Chapter 4 : Horney Flashcards
Childhood experiences
Child perception: rejection, indifference,sibling preference
Q: do my parents nurture or undermine my basic needs for satisfaction and safety?
Perception of being undermined:
Experience Basic Anxiety towards their parents, develop a focus on neurotic needs and then coping strategies
Child Perception Undermined = Basic Anxiety = Neurotic Needs = Coping Tactics or Relating to others
Interpersonal strategies of defence: MOVING TOWARDS PEOPLE
Compliant type (inclined to agree with others)
Interpersonal strategies of defence: MOVING AGAINST PEOPLE
The Aggressive type
Interpersonal strategies of defence: MOVING AWAY FROM PEOPLE
detached type
Need for affection is an example of ?
Moving towards therefore compliant type
Need for partner is and example of?
Moving towards therefore compliant type
Need for personal achievement is an example of?
Moving against people therefore agressive type
Need for power and control is an example of?
Moving against people therefore aggressive type
Need to exploit others is an example of?
Moving against people therefore agressive type
Need for prestige is an example of?
Moving against people therefore agressive type
Need for personal admiration is an example of?
Moving against people therefore agressive type
Need to live ones life is an example of ?
Moving away from people therefore detached type
Need for self-suddenly and independence is an example of?
Moving away from people therefore detached type
Need for protection and unassailability(without flaws or loopholes)
Moving away from people therefore detached type
Real self (possible)
We are all born with healthy real self
Idealized image
-distorted view of self
-unattainable it’s an illusion created from feelings of inadequacy
-problem = idealized image displaces the realself as a frame of reference
Horney describes this as as the tyranny of the “should (..) I should be (…)“
Tyranny
Keeps a persona from “ real self “
It drives idealized image, it uses the idea of “I shoulds” and neurotic needs to explain.
For example, if eating disorder then they may have a neurotic need for approval?
RTOS : primary way of relating to others
1.COMPLIANT SOLUTION
- Compliant solution(moving towards others)=good,humble, and loving therefore why would someone want to hurt me
RTOS : primary way of relating to others
2.Aggressive SOLUTION
2.aggressive solution(moving against others) = mastery over others therefore no one can hurt me because I have power
RTOS : primary way of relating to others
3.DETATCHMENT
3.detachment (ask for nothing, try nothing, expect little in life) therefore if I try nothing then I won’t be disappointed
