Chapter 13 Flashcards
What is Devaluation?
making someone feel unappreciated or unimportant
What are Transgressions?
when people violate implicit or explicit relational rules
What are three responses to hurtful messages?
- acquiescent
- invulnerable
- verbal
What is acquiescent response?
giving in and acknowledging partner’s ability to inflict hurt (crying, apologizing, conceding)
What is invulnerable response?
acting unaffected by the hurtful remark
What is verbal response?
confronts one’s partner about hurtful remarks
What is deception?
– intentionally managing verbal or nonverbal messages so that a receiver will believe or understand something in away that the sender knows is false
What is truth bias?
we expect others, especially those we like or are close to, to be honest and we do not look for deception
What is infidelity?
Infidelity has a very strong negative effect of relationships, possible the least forgivable of hurtful events
What is sexual infidelity?
sexual activity with someone other than one’s long term partner
What is emotional infidelity?
involvement with another person, channeling emotional resources (love, time, attention) to someone else
What is Evolutionary Hypothesis for Infidelity
predicts men should get more upset over sexual infidelity (concerns over parentage of children), while women should get more upset over emotional infidelity (loss of relationship, resources)
What is envy?
when people want something of value that someone else has
What is unrequited love?
one person (would-be lover) wants to initiate or intensify a romantic relationship, but the other (rejector) does not
what is common couple violence?
– occurs when conflict spirals out of control and partners resort to using violence as a way of venting emotions and trying to control the conflict
