CH14: Socioemotional Development in Early Adulthood

Question 1

Consensual validation

Answer 1

our values/behaviors are supported when someone else’s aligns with ours

Question 2

Matching hypothesis

Answer 2

we choose partners who are the same attractiveness

Question 3

Erikson: Intimacy vs. isolation (6th)

Answer 3

-to stay true to yourself without getting caught up in someone else
-developing a healthy sense of identity = healthy relationships
-no intimacy = social isolation
-should be a balance between intimacy/commitment & independence & freedom

Question 4

Intimacy

Answer 4

-sharing private experiences/thoughts, things you don’t share with co-workers (not sex)

Question 5

Robert Sternberg’s Triarchic Theory of Love (4)

Answer 5

-involves passion, intimacy, & commitment
-consummate love: has all three dimensions
-infatuation: only passion (sexual)
affectionate love: no passion (more friendly)
fatuous love: no intimacy (sexual, no desire to understand each other)

Question 6

Signs of falling out of love

Answer 6

-like someone who constantly betrays your trust
-other person is not fulfilling; draining
-unrequited love

Question 7

Millennials

Answer 7

-find dates online more
-“fast sex, slow to love” (love may never come)

Question 8

Problems in developing relationships

Answer 8

-forming intimacy
-confronting loneliness
-finding marriage-oriented societies

Question 9

Single-life advantages

Answer 9

-make your own decisions
-develop personal resources (ex. money for work)
-privacy
-try new things/do cool opportunities

Question 10

Cohabitating adults

Answer 10

-living together without being married
benefits:
-spending time
-share expenses
-evaluate compatibility (ex. if I live with this person, maybe I can feel them out)

Question 11

Married adults

Answer 11

-marriage rates have declined in the U.S.
-average duration of marriage = 9 years
Benefits:
-live longer (women do caretaking & help men)
-less stress

Question 12

Gay & lesbian adults

Answer 12

-same level of satisfaction to heterosexual relationships
-masc/fem roles are uncommon
-small percent of gay people have sexual partners

Question 13

Gottman’s seven practices of a working marriage

Answer 13

-love maps (map of how to love/receive it, I value quality of time & would put walking on my love map)
-fondness & admiration (compliments)
-be each others’ shoulders
-letting partners influence you
-solve conflicts if solvable
-overcoming gridlock (stubbornness)
-create shared meaning/memories

Question 14

Androgyny (in psych)

Answer 14

masculine & feminine traits in a person (ex. strong & attentive at the same time)