Chapter 4 - Ice Ice Baby Flashcards
How can you overcome discomfort when reaching out to new contacts virtually?
Recognize the spotlight effect—people think about us less than we imagine. Most recipients appreciate the effort to connect, even if the message is imperfect.
What’s the best way to ask for advice from someone you don’t know well?
Personalize your message and show how their advice will help you improve your performance, not just expand your network. Be sincere, focused, and respectful of their time.
What kind of advice-seeking builds the best impression at work?
Ask for advice that promotes skill mastery, not just immediate problem-solving. This makes you appear more competent, coachable, and worth investing in.
What communication method works best for starting new virtual relationships?
Use short, one-on-one video calls. They create familiarity and connection through visuals and body language, especially early in the relationship.
When is audio-only (like a phone call) better than video for virtual relationship building?
When reconnecting with people you already know. Audio gives the same emotional payoff without the added video fatigue or need to be “camera-ready.”
What’s one common mistake people make when reaching out virtually to ask for help?
Sending mass messages. It feels impersonal. Instead, tailor each message to show genuine interest and explain why the person is the right one to ask.
What’s the risk of asking for advice and not following through?
If you ignore the advice, it offends the giver and can harm or end the relationship. People want to feel their input mattered.
Why do short video meetings build better relationships than long ones?
They’re less draining and more personal. Fewer participants and shorter length increase feelings of connection and reduce “Zoom fatigue.”
What’s a respectful way to rekindle a dormant work relationship?
Send a brief message saying you’d like to reconnect and ask if they’d be open to a short call. Give them flexible times and be mindful of their schedule.
How can you boost your professional network virtually without being pushy?
Take the initiative to reach out warmly, use the right communication mode (video for new, audio for familiar), personalize your ask, and follow through with gratitude.
