attraction & relationships Flashcards

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What do unfulfilled needs lead to

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Psychological and physical pain
Psychosomatic pain
depression and sometimes suicide

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2
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Define loneliness

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Feeling deprived of human connection

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3
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Define intimate loneliness

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lack of partner or best friend

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4
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Define relational loneliness

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Lack of professonal connections (school, work, business, etc.)

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5
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Define collective loneliness

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Lack of group relations

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6
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Define familial loneliness

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Lack of familial connections (estranged, orphaned, loss, etc)

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7
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What are the two ways of combatting loneliness

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Adaptive: friendliness, therapy, group activities, etc.
Maladaptive: Drugs, alcohol, toxic relationships.

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8
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What factors lead to attraction

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Propinquity
Similarity
Reciprocity
Misattribution of Arousal
Warmth and trustworthiness
Attraction & physical appearance
Prestige and attractivness

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9
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Explain propinquity and how it affects attraction

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Close spatial distance is the single greatest predictor of liking. Liking goes up as encounters go up

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10
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Explain similarity and how it affects attraction

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Percieved similarity increases attraction and attraction increases perceived similarity. Both physical and psychological

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Explain reciprocity and how it affects attraction

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people like people who like them. reciprocal self-disclosure.

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12
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How is “playing hard to get” explained with reciprocity in mind

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People want to feel special and unique
Not someone who will fall for anyone
Working to get someone can be rewarding but rejection is a huge turn off.

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Explain misattribution of arousal and how it affects attraction

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High physical arousal in any form can lead to attraction.
High anxiety is shown to result in higher arousal. Couples who engage in adventure sports together report elevated levels of intimacy after activities. Falling in love with kidnapper or an abuser. Refusing to leave toxic relationships.

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14
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Explain warmth and trustworthiness and how it affects attraction

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cues of trust, stability, reliability and long-term intentions = long terjm interest
Short term is the opposite: cues of narcassism, rule-breaking, risk-taking
especially when women rate men

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Explain attraction & physical appearance and how it affects attraction

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Symmetry and proportionality is universally attractive.
Men are more attracive with a strong jaw, cheekbones
Women are more attractive with large eyes and full lips.
Attractive waist-hip ratio: .7 for women, 1.0 for men
Cultural variation for body art, body size, weight, skin colour.

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16
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Explain status and how it affects attraction

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Women rated man in bentley more attractive. Car did not affect mens ratings of women
Women rated man in suit more attractive than same man in Burger King outfit.

17
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What are the two basic challenges of organisms

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Survival (food, growth, health, defence)
Reproduction (aiding of next generation)

18
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What do men and women both want in a partner

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Kindness, intelligence, beauty, creativity, charm, wit, status, wealth, etc.

19
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What do men emphasise more in their needs for a partner

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youth and beauty

20
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what do women emphasize more in their needs for a partner

21
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Why are women more selective and “choosy” about their partners

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There is more at stake, it can cost years of investment if they make a mistake. gestation is 9 months, breastfeeding is physically demanding.

22
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Explain the peacock principle

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Males of many species “show off” to impress females. Humor: men produce more, women judge more. Conspicuous spending: men show off resources especailly when women will notice. Helping behaviour: Men donate far more while on dates.

23
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Explain the male short-term mating strategy

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More access to mates, possibly more offspring, decrease standards

24
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Explain the female short-term mating strategy

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More access to resources, high-quality men, increase standards.

25
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Explain the long-term mating strategy

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Marriage is universal: formal ritual resource exchage, social bonds, families connected.
Creates stable home environment, investment. optimal environment for child success.
Successful children grow up happy, healthy, securely attached, good parenting. They have easier time securing quality mate.

26
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Explain how a stressful environment can affect mating strategies

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Stressful environments motivate short-term strategies: inconsistent food, protection, predictability. Have children earlier, have more children, less time and energy invested because the individual may not live that long.

27
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explain how a stable, low-stress environment can affect mating strategies

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low stress environments motivate long term mating strategies as there is consistent food, protection and predictability so they can afford to wait for the optimal person and invest more time and effort to each of their children of which there will be less of.

28
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what are the two functions served by caregivers

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Safe base for exploration
Secure haven when trouble appears

29
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what is secure attachment

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the most common type of attachment where the person has a positive view of their self and their partner. The partners rely on one another, and their relationship involves trust, reliability and stability

30
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What is anxious attachment

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seen in about 25% of the population, more common in women. These individuals fear that others are inconsistent and fear that others may fail them and as such need lots of reassurance which puts pressure on their partners

31
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What is avoidant attachment

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Seen in about 15% of the population, more common among men. These individuals are more concerned about too much intimacy as relying on others makes them vulnerable and gives them the idea that they need to remain strong and self sufficient and as such can undermine attempts to get closer

32
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What are the traits of a secure-attachment relationship

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less anger, more constructive responses to conflict

33
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What are the traits of an anxious-attachment relationship

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Less control of anger, self-directed anger

34
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What are the traits of an avoidant-attachment relationship

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Hostility, attempt to escape, lack of awareness

35
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What is the main difference between a child-parent relationship and an adult relationship

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child-parent relationship is a one way relationship - parents give while children receive. while adult relationships are reciprocal - both give and receive.

36
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What are the three parts to Sternberg’s triangle theory of love

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Commitment
Intimacy
Passion

37
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Explain the Sternberg triangle over time

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intimacy rise steadily throughout the relationship
Passion spikes early and drops off and remains level throughout
commitment rises slower than intimacy at the start but rises and remains above it as the relationship continues.

38
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What are the four horsemen on the negative spiral in a relationship

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Criticism
Contempt
Defensiveness
Stonewalling

39
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How do you improve upon a negative spiral in a relationship

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Halt the negative spiral - avoid fighting poison with poison and be the bigger person - apologize and de-escalate
Initiate positive spiral - do something unexpected and thoughtful