Assignment Seven

Question 0

The Greek word for “put away” is ——–

Answer 0

Katargeo.

Question 1

Recovering from the effects of growing up in an alcoholic home includes recovering from the —–of “spiritual abuse”.

Answer 1

Scars.

Question 2

Figure 14 – one gives percentages of insanity problems. True or false?

Answer 2

False.

Question 3

And Jeremiah 6:14, the prophet of Jehovah God accused Judah’s false religious leaders of proclaiming a counterfeit peace to the people. True or false?

Answer 3

True.

Question 4

Jeremiah was arrogant and apathetic about the people’s refusal to know the true and living God, and by the sure destruction such a refusal would bring. True or false?

Answer 4

False.

Question 5

The Bible portrays forgiveness as a gift of grace to us from our loving God. True or false?

Answer 5

True.

Question 6

Forgiveness is a supernatural work, not the result of human effort alone. True or false?

Answer 6

True.

Question 7

The substitutionary, atoning, sacrificial death of the Righteous One balanced the scales for all the hopelessly unrighteous who would accept his payment. True or false?

Answer 7

True.

Question 8

Blaming is a necessary part of the pain “fix”.

Answer 8

True.

Question 9

Forgiving a parent seems to be easier if he or she is involved in recovering from their alcoholism. True or false?

Answer 9

True.

Question 10

Many adult children of alcoholics report it is more difficult to forgive nonalcoholic than alcoholic parents. true or false?

Answer 10

True.

Question 11

The biblical basis for reconciliation is mutual acceptance of truth. True or false?

Answer 11

True.

Question 12

The desire for reconciliation should never become an invitation to abuse. True or false?

Answer 12

True.

Question 13

State six guidelines for Biblical godly concepts:

Answer 13

Identify beliefs and mis-beliefs about God’s character.
Assign Bible studies on the attributes of God.
Assign a Bible study on God as the perfect parent.
Assign a Bible study on God’s attitude towards orphans.
Assign books about the attributes of God.
Confront confusion of life’s circumstances and God’s character.

Question 14

List four things that forgiveness is not:

Answer 14

Forgiveness is not excusing. Forgiveness is not a “quick fix.” Forgiveness is not amnesia. Forgiveness is not humanly possible. The benefit – based forgiveness will not produce the personal, relational, and spiritual results of grace – based forgiveness.

Question 15

Genesis 41:51

Answer 15

Joseph named the firstborn Manasseh, for he said, “God has made me forget all my trouble and all my fathers house hold.”

Question 16

Adult children of alcoholics need to learn what four things about blaming others:

Answer 16

Our parents did the best parenting they knew.
Our parents parented through their own experiences from their parents.
Our parents did not set out to hurt us intentionally.
We cannot continue to blame our parents for what we continue to do. Instead we need to take responsibility for ourselves.

Question 17

List four things to consider in forgiving the adult child:

Answer 17

Forgiving sexual sins.
Forgiving parenting sins.
Forgiving the debt collecting. All bitter and unforgiving adult children are debt collectors. Law and unforgiveness say “you owe me; now pay up.”
The solution to self – punishment: forgiveness is the only solution to self – punishment for dishonoring and debt – collecting attitudes towards parents and others including oneself.

Question 18

List 11 guidelines for counseling for forgiveness:

Answer 18

Assign Bible studies on God’s forgiveness.
Meditate on God’s forgiveness.
Assign books on forgiveness. Emphasize the intergenerational benefits of forgiveness.
Assign a Study of the parents. Introduce a “forgiveness contract”. Encourage confession and repentance of past bitterness and “debt collecting.”
List parental acts that need to be forgiven.
Assign the “confronting and forgiving” exercise.
Pray for healing of painful memories. Introduce the concept of “setting your sail for forgiveness.”

Question 19

What are three potential problem areas:

Answer 19

Un-helped helpers.
New age thinking.
Labels.

Question 20

Right thoughts on problems, promise and privilege:

Answer 20

Unhelped helpers: these have never faced their own personal struggles and scars from childhood experiences in dysfunctional families. They are less hopeful helpers because of their own misbeliefs, inaccurate identities, disrespectful relating patterns, and distorted God – concepts. Often their own bitter unforgiveness underlies critical, excepting, and judgemental attitudes which blast rather than bless those who seek their counsel.

New age thinking;
God as you see him can be demonic power and forces of darkness. The spirituality of the 12 step program is not distinctly biblical in nature. Christian adult children of alcoholics have no difficulty understanding that Jesus Christ is there “higher power.” The 12 steps of wholeness provided distinctively Christ – centered program for recovering Christians.
Labels:
Labels are a kind of verbal shorthand. Labels can be limited and simplistic when applied to the complex human beings. We must guard against pasting label over the unique, God-given experience – shaped strengths and struggles of adult children.

An awesome privilege:
We are called to participate in the process of applying the power of God to specific needs in hurting Christians lives.God still uses human participants in the unbinding process of people in the “Lazarus” position of bondage. He provides the power and direction, we participate in the process of freeing Christians still swathed in the bindings of childhood injustices. We are laborers together with God.

Question 21

The 12 steps of wholeness:

Answer 21

1. I now see that of myself, I am powerless, unable to control my life by myself. Romans 7:8; Romans 7:18–19; Romans 3:9–10, 23: Psalm 32:3–7.
2. I now realize that my creator, God the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, can restore me to wholeness in Christ. Psalm 27:4–5; Romans 8:9; Mark 10:26–27; Ezekiel 36:27; Philippians 2:13.
3. I now make a conscious decision to turn my entire will and life over to the care and direction of Jesus Christ as teacher, healer, Savior and Lord. Joshua 1:8–9 John 14:6 Jeremiah 29:11–14; John10:30; Matthew 28:18, 20b; Jeremiah 32:27; Mark 10:27.
4. Having made this decision, I now obey God’s call in Scripture to make a fearless, ethical, moral, and scriptural inventory of my entire life in order to uncover all sins, mistakes, and character defects, and to make a written list of every item uncovered. Psalm 139:23–24; Lamentations 3:40; Romans 8:26-27; Jeremiah 23:24.
5. After completing this inventory I now will to “walk in the light, as he is in the light” by admitting to myself, to God, and to at least one other person in Christ the exact nature of these wrongs. 1John 1:71; Timothy 1:15; Hebrews 9:14; Ephesians 5:13–14; Acts13:38–39; Acts2:37–38; Psalm 119:9–11; James 5:13–16.
6. Having agreed with God about my sinful behavior, I now ask his forgiveness through Christ and openly acknowledge that I am forgiven according to the Scripture. 1John 1:8–9; Psalm 27:13–14; James 4:10; Psalms 118:18,then 17 ; 1John 2:1–2.
7. I now repent (turn away) from all these behaviors in thought, word, and deed and ask God to remove each besetting sin, through Jesus Christ. John 5:14; Ezekiel 18:30–30; 1 John 2:3–6; John 8:10–11; Romans 5–6; 2Corinthians 10:5; Job 11:13–19; Romans 12:1–2; Colossians 3:17.
8. I now make a list of all persons I have harmed in thought, word, and deed, and a list of all persons I believe have harmed me, and I will make amends to all of them.
   Ephesians 4:29–32; Luke 6:31; Leviticus 19:17–18; Hosea 11:1–4; Matthew 5:43–44; Mark 12:31; Ephesians 5:1–2; Matthew 18:15; Matthew 5:9.
9. I now go directly to these persons to forgive and seek forgiveness, reconciliation, restitution, or release whatever and with whom ever possible, unless to do so would cause further harm. Matthew 5:23–24; Isaiah 1:18–20.
10. I now consciously and prayerfully continue to “walk in the light” by unceasingly taking personal inventory of all my temptations and sins, and by keeping a constantly open relationship with God, myself, and other persons. Matthew 26:41; Colossians 3:13; Psalm 4:3–5 James 1:13–15; proverbs 30:8–9; Psalm 55:22 Ephesians 4 22–28; Matthew 6:11– 13; Ephesians 5:15–18; 1Peter 5:6–7.
11. I now continue in regular scripture, study, prayer, worship and fellowship to increase God’s will in my life. Acts2:42; Psalm 89:15; Mark 12:28–33; Joshua1:8; Matthew 6:33; 1Kings 8:56–61; Colossians 3:12–17.
12. Recognizing the impact of God in my life, I now intentionally share these principles and their effect with others as God’s Spirit leads, and will to practice these principles in all areas of my life. Micah 6:8; Galatians 5:1; Ephesians 5:8; Revelation 12:11; Ephesians 6:10–18; Psalm 40:8–10; 2Corinthians 3:17.