being in a longer relationship and not desiring the breakup are associated with greater ditress after the breakup
Sexual communication benefits
strongly associated with sexual and relationship satisfaction and may help to avert misunderstandings, relieve resentment and frustration and resolve sexual problems
Sexual scripts
suggest men should initiate sex and the sexual double standard may lead women to be evaluated harshly if they do so.
research suggests that men initate more than women do and that most initiation involve indirect, nonverbal strategies.
Startegies for communication sexual needs and listening effectively
talking about talking asking premission to raise and issue asking questions using self-disclosure providing information accentuating the positive granting your partner permission to say things that might be upsetting and using verbal and nonverbal cues
factors involving skilled listening
elements as active listening, paraphrasing, using reinforcement and valuing your partner even when you disagree.
