Ch 6 interpersonal Flashcards
the process of using messages to generate meaning between at least two people in a situation that allows for mutual opportunities for both speaking and listening
Interpersonal communication
communicating with others on the basis of general social interaction rules such as engaging in turn taking, making pleasantries, and discussing nonpersonal matters
impersonal communication
associations with at least two people who are interdependent, who use some consistent patterns of interaction, who have interacted for an extended period of time
interpersonal relationships
importance of interpersonal relationships
the need for inclusion, the need for affection, the need for control
those is which each person supplies something the other person lacks
complementary relationships
those in which participants mirror each other or are highly similar
symmetrical relationships
when is conflict generally disfunctional
when you avoid or walk away from situations, or fail to discuss what is bothering you
the process of making intentional revelations about yourself that others would be unlikely to know and that generally constitute private, sensitive, or confidential information
self-disclosure
importance of self-deisclosure
- ) allows us to develop a greater understanding of ourselves
- ) develops a more positive attitude about ourselves and others
- ) helps relationships grow in depth and meaning
describe “disclosure generally increases as relational intimacy increases”
Gradually reveal more info the closer we get with a person
what are friendships based on?
Shared activities and self-disclosure
Why do people have online relationships?
To have a sense of security and safety, while also avoiding Face to face interactions
Why are cross-cultural relationships slightly different?
We feel more tentative in initiating dialogue with a person from another culture
when people take time to investigate each other and allow if they have anything in common
relational development
occurs after the relationship is bonded; establishing strategies for keeping the relationship together
relational maintenance
tension that exists between two conflicting or interacting forces, elements, or ideas
dialectic
when two people may have opposing desires for maintaining a relationship
contradictions
occurs due to the pressures of external events because of differences that develop within the couple or because of relationships with other people
relational deterioration
the location, distance, or range between persons and things
proximity
the physical appearance, how desirable a person is to work with, and how much “social value” the person has for others
attractiveness
describes the reason we tend to select our friends and loved ones from people who demonstrate positive interest in us
responsiveness
the idea that our friends and loved ones are usually people who like or dislike the same things we do
similarity
the idea that we sometimes bond with people whose strengths are our weeknesses
complementarity
How to achieve long-term and satisfying relationships?
Those who work to maintain the relationship
things partners say and do that create emotional pain or upset
hurtful messages and events
the practice of deliberately making somebody believe things that are untrue
deceptive communication
occurs when people stand up for their rights at the expense of others and care about their own needs but no one else’s
Agressiveness
defined as the quality or state of being argumentative
argumentativeness
occurs when a person feels attacked
defensiveness
the holding of fond or tender feelings toward another person
affection
the power to affect other people’s thinking or actions
influence
a person’s attempts to influence a target “to perform some desired behavior that the target otherwise might not perform”
Compliace-gaining
occurs when targets of influence messages refuse to comply with requests
compliance-resisting
unique forms of expression and language understood only by them
personal idioms
formalized patterns of actions or words followed regularly
rituals
occurs when two or more parties attempt to reach an agreement on what each should give and receive in a transaction between them
bargaining
the ability to alter behavior to adapt to new situations and to relate in new ways when necessary
behavioral flexibility
when personal information is revealed too early in a relationship
inappropriate self-disclosure
