Assignment Four Flashcards
All of our symptoms are”feeling diseases” declare Friel and Friel. true or false?
True.
Give the scripture that corroborates the thinking of Epictetus and Ellis.
Proverbs 23:7 “as a man thinks so he is”
Psychologists generally use what three terms for feelings?
Emotion.
Affect.
Feeling.
Genesis chapter 3:4 paints an emotional panorama by stating that “there is a time to weep, And a time to laugh: a time to mourn, and a time to dance” True or false?
False. The verse is from Ecclesiastes 3:4.
Scripture portrays the full panorama of emotions as acceptable when appropriately expressed. True or false?
True.
Recent research with people who repress their emotions suggested there may be a psychological basis for emotional leprosy just as there is for Hansen’s disease. True or false?
True.
Many adult children of alcoholics have lost parts of their emotional selves. True or false?
True.
Cermak and Brown, Gravitz and Bowden, and others have identified avoidance of feelings as a core issue for adult children of alcoholics. True or false?
True.
Claudia Black recommends asking adult children of alcoholics what three questions in the early counseling process?
What are the two or three feelings that are easiest for you to share?
What are the most difficult feelings for you to experience and share?
What do you do to defend yourself against experiencing those difficult feelings?
In the case of the Liz, her feelings were a sign that she was going crazy. True or false?
False.
List 11 ideas that will assist the adult child of alcoholic in their mind renewal:
Review and use some of the counseling strategies presented in Chapter 7. Such as a continual commitment to truth throughout the counseling work. Also, learning about the dynamics of alcohol family systems.
Become familiar with the basic principles of cognitive therapy.
Assign books that teach basic concepts (mind renewal).
Have the counselee list rules and measures that govern their families. Help the counselee see both the present effects of childhood misbeliefs and the need for mind renewal. Emphasize the value of the Bible as the only perfectly unmarred mirror into which we can look to see God, ourselves, and others.
Teach “thought stopping and substitution.” One of the simplest and most effective uses three –by – five cards. On one side of the card, have the counselee write the word stop in large capital letters. On the other side of the card write a Bible verse or passage that refutes the misbelief they are trying to eliminate.
Identify other sources of new messages and beliefs. support groups, good books on the topic, and from the counselor.
Introduce the concept of Learning a new language. Tell the counselee that the counselor is speaking the new language. The Bible speaks it of course as well.
Provide supportive encouragement by the use of Scripture. Romans 15:4 says perseverance and the encouragement of the Scriptures lead to hope.
Introduce the “new family history” assignment. Have adult children of alcoholics begin to reconstruct their family story based on the new truths they are learning.
List ten misbeliefs that are symptomatic of the thinking disorders typically characterizing adult children of alcoholics.
I caused it, therefore I should control and or cure it.( the alcoholism of the parent).
I caused my parents to treat me as they did.
If I trust anyone, I will be hurt.
It is too awful;
I am hopelessly ruined.
I don’t have the right to get better if my family isn’t getting better.
I don’t need any help from anyone. Now that I see my issues, I must change mediately.
I must get cured and be perfect.
I cannot deny anyone anything.
I have to be in control.
Discuss the continuum of acceptable feelings in functional families:
The continuum of acceptable feelings in functional families runs from despair, or extremely unpleasant, through average/pleasant to euphoria or extremely pleasant. For alcoholic families, the continuum runs from just passed average/pleasant to euphoria or extremely pleasant. Despair and unpleasant feelings cannot be expressed. Regarding the probable feelings in alcoholic familys, the feelings run from despair/extremely unpleasant, through pleasant to halfway between pleasant and euphoria.
