Chapter 10 Flashcards
What is relational maintenance?
a dynamic process that involves continually adjusting to new needs and demands
Relational Maintenance involves..
keeping existence
keeping stability
keeping relationship in repair
What is Prosocial Maintenance behavior?
positive behaviors that promote relational closeness, trust and liking
5 primary strategies…
Positivity Openness Assurances Social networking Task sharing
Prosocial maintenance behaviors lead to…
relationships that are more stable and commited
What is Antisocial Maintenance behavior?
negative behaviors used to maintain the relationship
What is avoidance used for?
can be used to keep a relationship at a given level
What is Jealousy Induction?
– trying to alter the partner’s feelings or keep the other person in the relationship
what is modality?
the channel of communication ( verbal, nonverbal, and mediated)
What is strategic maintenance behaviors?
behaviors that are specifically designed to maintain a relationship (apologizing, sending flowers)
What is routine maintenance behaviors?
help to maintain the relationship, but are not as deliberate (task sharing, positivity)
What are 3 important behaviors?
Openness – routine talk and intimate disclosure, cornerstone of good friendships
Supportiveness
Positivity
What are 3 challenges in cross-sex friendships?
Emotional Bond Challenge
Sexual Challenge
Public Presentation Challenge
What is Emotional Bond Challenge?
We are socialized to think of the opposite sex as romantic partners
What is sexual challenge?
Potential sexual attraction can exist
What is public presentation challenge?
Others assume there is more to the relationship
Friends with benefits is…
– having sex, but staying friends rather than becoming romantic
Long distance relationships…
Some couples happier and more “in love” with their partners than proximal couples
What does idealization allow?
the relationship to be satisfying
what is cohabitation?
living together without being married
What is selection effect?
says people who choose to live together rather than marry may have certain personal characteristics or attitudes that make it less likely that their relationships will last
What is the equity theory?
focuses on determining whether the distribution of resources is fair to both relational partners
What is general equity?
an overall assessment of balance between two people’s benefits and contributions
what is specific equity?
focuses on balance between benefits and contributions in a specific area
benefits of equity?
– partners who perceive equity tend to be more satisfied with and committed to their relationships
consequences of underbenefited?
People who are under-benefited feel cheated, used, and taken for granted; leads to anger, sadness
consequences of overbenefited?
May experience some stress – feel smothered, wish partner would do less for them
