Belief: She must not appreciate values in other men

Question 1

Empirically there is nothing to say she cannot appreciate values in any other human. Logically it doesn’t follow that my desires would prevent her from appreciating someone else’s talents. It is not helpful to rigidly hold this desire because when my desire isn’t met - which will happen - it hurts a lot.

Answer 1

I would prefer it if she thought I was superior to every man at everything, but this doesn’t mean she must feel that way.

Question 2

Empirically it will not be the worst thing in the world if she appreciates something someone else does: it is very easy to think of worse things. Logically it doesn’t follow that my desire she sees only me means that if she enjoys somebody else’s company it will be the worst thing in the world. It doesn’t help me to hold this belief as it’s unrealistic, meaning I think things will be terrible more than is realistic.

Answer 2

It might be difficult for me to see her enjoying another man’s talents but it’s beyond doubt there are far worse things that happen

Question 3

Empirically speaking I haven’t ceased to be before when she’s enjoyed what another man has done. Logically it makes no sense that that her enjoyment of something can cause me to not exist. It doesn’t help me to think this way as telling myself I’m going to explode only amplifies the negative feelings.

Answer 3

I might feel uncomfortable to see her appreciating another man but I can handle it!

Question 4

Empirically speaking it’s impossible for someone’s talent to affect another’s worth as a human being. Logically it doesn’t make sense that if she values a trait in another that my worth disappears. It is not helpful for me to think in this manner as I get depressed.

Answer 4

Her appreciating somebody else cannot have an affect on my worth. I unconditionally accept myself as a worthy but fallible human being.