Captivate Flashcards
charismatic
what to do to be appealing?
appeal to be appealing, appeal to the similarities and sensibilities
how to make social situations work for you?
1-attend events where you feel confident and comfortable and leave the opposite, 2-choose the right place, dont approach people while they are walking around or working, instead find them when they are sitting and ready to have a conversation, also avoid getting in when they are in conversation with someone else. 3-approach your people not all people in the world, to be social is to have friendships with the people you like not every human being
what do you do if you are in a place you loathe?
focus on the purpose of the visit, you can get out if you want to take time for yourself, and you also of course can come early and try to make relations before the event starts.
how to recognize toxic people?
1-interaction with them leave you anxious, 2-they put drama in everything, 3- constantly judge other people, 4- gossip a lot.
how to become more likable and memorable?
people decide Whether you are good or bad based on the first interaction, so you have to make it good…. still usually there are 4 ways: 1-use hands and keep them visible, also shake hands firmily. 2- stand straight shoulder back chest upfront, 3-maintain 60-70% eye contact in the conversation, 4-if you are negotiating with someone looking directly might be bad
how to be curious conversationalist?
a big rule in maintaining relations is to be curious in the other person, break of the boring small talk, ask things like anything cool happened today? what do you aim for? , use stories from your experiance or someone else,s, dont talk about politics
explain be interested to be interesting?
well being cool yourself is cool but you also need to make the other people feel cool too, show interesting in them, and show that you like them, basically the reciprocity effect: we like who like us.
one last rule interact with people the way you want them to interact with you.
what are the 3e,s?
engage, elevate, encourage, engage with them in a conversation, elevate their strong points, encourage them to talk about themselves. when you want to ask someone for something start with a praise.
what is the spontaneous trait?
basically, when you lift someone up, like saying this one is amazing while he is not, you trigger the spontaneous trait which makes them amazing for real.
what is highlighting shared conncetion?
well as much its good to focus on people good qualities highlighting shared conncetions is quite the best thing to strengthen bounds, like same gym, or same interests.
should I be perfect????
Well being perfect as much it might sound wow it is the opposite people like valnurable people not perfect people. ask for guidance and dont be scare of sharing weaknesses.
what are the 5 key personality traits?
1-openness, 2-conscientiousness, 3-extroversion, 4-agreebleness, 5-neuroticism.
what is openness?
it’s the personal trait that is associated with curiosity and creativity, as well as the tendency to try new things.
what is conscientiousness
is the trait that is associated with discipline ,organization and Reliability in managing tasks
what is extroversion ?
engagement with people and how those fuels or exhausts them.
