Chapter 11: Attraction, Love , and Communication

Question 1

the tendency to like a person more if we have been exposed to him or her repeatedly

Answer 1

more-exposure effect

Question 2

the tendency to have contact with people who are equal in social status

Answer 2

homophily

Question 3

the tendency for men and women to choose as partners people who match them, that is, who are similar in attitudes, intelligence, and attractiveness

Answer 3

matching phenomenon

Question 4

a quality of relationships characterized by commitment, feelings of closeness and trust, and self-disclosure

Answer 4

intimacy

Question 5

telling personal things about yourself

Answer 5

self-disclosure

Question 6

a story about what love should be like, including characters, a plot and a theme

Answer 6

love story

Question 7

a state of intense longing for union with the other person and of intense physiological arousal

Answer 7

passionate love

Question 8

a feeling of deep attachment and commitment to a person with whom one has an intimate relationship

Answer 8

companionate love

Question 9

defining some concept or term by how it is measured, for example, defining intelligence as those abilities that are measured by IQ tests

Answer 9

operational definition

Question 10

Berscheid and Walster’s theory that two conditions must exist simultaneiously for passionate love to occur: physiological arousal and attaching a cognitive label (“love”) to the feeling

Answer 10

two-component theory of love

Question 11

when a person in a stage of physiological arousal (e.g. from exercising or being in a frightening situation) attributes these feelings to love or attraction to the person present

Answer 11

misattribution of arousal

Question 12

what the speaker means

Answer 12

intent

Question 13

what someone else understands the speaker to mean

Answer 13

impact

Question 14

a communicator whose impact matches his or her itent

Answer 14

effective communicator

Question 15

speaking for yourself, using the word “I’; not mind reading

Answer 15

“I” language

Question 16

making assumptions about what your partner thinks or feels

Answer 16

mind reading

Question 17

giving specific examples of the issue being discussed

Answer 17

documenting

Question 18

telling your partner what you are feeling by stating your thoughts clearly, simply, and honestly

Answer 18

leveling

Question 19

censoring or not saying things that would be deliberately hurtful to your partner or that are irrelevant

Answer 19

editing

Question 20

saying, in your own words, what you thought your partner meant

Answer 20

paraphrasing

Question 21

communication not through words, but through the body, e.g., eye contact, tone of voice, touching

Answer 21

nonverbal communication

Question 22

telling your partner that, given his or her point of view, you can see why he or she thinks a certain way

Answer 22

validation

Question 23

a set of rules designed to make arguments constructive rather than destructive

Answer 23

fighting fair